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Hello everybody! My husband have decided that after what feels like forever in talking about it we would finally jump in to this wonderful world. We have been taking our time and not overwhelming ourselves or letting it completely consume our relationship with each other. We met a couple online and after 2 weeks of taking we ended up meeting for dinner and hitting a club. This being or very first sex club. As much as I said I wasn’t nervous man we’re my palms sweating as we got out of the car. My first lesson learned.... I dont want to ever go back to this club on single male night :0 single men were getting a tad bit too close and making us all very uncomfortable. The bonus was that it gave us a chance to really talk to the other couple we went with. And the 4 of us have hit it off unbelievably well. There is quite a distance between where we live so it will help to ensure we take it slow. We are however talking in a group chat all the time. About life, the weather and also but not only sex. We live in Toronto Canada and I feel like I can’t find a lot of the more low key swingingly lifestyle here. Everything seems to be big and over the top. And not really what I’m hoping to start off with. Even the club we went to was at the other end of the city But I guess as time goes on maybe my eyes will widen a bit? I’m assuming I wont see any billboards that say “swingers party here!” Lol I can say that as my husband and I have decided to take this leap our relationship couldn’t be better. Is this normal? Like sex twice a day and can’t keep our eyes off one another. Any advice for a new couple would be great!

We do MFMs, it's very pleasant for my wife to be pleasured by two men at the same time. The first episode or two may be a little odd, but pretty soon you'll find your rhythm.

That's what I do.. it's great

Inside me of course.

We are a bi couple who plays with other couples & single straight males. I present myself as Bi & when we discuss it with the other folks I state that it is not a necessity and we only do what everyone is comfortable with.

If you think the sex is picking up steam now, wait until the reclamation fucking after you actually swap.

Sounds like you are off to a great start! Successfully getting into swinging, and reaping those rewards that you already seeing, has a lot to do with how one goes about it, and you're doing things right. My advice would be don't let any one thing, positive or negative, sway you far one way or another. Example being the single guys at clubs. Instead of letting that turn you off to the whole thing, you just rolled with it and learned from it. That's the way to do it, never get too up or too down over any one night or one thing that happened. After a little time experiencing different things, you will have found the swinging style that works best for you and you can kind of focus in on that. It's always awesome to hear from someone new about how things are going well and the positives it is bringing to the relationship. Those of us that have been doing this a little longer well remember when we were new and experiencing the same things and it's nice to get to relive that again through someone else's eyes and feelings!

What's in it for me as the husband? Simple, I like seeing her happy and having fun. What's in it for her? Simple, she likes seeing me happy and having fun. It really comes down to just that, and it doesn't matter if the scenario is a threesome or with another couple.

njbm, it's entirely typical. MFMs in the lifestyle are quite common.

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...and never go to a club on a night that allows single men (unless that is what you are looking for).

My wife and I have been having incredible sex, all the time since we made the leap... it's brought us closer outside the bedroom as well

Glad you had a good time on your first visit. "As much as I said I wasn’t nervous man we’re my palms sweating as we got out of the car." Yeah, that's typical. Over time the palms won't sweat so much, but if you ever get to the point where your heart doesn't start pumping as you walk to the door, let me know. Decades in, I still get that feeling! "I can say that as my husband and I have decided to take this leap our relationship couldn’t be better. Is this normal? Like sex twice a day and can’t keep our eyes off one another." That just means you're doing it right! There's an old saying that the more sex you have, the more sex you want. Welcome to the club!

That's another good approach. My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all, so we do oral and vaginal. It's all down to what works best for your group.

Interesting, when we're in an MFM situation with one of our other play couples, we usually split the woman along the two other axes. We guys each take a hole, but one is not her mouth. Instead we DP her, one in her pussy one in her ass. Also each guy takes one breast for himself. We're all right handed, so the guy in front plays with her left tit and the guy behind her right.

Yeah, that's most of our MFM experience too. Our standard was usually find a guy, she flirts, he is encouraged to touch, eventually he takes one side of her (often her lower half) and I take the other... swap sides as desired. It's fun.

We love single males. Lately we have picked them up at the beach or at the pool at the resort. After some small talk and flirting, I'll ask them to apply suntan lotion to my tits. It's a fun way to break the ice. This weekend the guy was incredibly sexy - he knelt in front of me and as he rubbed my tits his cock got hard. He was in the perfect position that the tip gently touched my opening. We immediately went to our cabin and he and my husband spot roasted me for over an hour. We love MMF.

That reminds me of a time my parents may have realized we were swinging. We were building a new house and my parents met us at the ten acres to see it. While we were there, the contractor and his wife pulled up. And, as a matter of fact, the contractor and his wife were play partners of ours. We were talking about our house and the contractor suggested doing the vaulted ceiling in the living room a certain way that he was doing on another house he was building. We decided to go look. The contractor suggested that my wife ride with him and his wife with me so we wouldn't get lost if separated. Yea, right! Ha! Now I don't know what the contractor and my wife were doing on the ride but his wife was giving a great blow job. When we got to the other house, I could tell my parents were very suspicious of why we traded wives for the ride over.

I don't think the size of the city is as important as the cover story you build. It doesn't have to be based on lies. Become friends, go on picnics with your children, talk to each other at church, bring different crockpots to the Chili Supper. Sit together at football games. If anybody should ask if y'all are swingers (Nobody will.) laugh like hell! Claim to be one of the most boring people in small-town America.