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Hello everybody! My husband have decided that after what feels like forever in talking about it we would finally jump in to this wonderful world. We have been taking our time and not overwhelming ourselves or letting it completely consume our relationship with each other. We met a couple online and after 2 weeks of taking we ended up meeting for dinner and hitting a club. This being or very first sex club. As much as I said I wasn’t nervous man we’re my palms sweating as we got out of the car. My first lesson learned.... I dont want to ever go back to this club on single male night :0 single men were getting a tad bit too close and making us all very uncomfortable. The bonus was that it gave us a chance to really talk to the other couple we went with. And the 4 of us have hit it off unbelievably well. There is quite a distance between where we live so it will help to ensure we take it slow. We are however talking in a group chat all the time. About life, the weather and also but not only sex. We live in Toronto Canada and I feel like I can’t find a lot of the more low key swingingly lifestyle here. Everything seems to be big and over the top. And not really what I’m hoping to start off with. Even the club we went to was at the other end of the city But I guess as time goes on maybe my eyes will widen a bit? I’m assuming I wont see any billboards that say “swingers party here!” Lol I can say that as my husband and I have decided to take this leap our relationship couldn’t be better. Is this normal? Like sex twice a day and can’t keep our eyes off one another. Any advice for a new couple would be great!

There have been times when we are at parties, saw a couple and thought, "no way"! But, since we're at a party we get to spend considerable time talking to them and getting to know them. Then, they become attractive to us and we play. For this reason, we don't turn down offers online to meet up. If things work out great - if not, oh well - move on. Also, my personal definition of sexy and attractive has changed since entering the LS. I've now had sex with women I would not have looked at pre LS. Same for the wife.

We work out, we eat right but we still have extra padding in the mid-section. We are not obese but we are not hard bodies, we are the average couple. Many exclude us without ever getting to know us. The ones that get to know us really enjoy our company and playtime together.

That's another good approach. My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all, so we do oral and vaginal. It's all down to what works best for your group.

Men are flattered that a woman wants to have sex with them, so in reality she's in control. Just let the guys know that it is a "Don't contact me, I'll call you," arrangement. It's like clothes in the closet, you may not wear it often, but it's good to have it available.

Interesting, when we're in an MFM situation with one of our other play couples, we usually split the woman along the two other axes. We guys each take a hole, but one is not her mouth. Instead we DP her, one in her pussy one in her ass. Also each guy takes one breast for himself. We're all right handed, so the guy in front plays with her left tit and the guy behind her right.

We do MFMs, it's very pleasant for my wife to be pleasured by two men at the same time. The first episode or two may be a little odd, but pretty soon you'll find your rhythm.

It's a good idea, especially if you are getting frustrated with the work that goes into couple swapping. Just be aware that it's the exact opposite of looking for a couple. Advertise for a single guy and you will be flooded quickly. The tough part is weeding out the fakes and flakes and finding the gem in the pile.

Yeah, that's most of our MFM experience too. Our standard was usually find a guy, she flirts, he is encouraged to touch, eventually he takes one side of her (often her lower half) and I take the other... swap sides as desired. It's fun.

We love single males. Lately we have picked them up at the beach or at the pool at the resort. After some small talk and flirting, I'll ask them to apply suntan lotion to my tits. It's a fun way to break the ice. This weekend the guy was incredibly sexy - he knelt in front of me and as he rubbed my tits his cock got hard. He was in the perfect position that the tip gently touched my opening. We immediately went to our cabin and he and my husband spot roasted me for over an hour. We love MMF.

That's what I do.. it's great

Best advice is to just go with no expectations other than having a fun night out together. Do that, and you can't go wrong! Have you talked about what went wrong the last time, and what you are going to do differently this time? Swinging is sort of an up and down thing and takes a lot of patience. When it's good, it can be really really good. But when it's not, it's easy to get frustrated and turned off with the whole idea. And, to be honest, the newer you are at it, the more likely your experiences will fall into that latter category. That's why it is important to not have expectations, that just makes the let down even harder if things don't go as well as they could. Good luck, hope you have a great time!

Sorry folks, we fit into this pet peeve category. I used to be much more fit until kids came, gym less frequently, the back and knee injury has led to all time high on the scale. So yep, sexy curvy wife and bit of a gut on hubby (seen much better and much worse). We aren’t chasing hard bodies, not would we kick them out of bed but we tend to migrate toward other mom and dad body types for the reasons above.

Is that because your wife likes to build a connection? My wife isn't as into a one night stand... not because she's looking for love, but she needs a little more than physical attraction to sleep with someone.

It was discussed recently in the context of another thread, but if your post or response is longer than a couple of sentences, it’s wise to compose in a word processor or text pad — somewhere you can save your work — and then copy and paste to the Swingers Board forum.

If a couple can't discuss ANYTHING without fear of evoking anger, communication is the problem. Explore this issue together. It's not just sex; you probably don't communicate well in other matters. If your wife never initiates sex, there is probably something you need to learn. Please change your screen name. This board learned twenty years ago that political discussions (or politically-based screen names) have no place in swinging and are not welcome here.

The impression I get is that your wife did it because you wanted it, and didn't really enjoy it. She said "she would not do it again." Respect that. Tell her if she ever wants to try something like that you'd be happy to, but that you respect her wishes. Don't push, and definitely don't try to 'convince her.'

That's when I like to stick my dick in lol Me and my gf do the occasional MMF creampie party. There's nothing hotter than going to have sex with your girl and watching another guys load drip out and all over the lips as you're about to stick it. I like for her to ride on top so it drips down my shaft and off my balls. She wants to try it with 3+ guys now. We have only ever done threesomes. One time during a foursome with one of her friends, since she was the only one on BC, we agreed to let him finish in her. He was having sex with is gf and right when he was about to cum, he quickly jumped over. I had to take out my penis quickly since me and my gf were having sex, he put his in and came. Then when he was done me and my gf went back to having sex. My gf is really tight so it helps with the lube if she's already taken a load inside her. I prefer it too. After I cum though, her V and my package are just covered in all of our cum. We do this often and BC working great! There are only 2 ppl we have threesomes with but they are both heavy cummers. We fill her up nice and deep, every last drop, all the way, everytime, until our sacks are dry. She leaks for hours after were done. She also enjoys making out with me while getting filled up so the other guy tells us when he's about dump his load and we make out.

two guys five women...I had a great time!! Ended when my wife needed me...sigh...the things you do for love.

That's an interesting statistic, Chicup. Can you tell us who did the research? We too often suppose that the mere act of making an activity illegal will aid in prevention. For 6,000 years of recorded history man has tried to keep his fellow man from getting high in one way or another. It has never worked and is not working today. All we've done is create tax-free industries. If you know a hooker, drug dealer, or hit-man ask him/her if he/she pays taxes on his/her income. Alura