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A non-lifestyle co-worker asked me how do you not stare when on a nude beach? She knows I sometimes go to a nude beach, she wants to go to one and doesn’t know how to act. Without telling her major details I told her we went to our first naked beach with people we just met on a cruise. Both couples were attractive fully clothed. Both claimed it was their first time. I tried not to look even though you just have to. I admit even though being straight I had to look at the women too. Told her to wear dark sunglasses. I told her if you are like me it is difficult not to look. I even find myself looking at people who aren’t attractive. I said she will see many more unattractive bodies than people who are models. Very very few perfect bodies. Where do you look? Am I the only one looking at genitalia? Male and female? I honestly don’t think about sex outright. I might look at men as sexually attractive and jealous of women with flat bellies.

Sonny, I don't question your preferences, I question your lack of respect towards 99% of the people on this board and 99% of women. Women, by the way, allow and chose men to enter their bodies, a way more important choice than who you boink. Their preferences in that regard should be paramount. Answer enough for you kid??

I don’t mind answering your question, if I may. When and if a woman comes on here and says she won’t date men that are not gorgeous, rich, handsome, well endowed and under 25, I’ll call her a shallow pig. If a woman were to say that, my guess would be she’s overweight, poorly educated, struggling financially and was dumped by somebody very similar to her. 99% of the time that’s the case when somebody tells you how great they are and how great their life is.

99% of his posts on here are disrespectful to 99% of swingers. Which begs the question: WHY do you bother?? Perhaps its a need for attention or maybe it's in retaliation for the rejections you suffered before you became such a wealthy and therefore much more attractive man to the segment of young women who become more tolerant as your bank account increased. Im 99% sure that Im close to 99% right about this.

Do you have a link to this study? I know my wife wouldn’t play with a man that there’s no attraction whatsoever. The other women we’ve met in the lifestyle seem to feel the same way. Maybe we’re just getting lucky and meeting all of the 1%ers. Hopefully our luck stays intact.

Just curious as to where you come up with your “facts”? Which polls did you take to come up with the 99% “fact”? Just because you believe your own opinions, that doesn’t make them facts. You say women want to be around you, even after they get to know you. Either your persona on here is a complete act or I can 99% guarantee that very few women would like to be around you after they get to know you. You don’t swing. Your alleged 3 girlfriends don’t swing, not even with each other. You are disgusted by women that swing. You have very little free time because of your vast business endeavors, hours getting buff in the gym and entertaining 3 girlfriends, however, you’re the most frequent poster on a swingers site. You honestly don’t find that to be a bit odd?

Napoleon: I see you tossing the statistic 99% in many of your posts but no real reference to where you are getting your numbers. I see it as more an opinion than any validity. You state limited experience in the lifestyle so for any single male that walks into a club knowing he is in good physical shape, is used to only very attractive young single women and is also wealthy the others around you may pick up on the Carly Simon song playing in the background and just find you arrogant and have no interest. On the positive side you know you and are upfront and have no room for compromise.

I don’t see anywhere in the OP where the wife is insisting on sleeping with other people. So it seems to me advice on getting a divorce from someone who plans on never marrying is off base. The comment on never being afaid of losing any woman feels like little value is placed on the individual or the relationship. Different strokes for different folks but at least you know yourself well enough and are upfront on your limitations. To the OP welcome and lots of good advice here. Encourage your wife to read too, continue talking, enjoy the fantasy.

I believe the vast majority of people are 'ethical.' One of the things that ethical people do is keep the secrets they are entrusted with - and certainly, being in the LifeStyle is a secret. So, particularly since this person was at one time a good friend, the chances are he'll keep your secret. There's no guarantee of course, but you your reputation should be safe. What can you do? Other than telling him that he's welcome to make contact with you in the future, that you won't harbor grudges, not much.

To take a dissenting opinion, I feel many people go into swinging because they want a warm or intimate gf-like/bf-like experience, compared to paying a sex worker or an escort for sex. As a woman, I appreciate it if my play partner treats me romantically as "gf", instead of a mere a glory hole. If the couple don't show up or won't commit to your next play, that's an indicator the wife felt disrespected by his hubby in your last play. That simple. But I feel she's just jealous that she was not treated the same way by you. Only my opinion, it's just me. :-)

Beauty is only skin deep...sexy is a combination of personality, intelligence, and confidence. We prefer sexy.

Even though we have seen one couple for over 7 years, we STILL have a texting rule that we can only text MM, FF or MFMF. Same rule for being together...no cross MF MMF or MFF allowed. Just to keep things simple...

Personality....personality.....personality. Personally I love giving pleasure. I have never turned away from a woman who I’ve spoken with....shared a few stories with....shared a few laughs with and there is mutual interest. It is always a gift. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. But for me.....it is a gift from the woman when she chooses to spend/share time and herself with me.

My ex , ( didn’t take much convincing)Living at the time in an expensive place we decided to take in some roommates. Housemates turn into more than just housemates . Before we even knew any terminology for that type of living arrangements It just happened with lots of just silent rules . Just tried to go with the flow did not end well .

Same here. During my period I just let the guy/ couple decide if they want to . Always up to give a good blowjob during my period. Or just fucking.

Why? Everybody who’s ever taken up ANYthing — golf, piano, beekeeping, swinging — was a newbie at one point.

Bed post, it Took a while and lots of lube but eventually fit

To Couplers' reply at the top of this 2nd page: I would have loved to have been there to be surprised with a birthing of a rubber ducky! I bet it's a safe bet that she enjoys fisting too, at least with female hands....probably.

Or sneeze. Anne sneezed me right out once. It was crazy powerful.

If you want to push his cock out all you have to do is cough. :-)

Real bad idea next they'll want them "organic" and those damn veggies are expensive $$$$$$$$

If I was a single man I wouldn't step foot in the lifestyle. Even as a man in a relationship me and my girlfriends were very unimpressed during our short time in the lifestyle. Do swingers ever wonder why 99% of high-quality single men will never step foot in the lifestyle? I'll tell you the reasons why. Reasons: - 99% of the intelligent financially successful high quality physically good looking charming and confident single men will never belittle themselves for "easy sex" by being active in an environment(the lifestyle) that's clearly very anti-single male. With their money, physical looks, and confidence they can be active in other areas of society that highly praise and seek out high quality single men and not treat single men second class citizens. - In the lifestyle it's ok for married and non-married women to do rude and inconsiderate things, basically they can get away with bad behavior and not get kicked out the lifestyle. And the vast majority of men in the lifestyle(from my observation) are spineless chumps, pander to women, and are afraid of calling women out on their bad behavior. 99% of high quality single men don't have to pander to women in order to get sex or a relationship with them, they especially won't tolerate women's bad behavior just to get access inside their vagina. - 99% of high-quality single men age 20 to 45 who are physically fit, financially well off, and confident can "easily" get many young childless physically fit non-overweight beautiful vanilla women within the age range of 20 to 35 outside the lifestyle, and 90% of women inside the lifestyle do not fit this standard that 99% of physically fit, financially well off, confident single men seek out in women for sex or a relationship. These are the reasons why 99% of high quality single men will never be active in the lifestyle. Also, single women and married and non-married couples can and do act just as stupid and disrespectful as single men. I come across many dumb ass single women and married and non-married couples.

@Jane1902 I value highly my relationships and my girlfriends past and present. But I've never been afraid of any woman walking away not wanting to be with me anymore. If all three of my girlfriends left me today I could replace them within months with three or more than three women. Men who are afraid of losing their woman are men who dont have easy access to other attractive quality women to have sex with or form a relationship with. And just because I have no desire to get married doesn't mean I can't give my "opinion" on marriage. If he 100% isn't sure about him and his wife sleeping with other people he needs to tell his wife "I don't want you or I sleeping with other people". If she doesn't agree with his decision more than likely "the way most wives are nowadays" she'll cheat on him anyway behind his back.