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Why? Everybody who’s ever taken up ANYthing — golf, piano, beekeeping, swinging — was a newbie at one point.

As I've stated in previous threads, my wife and I are very new to the lifestyle. We are only really interested in hotwife MFM type encounters and have at 2 threesomes so far with one guy. We are talking to others but have yet to act on them. The question my wife has is how many play partners do most of you keep around at a given time? Do you try and limit it to a certain few? Or just go with the flow as it comes? She loves talking and getting to know the potential matches, but also does not want to set herself up to juggle too many guys and be overwhelmed trying to keep up. Just curious how everyone else does it. Thanks!

The wife and I went to our first club/resort this past weekend. The place has on site rooms/pool as well as a nightclub and playroom. I told my wife prior to going.. I'm not sure 100% what to expect but I feel like Ive been waiting my whole life for this weekend. Neither of us has ever done anything close to this but I knew deep down that we were going to have fun.When I arrived at the place I knew I was home.. LOL Spent the afternoon out by the pool/hot tub. Ive never been to a nude anything but I dove right in with that and adjusted rather quickly lol. My wife was a little more reserved and decided to stay in a bathing suit although I had her breast exposed pretty quick. LOL Later that night we did the nightclub for a bit then headed for the group playroom. Just like I imagined I picked a spot and fucked my wife's brains out in front of a bunch of strangers.Almost like it was second nature We both LOVED the experience. We didn't play with anyone else etc.. Just enjoyed the whole experience together. A couple of things I was curious about in general.. Like I said before fucking in front of people came quite easy to me and my wife was was certainty able to relax enough to enjoy herself thoroughly. Did the first time for some of you in a setting like this seem oddly familiar as well? lol Second question is.. After reflecting on the night and our time in the playroom area one thing both of us kind of took note of in hindsight was that there seemed to be more couples watching than fucking. In the group area you are not allowed to wear clothes(except lingerie etc) so everyone is generally walking around in towels. At first I assumed that everyone walking through the playroom was looking for a spot to fuck but later when I thought about it I didn't see as many bed spaces taken up as I did people. It was almost like alot of couples were just there to watch. I have absolutely no problem with that but was just wondering if any of you notice the same at the places where you go.

Just realize that finding a bisexual single woman is not going to be easy. It does happen, but there is a reason that they are called unicorns...they're about as common as a unicorn. This is also why lots of couples end up looking for other couples. Mainly because it is easier to find another couple for the women to be able to play with each other. We wish you luck, but it will require some work on your part to find one.

We wouldn't turn down what was basically an advanced makeout session under the right circumstances, but I think you should both be honest with yourselves about the possibility that once you get to that point, hands do have a way of finding themselves down pants. Your wife probably realizes this intuitively and is hesitant to acknowledge it, but it's probably worth making sure, between the two of you, that she knows you won't be judgmental about it. We tried to set some "solo soft swinging" rules for when we're apart for business travel and even in the first conversations, quickly realized the barriers between kissing and handjobs/fingering are almost nonexistent, and once a cock is out and tongues are already mingling, oral just happens.

You don't ask, you tell. Take her to dinner and in a romantic but nonsexual moment, you tell your wife that you love her and that she is free to pursue her sexual fantasies in any way she wants. It would make you happy for her to be happy. Since you are open to her being with a man or woman, there shouldn't be a problem with whatever she chooses. Just be prepared to accept if to start she wants something that you don't think is perfect in your mind. Letting your wife be in total control and with your support and no criticism. Enjoy the journey.

Well, I"m going to assume you've already had that conversation with your wife, and she's probably saying, "Yeah, in the right circumstances I might do that." If that's not true, and she's not to that point, wait until you get there. But, if she is, I'll try to answer your question, 'Are you ready?' I think the two of you are ready to take it to the next step. Which is, find a playmate, male or female, and invite them into a make out session with your wife. Your wife should feel perfectly free at that time to go as far as *she* feels comfortable with. Make sure she knows you'll support her whatever her decision is. Then, let what happens happen. Best of luck.

It depends on your swinging style. If you prefer ONS type of encounters for your 3somes, there are no limits. But if your wife is like myself that prefers regular partners that I connect with, I limit it to 2 (in addition to my SO that I live with) for time-management sustainability :-)

That's how it was for us as well when we first started and my wife was the only one doing the extracurricular fucking, two ex-boyfriends. I wanted her then more than I ever wanted a woman.

My guess is that this has been covered, and if it is redundant, let me know: why do I have a fantasy to watch my fantastic spouse have sex with another man? I understand that a lot of us hubbies want to be observers and participants, but aren't we supposed to be jealous and exclusive? I, for one, want to have my spouse be satisfied to the utmost, and that is the key. But wondering about others. Thanks.

What is the wife going to do with the male? Only touch above the waist? We did that once with a couple. The female just wanted her boobs played with while the male half got nothing. It was a waste of our time and one of the reasons we now play with full swap couples only.

Congratulations on your breakthrough! Our first time was the same as yours, i.e. it left us with no post-swap bad feelings either.

Inside, always. And I much prefer in my pussy than my ass or mouth, although I will eagerly swallow if that's where the moment happens. When he cums in my vagina sperm keep swimming further in and I can keep a living part of a man (or two or three, or several times, four) alive inside of me for days, which is a real turn-on for me. I even think about having another man's sperm still in me when I am having sex days later. In my stomach or ass that isn't going to happen, I assume those little confused swimmers meet a quick demise. After Clair got accidentally pregnant with hubby, I decided to get pregnant as quickly as possible so we could have our babies as close as possible. Hubby, boyfriend Red, and I agreed that I would go off birth control and let the fastest sperm win. It was the most sexually charged intercourse I have ever had.

" " ... that's a keeper... Thanks! I get called upon to fix the computer of many family & friends. Mostly run Linux now. Have lots of "Techie" gadgets, and love fooling around with that stuff. Most of my books are digital now (including an audio collection). "The IT Crowd" (Netflix) is a favorite show. Favorite PC game? ... Sim City! I'm an engineer and stuff. ... and I identify as Poly too.... Hummmmmmm But "Yes"... have not run across that many Geeks in the LS (through the usual channels anyway).

That's another good approach. My wife, however, has no interest in anal sex at all, so we do oral and vaginal. It's all down to what works best for your group.

It’s either feast or famine for us. Usually 2-3 couples interested at once or months long dry spells. We are infrequent players because of work and family commitment so rarely more than once be playmate at a time.

After over 20 years of marriage and a waning sex drive, we decided to try swinging. We weren't particularly concerned with the moral side, but definitely concerned with the health side. We had decided if it was worth doing, then we wanted to enjoy "everything"...meaning bare and intimate. We met a couple on line, then socially 3 times to find out if they would be compatible with both of us and to develop "trust." They had been swinging over 20 years and with over 40 other couples; but all long term and all married couples. Thus, after 3 social meetings we felt as reasonably "safe" as we could expect to be (from STDs) and asked them to be our first. At the time they were with just one other couple and had been with them all 20 of their swinging years so we weren't worried about that couple. Our first time was in separate rooms and it turned out to be wonderful. So wonderful in fact, that the girls made a date for the very next week. We have seen them every week ever since. She was only my 7th woman ever and he was only my wife's 3d man ever. And it was bare, lasted about 3 hours, and we were all "spent." Once you do it, you want more of it. I fear we have become addicted to it, but that is a good problem.

You have started the conversation with this couple, you say that you like them, you should continue to develop the relationship and not worry about the dress size issue. I looked at a couple's profile for months and months thinking, "if I send them a note, they'll both fall off of their chairs and die laughing." No such thing happened. The are now among our best friends. Welcome back to the Swingerboard, by the way. Hope we will see you around a lot. Michael