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Mr and I both totally agree with you on this. Personality can make a huge difference in how attracted we are to others. Grant it, the first step is usually what we visually see however that only accounts for so much once a conversation begins then the personality is the focus. We have seen some absolutely gorgeous/handsome people that suddenly become very unattractive the moment they open their mouth and the conversation begins. On the other hand, we have met folks that I guess you would consider overage looking, not neck break catch your eye sort of thing that become incredibly attractive through conversation with them where their personality simply shines. Also remember, like most, we are our own worst enemy on how we think we look ourselves. Also, society does not help in this area one bit. A person’s personality can make the difference every time. Just our thoughts on this issue.

My wife and I have a satisfying sex life, we love to screw each other. But sometimes, to enhance our experience, we use dildos, vibrators and other sex toys. We also enjoy MFM threesomes, where we bring another man into our bedroom for Mary’s pleasure. It occurs to me that, in a sense, we treat them as another sex toy, enjoying them for what they bring to the mattress but not expecting them to be more than that. Let me digress for a second - we know we won’t ever see most of our single men partners again, significantly more than half the men we meet don’t have a repeat with us. There are many reasons, but they can be winnowed down to two: either they don’t satisfy my wife enough to be invited back, or they choose to be simply one and done guys. That’s fine with us, we’re not looking for FWBs but simply an erotic encounter. And thus, particularly the first time, we treat them as a sex toy. Mary likes feeling his body rub against hers with new sensations, she likes the sight and sounds of someone she’s unfamiliar with, she revels in the new smells and tastes. She’s out to get screwed. We make the assumption that the basic reason he's there is he wants to screw Mary. Now, having said that, we also try to respect our new ‘sex toy.’ We always meet the man at a bar first and try to have a pleasant talk. (If we don’t have a nice talk, or there’s no chemistry between Mary and the guy, it won’t go any further.) If we invite him home I open up my craft beer, a nice bottle of wine or fix him the drink of his choice. We try to make him comfortable. If he has a sexual request we’ll try to make it happen, assuming it’s something we’re into. We want him to have as good a time in bed with my wife as she’s having. But, in the end, it’s ‘just sex.’ We don’t expect he’ll turn into a regular, but when it does we then take it to the next level, showing him that we care about him as a person. Does this make us bad people?

In retrospect, it was tame. After being in a ex-fiance/new boyfriend situation for several months (both knew I was fucking the other), I introduced them. A couple of weeks later we started MFMs; my ex went first. As a woman who admires testicles, I love that view, thinking of what's going to happen, then the subtle (or not so subtle) signs of him ejaculating in her - he stops pumping his hips, pushes in all the way, and twitches behind his balls.

My first sexual experience was giving oral sex to my girlfriend right next to another couple who were also fooling around. After that i spent most of my teen years having sex and having other couples stay at my place to have sex all in front of each other. Many times same room and often same bed sex.

To be fair, my wife wrote the previous response and I feel she could have included a few other important details. First the couple we knew got started in the LS because it was suggested by the husband. He, from what we can tell, pushed the idea on to his wife. At first she was unsure but he assured her they have nothing to worry about because their marriage was a solid one. So, she agreed to "try" things and see how it went. At first she was hesitant to full swap with other men however he was ready to full swap with other woman. Once she was ready for a full swap, she found that she rather enjoyed the situation with her husband however she found him to be, lets say, not as comfortable with her level of comfort while playing with other men. It was our observation that he pushed for the idea thinking this was a way for him to play with other women and it not be considered cheating but that he was not ready or expecting her to take to things so well the way she did. It turned into a situation where it was ok for him to have fun and let go but he was not comfortable seeing the same thing with her and he became insecure and jealous. As you can guess, things eventually caused enough of a problem that the marriage soon ended and for a short time she became a Unicorn and she was very happy to run with it till she met the man she is currently with now. Also, we later came to learn that thier marriage was not as solid as we all thought.

Just our view on this issues. We think this meme clearly explains this issue. Again, this is just our view...

Yeah, a lot of overweight or non-overweight frumpy women are throwing the words "I'm curvy" around nowadays.

First time for both myself and my wife was boring, probably parents basement like most ?. First time swinging was at friends of ours pool. The husband and I both got out, probably headed to the cooler to grab another beer. My wife was climbing the ladder and the other wife, standing behind her, pushed her finger into my wife. My wife stepped back with a look of shock on her face. She looked at me and said, “**** just stuck her finger in my pussy.” I told her to roll with it if she liked it. The other husband and I watched my wife get fingered for what seemed like forever, probably 5 minutes, until we heard their kid come through the gate. Great night that set the tone for many more with them.

I just let a woman talk; I made sure they met my husband. (It was more than just "met," if there was a connection we would "date" her together sometimes, take her to dinner and the theater, even go on trips/vacations together, get her a separate room. We always paid for it all. There was never any expectations or pressure.) Subsequently, whenever the conversation turns to sex, I would continue to listen more than talk, but said things that solicited opinions about hubby (most said I was lucky to "catch" him), say that hubby and I were open about our past sex life, let her know that I was an unjealous person. When she would say that he was attractive, I would agree and say that he was the best lover I ever had. Then, if it got to that point, when she implied that she found him attractive, I would say that hubby told me he finds you attractive too. The final step was her saying it would be nice to try him; I would say, "That can be arranged." That was pattern, and it worked more often than not if it got that far. It was also a huge power trip for me to go home and tell hubby, "Remember Amy? I've arranged for you to have sex with her." More took me up on it than I expected, but only a few let me watch. One of the women who did, Clair, played with me as well and opened up my Lesbian side. She came to live with us and formed our poly family. There was never any pressure and regardless of how it turned out there were never any regrets by anyone. (Some women were overly concerned about how I felt afterwards. They were doing me a favor.) We are still friends with those we are in contact with, including two who are married. One husband definitely know about his wife and my husband, and is cool with it.

Personality is far, far more important than looks. I'm sure you look fine and no play partner that likes you enough to play is going to be disappointed. See my post on a similar thread on here I left on a similar topic. I'm on the bigger side and have never once had an issue with couples, singles or anyone else. I also have a tummy and a huge arse. Many men like that anyway, others are not interested in looks and go on personality. Just be confident, you are sexy.

As a guy - I like to keep on top of things like that. Immediately let the gal know it happened and stop. Let her clean up (if she's really seriously worried about fluid transfer). Re-set. Get out new condoms (check their expiration dates). Start over.