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Unlike 30 years ago, Im happy to have one orgasm per session. I recognized awhile ago that my recovery time was getting longer and the 2nd orgasm most times didn't happen. At the same time, my wife was fully exploring her multi-orgasmic abilities. As a result, I've kind of retrained myself as a lover to spend way more time on foreplay and once boinking starts to not allow myself to go over the edge until she's had multiple orgasms or until she's squirted. For me, giving that kind of pleasure over an extended play time is way better than a quick fuck, a nut and a nap. I DO however, miss being 25 and able to cum 2-3 times in an evening. If I knew then what I know now…….

It all depends for us. When we have foursomes we normally play in the same room. We enjoy the sounds and sights of watching each other. Alos, it seems that most of our partners enjoy same room as well. When my wife has a lover over, we both prefer that I stay in the room with them, watching first and then taking part as they begin to slow down. But we sometimes get in moods where we'd rather be off by ourselves, and we're both fine with it if it turns out that way. And if our partners want it that separate rooms, we almost always agree.

Alura is correct, as usual. The medical information was highly supportive of circumcision a half-century ago, and continues to support the additional income generated despite scientific and general knowledge that indicates circumcision is not helpful and may be harmful to the boy/man. Not knowing about female genital mutilation? Widely practiced, particularly in the Muslim world. I am not circumcised and I am also not "unclean."

I agree with you 100%. If a procedure is done to improve your wellbeing, which was and is the intention of circumcisions, I don’t feel that is mutilation. When a procedure is done to have a negative effect on ones health, physical and mental in that case, absolutely mutilation.

Did you hear about the doctor who collected the foreskins from circumcisions? When asked why, he said he planned to sew them together to make a wallet. When asked what good would that be, he said, "when I rub it, it will become a briefcase".

Many insurance companies no longer cover circumcising and if desired is done outpatient now. My understanding of the history in America was that during one of the wars infection was an issue, more likely basic hygiene. Hence the practice of circumcising infants started. Several nurses I know have told me one of the worst things they have seen is an infection there on an adult male.

Swap partners, kiss and see what happens.

PaDoc, couldn't have said it better . . .

>>>Seems like some women aren’t trained My wife decided when she got to college - she was still a virgin - that she needed to train herself for sex. Luckily, she was assigned to a single room. She read up on the subject, particularly about women's anatomy, and using her fingers and various accouterments, including vegetables of the proper shape, she learned how to have an orgasm. She says that she quickly learned her body and her reactions and became orgasmic and then multi-orgasmic. According to her, she had an orgasm the first time she had sex with a man during her senior year.

Maybe expecting a man to be able to have more than one orgasm in a session is unrealistic. If your experiences to date has been multi orgasmic men, congratulations. On a first encounter, in a very erotic situation, the odds would be better. If these are guys are regular playmates, I'm betting on a lack of erotic newness, if that makes sense. Concerning them getting off before you, well, wtf? How long is foreplay? Are you getting them close to orgasm before they get inside you? Is it taking you longer? Something changed and it seems unlikely that suddenly all the guys started sucking at sex.

I think you will find there is not a hard fast set rule. People are a mixed assortment...like a box of chocolates or bag of M&Ms. Some in the LS male and female have skills and desire....some not so much. Some enjoy their partners...some are more self centered. Some age or their physical make make it difficult to recover quickly after orgasm (women have this ability much more than men, hence the desire or eventual experience of having multiple men at a time) and require some time to be able to perform. However there are those that enjoy playing and erect or not enjoy touching and oral for their female partners for a full experience....and eventually a second round. I think if you mix things up....partners....group play etc you will find what you are looking for.

Start on a conventional dating site and lead with the relationship. Any LTR will have conditions, family, religion, children, career, etc. Non-monogamy can be one, but don't put that in an ad or in a response to an ad. Start with the connection. The other conditions will have to work before you get to monogamy. If you can communicate with someone your dating history will come up and be the basis for discussion. Go easy on your desire for an open relationship. There is plenty in a LTR that will go sideways not just this. Be yourself.

Some men may have experience with swinging as a single but are not up to it as part of a couple themselves. One said “my girlfriend’s not going to do that.” I was very clear I wasn’t looking for a boyfriend but FWB partner. There are those looking for a date to get them into the party or club and won’t really take the time to know you. I know a couple that did meet swinging as singles at a party. So it can happen. I made the initial contact with my main FWB 2 years ago. We have a wonderful friendship and have both been clear from the beginning what we wanted. There have been times we are monogamous and that has to do with other things in our lives which we discuss clearly. I initiated contact with another man looking for MFM with a man he knew (flows better to me). So now I play with them single or together. I like the wording GoldCo suggests.

I used to have a Desire hat that I wore all of the time because most people had no idea what it meant...until that one fateful boat trip I wouldn't worry much about pictures as most won't get it and even if they did, they wouldn't make the connection to what you were saying. Instead I would say things in your profile describing what you want without just saying it. Committed relationship but someone who isn't too possessive or jealous. Open minded, willing to try new things and experiences, etc. Maybe look for someone at a swingers club. Just be up front from the start...like first or second meeting that you are a swinger and want someone who can accept that (and even after they say it's okay, keep looking for warning signs since lots of guys will agree to the idea but can't deal with the reality). Good luck.

My experience has been that as I got older the intensity of my orgasms increased. I liked sex before, but even more so after 50! I was celibate for several years and first discovered this playing with myself. Eventually I had a partner that made me squirt (not pee, I have smelled my sheets and usually go before and after sex.) The eyes rolling back, stars around me, out of body orgasms can happen with single or multiple partners, and on occasion by myself with both oral and PIV. I think it has more to do with how comfortable and relaxed I am in the situation.

Fun but old question - I was 19. My boyfriend at the time invited me to join him at a nudist club that he had joined before we met. I was nervous but went for it. As is the case with most nudist clubs, it was most older couples but there were a few younger couples in their 20s. During the day things were very vanilla and non-sexual. After dark, there were several groups that would stay in the cabins and host swings parties. We were sharing a cabin with three guys and another girl, all in their 20s. We started out playing a kinky version of Spades that got us kissing and touching each other. It ended with the guys asking if they could shave our pussies. I was so turned on by the idea I was all in, but the other girl didn’t want them to do it so she watched. They were totally cool and gentle and I was so aroused I could hardly breathe. I had never been naked in front of more than one guy and now I had three guys with their hands all over me. I loved watching their cocks getting hard and started to let them tease my mouth. They took turns letting be suck them. I got on all fours and they took turns fucking me. I don’t know how long it lasted but it was amazing. They used condoms so I let my boyfriend and another guy cum in my mouth. The third ended up switching to his girlfriend and finished with her. I never told any of my partners afterwards until my current husband.

Busy year for you and you have so much more to experience. It is great to see you post and question. You will see that you experience normal things that we have all experienced along the way. Isn’t it great that everyone is different? Growing up in NJ most of the men I have met are circumcised. I do remember the first time I saw one that wasn’t. It was my third guy I had ever been with and he was on the football team. I had no idea it was what it was. I knew it was different from what I saw before. I thought it was fun that it was like peek a boo. I just figured everyone has different shapes. A friend of mine who knew I hooked up with the guy asked me what I thought about sex with an uncircumcised dick. That’s when I learned she had been with him before me. If you continue meeting new people you will see many new things. My take is that you will notice the uncut men because there are less of them where you live. Orally it is different. I personally can’t tell the difference when having sex. To this day I still say Peek a boo when I play with one.