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Nappy, please learn to read the thread topic before posting. The question asks about first bi experiences. You are straight, you have nothing to add. Your reputation is in the red by your own doing.

You need to do whatever makes you two secure and happy. That includes managing information. Eventually adult children tend to figure things out. What matters to children, young or old, is the security they have flowing from the integrity of their parents' relationship. In a word, they sense the love their parents have for each other. Whether your kids are 3 or 30, you are their strongest role models one generation ahead. It is not, repeat not, the lifestyle or the knowledge that mom and dad swing that will affect them. What will affect them is how they see that in the context of your relationship with each other. They know that adults have sex. They have sex. Like all kids, they have difficulty processing the idea of their parents having sex (except that one time, of course, that brought them into existence) unless conversations about sex and sexuality have been part of their growing up. And that is fairly rare. FWIW our adult daughter knows that our cruises are lifestyle cruises. (We hew to the "what happened on the boat stays on the boat" rule.) She knows that some of our friends are special friends, she knows that we are naked in the hot tub with them when they come to visit. And so on. While she has zero interest in the LS, she is strongly reassured that mom and dad are still in love and very happy. Indeed, she will remark "would you guys get a room!" when we hug and kiss in front of her. We point out that we own our home, we all laugh and move on with the conversation. Bottom line, you have to decide how to manage the information, and for whom you are trying to control the information.

Kids, even young ones, always find out eventually. We saw it as an opportunity to communicate with them and teach them to have compassion for those who think differently.

Busy year for you and you have so much more to experience. It is great to see you post and question. You will see that you experience normal things that we have all experienced along the way. Isn’t it great that everyone is different? Growing up in NJ most of the men I have met are circumcised. I do remember the first time I saw one that wasn’t. It was my third guy I had ever been with and he was on the football team. I had no idea it was what it was. I knew it was different from what I saw before. I thought it was fun that it was like peek a boo. I just figured everyone has different shapes. A friend of mine who knew I hooked up with the guy asked me what I thought about sex with an uncircumcised dick. That’s when I learned she had been with him before me. If you continue meeting new people you will see many new things. My take is that you will notice the uncut men because there are less of them where you live. Orally it is different. I personally can’t tell the difference when having sex. To this day I still say Peek a boo when I play with one.

My wife and I have a satisfying sex life, we love to screw each other. But sometimes, to enhance our experience, we use dildos, vibrators and other sex toys. We also enjoy MFM threesomes, where we bring another man into our bedroom for Mary’s pleasure. It occurs to me that, in a sense, we treat them as another sex toy, enjoying them for what they bring to the mattress but not expecting them to be more than that. Let me digress for a second - we know we won’t ever see most of our single men partners again, significantly more than half the men we meet don’t have a repeat with us. There are many reasons, but they can be winnowed down to two: either they don’t satisfy my wife enough to be invited back, or they choose to be simply one and done guys. That’s fine with us, we’re not looking for FWBs but simply an erotic encounter. And thus, particularly the first time, we treat them as a sex toy. Mary likes feeling his body rub against hers with new sensations, she likes the sight and sounds of someone she’s unfamiliar with, she revels in the new smells and tastes. She’s out to get screwed. We make the assumption that the basic reason he's there is he wants to screw Mary. Now, having said that, we also try to respect our new ‘sex toy.’ We always meet the man at a bar first and try to have a pleasant talk. (If we don’t have a nice talk, or there’s no chemistry between Mary and the guy, it won’t go any further.) If we invite him home I open up my craft beer, a nice bottle of wine or fix him the drink of his choice. We try to make him comfortable. If he has a sexual request we’ll try to make it happen, assuming it’s something we’re into. We want him to have as good a time in bed with my wife as she’s having. But, in the end, it’s ‘just sex.’ We don’t expect he’ll turn into a regular, but when it does we then take it to the next level, showing him that we care about him as a person. Does this make us bad people?

It’s inevitable if you go to parties that one day you will see someone you know. We have seen people from business and others we know but not well. Before posting this I searched and saw others say they have met daughters and sons, in-laws, and others they never expected. I always wondered how I would react. We recently were invited to a house party. We have enjoyed a party at these people’s house before. Big clean house and they do it right. Private bedrooms, play areas with air mattresses, and a kinky room that’s interesting. Stacks of clean towels and robes in a dressing room. The couple who owns the house are older and sweet. They greet every couple at the door with a glass of champagne which I say is so classy. We go to the changing room put our clothes in plastic bins and take a robe. Another couple is in there with us and we start a conversation. I am looking forward to maybe being with them. Mike was very friendly to both and suggested we have a drink together. While at the bar getting to know our new friend I hear “Patty”. Nobody calls me Patty, I am Trish or Tricia, nobody calls me Patty anymore. EXCEPT FAMILY. It’s my cousin, technically a second cousin, my Father’s cousin’s son. We really only see each other at funerals and some family occasions. I don’t know when they got there. They were already in robes too. We had some family talk that chased the other couple to excuse themselves. I really didn’t want to spend the night like this. My cousin is good looking and his wife is also except he is family. Others are already getting busy and we are still talking. So much going through my head. We ended up in a bedroom and playing. Were we wrong? Is this taboo?

Hi All, Anyone care to share how they started? Was it swinging, a MFM or a GangBang? Or maybe something completely different. We’re you keen to start or needed a long time to let it soak in before you made a decision? Cheers, :-)

I'm not sure how one "manages" information. Truth remains truth, no matter how it may be "controlled."

We invited our single guy to play with a couple we swap with regularly. An additional guy added a new dynamic to the group play mf + mfm and the men could easily switch between the women. No rules about who could play with whom during or after the session. If they want to invite him to their bedroom w/o us it's fine. We will do it again.

I have joked with my husband that he notices the size of the guys more than I do. We decided after a few parties that we don’t need to play together. If he finds someone fun to be with I am fine with him having fun. Our comfort level is great when it comes to playing alone. Our private joke is he sometimes finds new men for me. He’ll give me a nudge when he sees an endowed player. I have hinted to him that it’s his hidden bi side showing. He said it is exciting watching me with a larger one.

That sounds fun. I would like to try that some time. Me and the wife as of now only do mfm’s we’ve talked about maybe trying a mfmm. We might do a full swap sometime. And adding a 5 th m to would be fun. I like to add a f but wife isn’t that bi. Lol

Just saying, seems a bit microagressive to me. The question wasn't asked if you were straight or bi. Settle down Napoleon the straight guy following the Bi post.

What a cool idea OP!! Its kinda like bungee jumping where, with a slight miscalculation, you could go from an amazing thrill to a complete and utter disaster in a split second. I'd recommend strongly against both!

I have only noticed uncircumcised men in a locker room. Growing up I only saw others naked in the high school locker room. I thought all guys were circumcised at birth then I saw guys who weren’t. I never stared but sure did notice. No girl ever mentioned me being different. Not that a girl would talk about other dicks. The group we play with does not include to my knowledge any uncircumcised men. With this post I asked my wife if she ever was with anyone who had a foreskin. We never discuss any of our old encounters. As open as we are she was hesitant then said two of her partners had their foreskins. Both were foreigners. One was from Ireland and another from Kenya. I pressed her for details. She just said it was different.

Sorry, I'm old and body hair is part of the attraction. Bald would mean "not mature" and off limits.

Folks need to use their imagination & work with this. The extra wife could sit on the other wife's face, or put her pussy in the face of one of the men, can caress balls, rim, whatever. Of course maybe she wants to watch and rub one out herself, or play with her favorite toy. The other option for the extra woman is donning a strap-on and taking a turn as one of the boys

Note that I'm a male and my perspective is probably completely different. When Mrs. EastInWest and I met, we were friends first, then started meeting for coffee/drinks frequently. We got close, learned more about each other's personal lives, and eventually things got romantic and emotional. However, we didn't know if it could ever be serious, so we didn't stress exclusivity, we just thought one of us would move on eventually. It's a long story, but after we'd been carrying on like this for over a year, we had our one "experiment" where she ended up topless in the back of the car giving head while I gave the guy and his friend a lift to their hotel. It wasn't planned, but she'd had a few drinks and I'm a bad influence. It wasn't hard to see. It was, however, insanely intense. I don't think there could possibly be a drug that would do the same thing. At first we both struggled to give them a little privacy, but that didn't work. I was frustrated at how few stop lights I was getting until I finally just pulled over to join his friend in enjoying the show. He was working her with his hand and she was moaning heavily, constantly on the edge of climaxing, made prolonged eye contact with me a few times (wondering if I was OK, she said later) and I could have cum right there in the driver's seat looking at the way she was looking at me. The feelings were mixed and confusing but none of them were bad. I did have a brief impulse to stop the action when I realized he was going to cum, but I didn't actually want to. It was just a passing, instinctive thought, competing with the urge to masturbate (which I also didn't actually want to do, knowing I'd waste the arousal). I was as hard as I could ever remember being and what I wanted was to see her finish her good work and get her home to the hotel to take her roughly and unload inside her. When he finished, there was a lot of cum. I watched and listened while she gulped twice, but she didn't get it all. I saw her lift her head up, breasts in his lap, and a lot of it ran over her lips and down his shaft. She was on her own high, too, and just stared at the wet cock in her hand, breathing hard. It was completely obscene and very enjoyable to me. She told me later she was just in shock that she had even done it and didn't know what to do or say. A bunch of other stuff happened, but I don't want to turn this into a short story. The point is, none of this ever felt negative for either of us. I took her back to our room, she was in a daze, we went at it in the shower then finished in bed, she came very hard repeatedly, then we passed out, slept through our alarms. We ate breakfast like that hadn't happened, then finally we're drinking coffee and she says, kind of nervously, "I really had fun last night." We talked about it for a while, got her over her worries about what I might be thinking, and she expressed some shock that she didn't feel guilty or grossed out about what she did at all. We didn't talk about that again for years, until we started talking about the idea of actively getting into swinging a couple years ago. I think what made it so harmless (where it could have been an emotional disaster) is that we were on exactly the same page: I was already relatively adventurous, she wanted to be more adventurous, I was supportive of that and wasn't interested in holding her back at all from enjoying everything. She knew it and I OKed (and instigated) things as they went along, we communicated that we were OK and it was good to go ahead, so there was never much room for me to feel like my boundaries weren't being respected and get offended. I don't know if that helps. When I start describing that story it's hard not to be excessively detailed because it was a crazily vivid experience.

I will answer any question I please. That's just how it's going to be, bruh.