We have been enjoying this hobby since 2003 and we've met a LOT of couples at clubs, resorts, parties, and 1 on 1's. We have certainly not been intimate with the entire lot but swingers talk. One of the first questions most people ask is "how did you two get started" . A large number, us included, started out watching than slowly delved into soft swing and ultimately, as comfort and confidence increased, evolved to full swap. Purely a guess, but probably half the couples we've met at least started as soft swap. One thing we can say for certain, getting to full swap was one helluva lot of fun! Enjoy the trip.