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We have a pool and a hot tub in our backyard with a privacy fence all around it so nobody can see in. We always go in the pool/hot tub naked. Our rule is: No Kids, No Clothes. LOL. And considering the kids are grown and out of the house now, that leaves very little clothing on all together. Sometimes we have lifestyle friends come over for a pool day and usually everyone is naked. Sometimes it's purely swimming and barbecuing and other times some adult fun is mixed in with it all. Either way, naked pool day and skinny dipping is one of our fav things.

We both are bi, and enjoy watching each other in a bi-bi situation. Do you share this?

Is there a certain body part of potential partners that can be a the make or break on whether you are attracted or not? I ask this because the wife Bunny has a big one. Smiles and teeth. If you dont have good teeth and a smile she just cant find attraction. It is one of the first things she looks for when we look at profiles. We pass so many by if she cant see a good smile. It is so important to her that once we had a couple that things went great online and we set up a meet. Once she saw his teeth in person all sexual intrest left her. So we are curious if there are others who have similar quirks, as Bunny calls it.

If you close your eyes a BJ is just a BJ , lol.

Mrs Doc and I started dating in 2002 and began to investigate swinging in 2003. The first club we visited was TJ's in Central Pa about 20 miles NW of Harrisburg. For those of who've never been to the place, it looks like a run down biker bar from the street. Inside is a nice dining room, bar and dance floor, very clean playrooms and the biggest indoor hot tub I've ever seen. We looked into the room and saw dozens of people naked in the warm, bubbling water. After dinner and a few adult beverages we decided to give it a try. It was the first time Mrs Doc ever skinny dipped. I had tried it once on my honeymoon with my 1st wife 18 years before. Since then, we've made numerous trips to Haulover Beach, 4 trips to Desire and now have a private pool and spa that is fabric free. We love being naked in the sun, in the water and with friends.

New Jersey has a nude beach in Sandy Hook. There are a number of beaches there and there is one that is clothing optional. This is not a sex beach and anyone having sex there will be prosecuted. Going for a swim in the ocean took getting used to and making sure places on your body that normally don’t exposed to sun are protected is very important. For me the first time getting undressed caused anxiety even though everyone else was nude. I will say I was most likely a gawker at first. Be aware not everyone looks great nude but this beach is more about being free. We have gone to this beach a number of times and we have out of town friends that ask to go there. Nude bathing in public took getting used to. I am much less self conscious about my own body, like who cares. On the other side my eyes wander and looking at great bodies (not that many) is hard to look away. Try having a conversation without glancing down lol

If your definition of true love is that it must be limited to only one person, and that it (by definition) precludes feeling love for anyone else, then yes, I can see polyamory being confusing, because you've defined it out of existence. However, for many of us, we've let go of that definition (or never held it to begin with), for us love is simply something we feel, and it's just an emotion (or set of emotions), not a set of limitations. With that view, polyamory becomes much easier to understand. The classic saw when answering this question, is to ask: Imaging yourself as a parent, with multiple children, which is the one you love? Most parents would tell you, "That is an absurd question, I love them all." Polyamory is a lot like that. D

My husband and I have seen a couple of situations with couples where the husband was the one to bring up the whole idea of swinging. They, in some cases, are relentless in trying to convince the wife to try it, that it could be great for their relationship, that this it’s only fun sex between consenting adults and they have nothing to worry about. So, the wife eventually yet reluctantly gets worn down and finally agrees to give it a go. Hubby goes first and goes to town having a great time. Then the wife goes, gets into it realizing her husband was right that it could be fun and is seeing exactally that. She let’s go of any inhibitions she had and begins to obviously enjoy the new man she is playing with. It’s at that point the husband comes to the realization his wife is all in, not what he expected at all, and only then does he realize the mistake he made as well as his inability to handle the fact that his wife is actually very much enjoying herself. Then the fight begins. We have heard things said such as, “well you didn’t have to like it that much did you?, and “oh so I see you think this guy is better than me” and my personal favorite, “I don’t understand how you orgasm so quickly, you never have one that fast when we are having sex!” You know what they say, be careful what you ask for.

Napoleon, thank you for your reply, I do appreciate all replies, views and perspectives on this issue. The good thing with my relationship with my wife is we are very big on communication with each other and we are both brutally honest with how we feel about things. We do not hold back and we never "take one for the team" as they say. I would rather my wife, and she feels exactally the same about this, tell the absolute truth about how she feels about something regardless of the issues and I want her to be the same with me. I would much rather feel, "well I did not like that answer but at least you did not lie to me". Neither one of has ever expected the other to do anything they were not comfortable with. One of the worst things that could happen we both feel we need to avoid at all cost is learning from the other one after something happens, "I really did not want to do that but I did it because I wanted you to be happy". That would be incredibly upsetting for either of us to learn after the fact. I do appreciate everyone taking the time to share their thoughts and experiences on this topic and would encourage other to please continue sharing theirs as well. Thank you.

I would say it's a question of seeing love not as a single token that may only be given to one person, but as a limitless well... you can't run out of love, because the more you love, the more love you have. We've been socialized to see romantic love as an absolute and limited thing. That, as you say, you can only love one person with all your heart and soul. That there is only one True Love somewhere out there for you... a soulmate. For some people, perhaps that is true and is what they need. In general, however, humans are capable of loving more than one romantic partner throughout their lifetimes. A romantic relationship ends with one partner, you eventually find love with another. Having loved before doesn't diminish your ability to love your new partner. In fact, it may enhance it because, having loved, you understand love better. Polyamory embraces the idea that, for some, you don't have to lose the first partner to find love with another. Likewise, loving one does not diminish your ability to love others. The more you love, the better you understand what it is to love, the more love you have to give. Your love, your heart, your soul, grows with each love to embrace all loves.

I agree with Gold on AFF. You hit the drama jackpot with that couple. This hobby is not for the faint of heart. If there were no big red flags waving when you met for drinks, you did nothing wrong.

No one can advise you on this. Everyone has their morals, standards, inhibitions and everything else that aids in these decisions. In my opinion, this would be like you taking one for the team. If you're cool with that, go for it. If the whole situation is too sketchy for you, let her know.

Holly smoke !!!! That must have been awful for you . By what you say , you did nothing wrong . Sounds to me like the husband maybe talked his wife into it but reality kicked in when he saw it for real .. or they used swinging as a way to “fix” a marriage ?

Crying? As in tears running down the face crying? And fighting? As in yelling at each other and calling each other names fighting? Jeez Louise! We talked it over and think you did as well as you could have done. Saying you were sorry would have made it sound as if you did something wrong. Saying "Thank you" would have just led the husband to yell at you about thanking him for doing his wife. Offering to help would have just put you in the middle of it, and really, what could you have done to help when they just weren't ready for this ... or at least the husband wasn't? You COULD HAVE told them on your way out the door that they're not ready, but that would have been stating the obvious. So just leaving and keeping quiet was your only real recourse. There *is* a lesson in this for YOU, however. If you're ever offered another opportunity like this one, make sure that this won't be the couple's first time doing a MFM, or that they've at least had some prior full swap experience.

I agree. Even when we're doing pussy and anal DP, we men have said that we can feel the contours of other guy's cock pretty well, especially the head, and the movement. An exciting reminder of what you're both doing with her.

Our home is private and clothing optional from the front door back. We have a pool. Weather permitting, there is daily skinny dipping, by somebody or another....! (Or as my wife's sign says, "We don't skinny dip anymore, we chunky dunk....")

Our skinny dipping activities aren't as awesome as some of the ones mentioned above but it was fun for us. Back when we lived in the same town as Mrs two4you's mom, we'd head over for a 10:00pm swim about once a week in the summer. She had close neighbors that definitely could have seen what was going on if we had the lights on, but we enjoyed our quiet time in the dark pool. It was always a great way to end what had usually been a hot day. We paid for all the chemicals and upkeep, so Mom didn't really give a damn what we did.

Hi Glida! I'm a nudist & I LOVE it! I had been getting invited to a nudist resort for 10 years & always declined saying "I don't want to see myself naked, much less anyone else!" Finally I decided to give it a shot & my only regret is not doing it a decade earlier! After about 35 seconds of my arrival I was naked feeling free, liberated & natural! I met all sorts of wonderfully kind people of all shapes & sizes. I'm a rather curvy, busty gal so when I'm clothed many people talk only to my chest. The most interesting thing I discovered was that more people spoke to me while I was naked, not my boobs. I was astounded so I asked one of my new friends why this was. He told me that when I'm clothed he had to wonder what I looked like naked. While naked he saw "the goods" & could instead focus on learning about me. How wonderful that was! The one question I'm always asked is "Aren't the just a bunch of erect dicks walking around?" Well I've been going for about 4 years & I have only seen that happen once. He simply excused himself, wrapped a towel around his waist & went to take a dip in the pool. No one even seemed to notice. I was at the beach one day & a young girl (9 or 10 maybe) was playing in the sand. She was looking for someone to play with so I sat in the sand & helped her build a castle. She was completely free, liberated & natural, not caring one bit that we were both naked. We had fun building her castle, playing in the water, all with her parents laying on chairs nearby. It was a family, friendly resort with no overt sexual activity allowed (behind closed doors only) so it was a completely natural & welcoming environment. The American Association for Nudist Recreation (AANR) has a terrific website with a resort locator that should be helpful to you. You can find resorts in your area simply by entering your zip code. Visit it at aanr.com. Obviously I highly recommend visiting a nude beach! I've never felt anyone was just looking at me, even as a single gal. I simply felt free, liberated & natural. Enjoy it! After all it is how we came into this world & how we'll go out so why not spend most of our life that way!

I see nothing in the OP's question that is cuckolding-like. Everyone in this instance is playing together. By my guiding Mr. Fun into his playmates playparts, it's a SHARED experience. If he were gliding my playmate into my playparts, it would be a SHARED experience. Folks who play in the same room enjoy watching their partners with their playmates as much as they enjoy playing with their own playmates. My guess is that the OP was wondering if it were weird for him to be touching another cock as he were putting it into his SO. Men tend to me more homophobic, especially when they're new to the lifestyle. After you've had a few experiences playing four on a bed, most people get over the occasional touch or bump and know that being able to "give" a man to his woman in a physical sense (i.e., actually guiding another's cock into his woman) has nothing to do with his desire, nor no desire, to play with another man. Parts are parts.