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Crying? As in tears running down the face crying? And fighting? As in yelling at each other and calling each other names fighting? Jeez Louise! We talked it over and think you did as well as you could have done. Saying you were sorry would have made it sound as if you did something wrong. Saying "Thank you" would have just led the husband to yell at you about thanking him for doing his wife. Offering to help would have just put you in the middle of it, and really, what could you have done to help when they just weren't ready for this ... or at least the husband wasn't? You COULD HAVE told them on your way out the door that they're not ready, but that would have been stating the obvious. So just leaving and keeping quiet was your only real recourse. There *is* a lesson in this for YOU, however. If you're ever offered another opportunity like this one, make sure that this won't be the couple's first time doing a MFM, or that they've at least had some prior full swap experience.

Another vote for Trapeze. It really sets the bar very high and we have never been to a club that holds a candle to it. It's worth the trip! Every night is slightly different, but they are all great nights. Their "slower" Sundays are still better than any other club.

Wow, that's just horrible. Getting up, leaving quietly and letting them deal with their own drama sounds like the best possible move in a bad situation.

Caliente can be fun if you run into compatible people. Doesn’t always happen. Trapeze is one of the best swing clubs. One of our first swinging experiences happened there.

Part of the fun of having sex with other people is exploring what they like, and how they like it. My wife and I are pretty much open to anything, but we are extremely sensitive to what others like and don't like. We like the variety, even if it's something we wouldn't do every day. Aggressiveness is one of those things. My wife isn't particularly aggressive, but does it for one guy whose wife thinks it's "sick." I've been on both sides of it with different women; it's just fun seeing how they get off, even if ass-slapping isn't my thing.

Well again....it reminds me of a line from Goldie Hawn in a movie.....”we’re not prostitutes....we’re housewives...we give it away!” Well, not really. Every one has a line they will not cross. And like many lines it isn’t always straight. I am one that believes that with some guidelines and licensing if you want to do this for fun or money you should be allowed to make that choice. The claim is it is the oldest profession in the world....I expect it is. In the US we have peculiar double standards....especially when it comes to sex.

I have a drone. I’m a gamer from the 1980s on to present. I actually DO have Star Wars costumes. Like, movie accurate costumes. How’s that for geeky? ??

I'm still an IT pro, I watched Star Trek when it was on network TV (no way to record TV back then), had my first computer when I was 16 (hacked my first site later that same year), still remember the first time I saw Star Wars. I don't have any costumes, but I do have a Star Wars jacket. We don't have a living room...it's been turned into a library. Print will always be better than digital. Also, just got a 1973 pinball machine that shares the library. I don't have a single drone...I have several. After watching the video I guess I'm a nerd. Not only did I know what a Venn diagram, I use them more times than I want to admit.

You never know it is real until the door opens. Stuff happens particularly in The Lifestyle. If it comes even to a meet and greet I ask for a number for texts for last minute changes. If not, then I am careful not to drive an hour.

God, it's amazing how my views change over time. I had to reread what I wrote back in 2007. Not at all my views now. Admittedly, I'm a flip-flopper. I agree that most prostitutes have no other choice what their profession will be. While I don't have a nasty attitude towards them or their profession, I know I couldn't do it. Now that we've played with several different couples, I get to choose who we'll play with. I don't want them choosing me without recourse. There is nothing wrong with prostitution as long as it's done willingly. I don't have any ill will toward someone who's been with a prostitute. In fact, a lot of married couples break their FMF cherry with a prostitute according to one of the workers at the Bunny Ranch. If this is true, so be it. They are in a controlled atmosphere, where no untoward problems would occur. It's legal and consensual. I would probably be more curious as to their experience with a prostitute more than repulsed. Would I play with them if they'd been with a prostitute -- if they meet our criteria, sure. How many couples do we play with regularly privy us to their entire sexual history? How do we know that someone we've already played with hasn't visited a brothel before they've played with us? We have no way of knowing unless we ask them, and that's just not important to us. There are pros to playing with a legal and legitimate brothel. Prostitutes are at least tested regularly for STD's. They always use condoms. How many people that we've played with can we say that about?