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Napoleon, I tried. You are combative, for the simple purpose of being combative, trying to get reactions. And that, sir, is called being a 'troll.'

Welcome to the board!!! Just a couple things that seem a little off. 34 years old, never had sex, seeking advice on swinging? Straight male, want a big ole dick slamming my prostate? 5.5 x 4, unfortunately “mature swingers” require 9 x 5. Good luck, hope you find what you’re looking for.

I have joked with my husband that he notices the size of the guys more than I do. We decided after a few parties that we don’t need to play together. If he finds someone fun to be with I am fine with him having fun. Our comfort level is great when it comes to playing alone. Our private joke is he sometimes finds new men for me. He’ll give me a nudge when he sees an endowed player. I have hinted to him that it’s his hidden bi side showing. He said it is exciting watching me with a larger one.

You seem to be combative with everyone, I don’t speak for all women. No man or woman sure play with someone they aren’t comfortable with for any reason. Too big, too small, too heavy, too thin, you don’t need to be with anyone you aren’t attracted to. I put my standards at obnoxious, opionated people.

For both my wife and me, it's not the size of his dick that does it for us, it's the size of her orgasm.

I'm 5'3". My late wife was 5'9". Early on, we developed the habit of kissing while she stood on the step below me. Once a lady asked Laura why she married such a short man. "I measure a man from the bottom of his heart to the top of his mind," she replied. "Measured that way, he's the tallest man I ever met." My, how I loved that woman!

Napoleon, I respectfully disagree. A single man who has a particular preference isn't shallow - he's welcome to not interact with anyone he feels isn't his 'cup of tea.' A man - or a woman - becomes 'shallow' when they actively disparage those people who they aren't enamored with. The old phrase 'live and let live' comes to mind.

Women have all these standards towards men. Yet if a man isn't into overweight women or women over a certain age, or if he's not willing to get involved with a single mom, he's being "so-called" shallow.

I laugh too when he mentions size. Men may be more interested in the size of the guys, and the women are more interested in the body.

C&T, you're overthinking it. Go, see if you like it, take anything along you think you might need for your comfort. Especially condoms.

A few years ago on another site we included only pictures of the wife for many of the reasons cited above. After a while we started to get a few complaints (suggestions?) as there was nothing to go on for the wife of the other couple. Since then we've added a few of the husband (nude) together with the wife - seems to have solved that problem.

A nude pic in the adv is a no no for us. We don’t send nudes if anyone asks for one. It’s usually a giveaway that it’s a pic collector. For couples the most important picture is the ones of both of you TOGETHER. If you can’t send a normal picture we will be turned off. If eventually a nude is sent we are looking for a close up dick picture and not a close up puss. Yes we will eventually get to see all that only if we click. I for one am not overly turned on by the size.

It really depends. I enjoy participating, watching, being out of the room just listening, not being present and then hearing about it, or being away from it and getting sent pics and vids of what's happening. I find all of them to be hot so I can't say I have a preference.

I think it’s awesome that you are that close with your children, not everybody can say that. However, your son is 30 and I’d assume your daughter is also an adult, why do you have to tell them where you’re going? Phone off, does your daughter track your location when you go out? If so, that’s very odd. How about “we’re going away for the night, see you guys tomorrow”. Where are you going? What are you doing? “We’re going out for the night to do mom and dad stuff, see you tomorrow.”

Is your girlfriend still part of it?

I'm the opposite, I'd rather not have a guy that's a lot taller than me because then I get neck strain trying to kiss him. Heck, hubby is 5'10" and I'm 5'3" and I get neck strain kissing him if we are standing up.

Me and my girlfriends we always go separate. They very rarely see other men, "maybe" once a year( they're extremely picky). I'll see maybe 6 to 15 women per year, I'm extremely cautious about STD's or a woman filing false rape allegations on me for financial gain. At least 90% of the women I could have sex with I don't. Its takes only the simplest of reasons for me to not trust them enough to let them get close to me, let alone have sex with me. My only rules for my girlfriends are: - If they have sex with a man, of course make him wear a condom and afterwards set a date to get tested for STDs. Condom don't guard against all STD's. I'll pay for the test. - If they get pregnant by another man our relationship has to end. With the exception of my brother's children, I refuse to raise another man's child or be in a relationship with a woman that has kids that's not biologically mine. And at this stage of my life I don't even want kids of my own. I got a vasectomy a few years ago. - If they meet a man they could see marrying and having kids with, our relationship has to end.

I'm 6 feet 4 inches tall. Most women like tall men. I like slim physically fit women 10 plus years younger than me. I care what I want out of women far more than I care what women want out of me.