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Yes. As with the term Swinging or lifestyle there is a huge broad umbrella covering many possible activities. Poly generally covers multiple loves.......which also trickles down to multiple dating....to multiple hook ups and more. There are those that believe that swingers are horrible people but regular hook ups under the term of poly is....well.....better. There are many of us that actually have a relationship....not just sex hookups. Some long term. Some time it is a matured relationship from swinging that has taken the next step.

The very 1st time... Was it exciting, nerve racking, defeating? What was the conversation after the fact, did it effect you two negatively? Also did you discuss it before it happened? We are new and I am just unsure how it will effect me and/or her. She has been with 3 other guys since we started about 3/4 months ago. I have not had to deal with the above question yet, so looking for some insight from others.

I am open mindend and bi and i am into Swinging and threesomes. What turns you on ? threesome with two guys or two females?

OK, from reading the posts I’ve determined that there are two major categories of MFM experience. One where both M’s participate, and one where it’s more of a voyeur-type experience with hubby looking on as wifey gets it on with another guy. For myself, the ladder of these two experiences really entices and excites me (and my better half is on board), but as many times as I’ve tried to run through the situation I’ve not been able to picture myself just standing around watching the whole thing transpire. Won’t I feel like a dope just standing there? I’ve read that other people actually get naked and start masturbating, but (to me at least) this seems like it would be extremely uncomfortable, not only for myself, but for wifey and the other M.

There are many news articles illustrating contemporary trends towards isolation. Families stare at screens rather than interact with each other. Japan reporting progressive declines in birthrate. Many nations, including the USA, producing data suggesting that intimacy is declining. We can go on with additional examples. When we think about lifestyle couples we know and vanilla couples that we know, even in vanilla social settings the LS couples seem to watch out for each other, interact with each other, smile at each other, say nice things about each other etc. compared with the vanilla folks in our lives. Have others made similar observations? We know the truism about communication being essential to success in the LS. We are wondering about the reciprocal: by choosing to engage in the LS, does that provide some level of immunity to isolation and its adverse effects over time? Curious to hear how others view the effects of the LS on their own relationships and on the way they relate to others in vanilla life.

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We do but seldom use them. Mrs Doc has gone to swingers clubs while out of town at a conference with instructions to "have fun". I have a friend I get together with several times a year when the stars line up. Mrs Doc is going back home for a reunion next weekend. Her hs boyfriend will be there and she's "excited" to see him again. When my dad died about 10 years ago, I went home for the funeral. My wife had just started a new job and had to stay in Fl. My g/f from hs came to the viewing. Later that evening there was a knock on my hotel room door and there she stood with a big smile and a bottle of vodka. She left about 1:00AM. I don't know what she told her husband but she was back the next 2 nights as well before I went home. This hobby beats the shit out of playing golf or fishing!!!

Whether in person or on line, if we encounter a couple that I think is in our league in age, looks and lifestyle experience and they decline to meet us or play with us, I feel a little bummed. I wonder why and I realize it could be a small thing that only that other person would find objectionable. Or they may have a problem in health or their relationship. We decline to meet or play with some couples, too. I am concerned for their feelings and we try hard to be diplomatic. How do you handle this aspect of the lifestyle?

I was surprised to see how big his cock was. I was excited to know what she was about to experience. She is always nervous with a new playmate and she had her eyes closed as she waited for him. It was awesome to watch her reaction as he went into her. She never had a cock that big. She was experiencing feelings she will never have with me. I was jealous and happy for her at the same time. It was a good experience for her and we played with him many times. It never affected our feelings for each other or our marriage. It was just another fun thing to do together. It made our marriage stronger.

My wife is straight so she prefers a threesome with two guys. I'm open to both.

I understand exactly what you are saying. I encountered that sort of behavior at parties and meet 'n' greets initially, both from men and women. You just have to let people know immediately, clearly and sometimes forcefully that you will not accept that kind of behavior. You basically have to assert your dignity. It took only a couple of times before I got a reputation as someone who will not tolerate a lack of respect. Once that happened, the parties and gatherings became much more fun and pleasant. Some people will think you are a bitch, but that's OK. Those people don't matter anyway.

Have had and enjoy both.

That's where I started and what I moved to. I enjoy both the jealous buzz of another woman with my husband or boyfriend and Lesbian activity.

Though most of my threesomes are with my husband and his friend, both straight males, I prefer when a gf joins us.

If there is a term more loosely defined than "soft swing" it is Polyamory. I recognize what you have couplers when I think of it, yet when I signed on to two different Poly lists,just to check out the culture, what I found was what I would call just hooking up. There were no rules, commitment, or intent that there ever should be any. Yet these folk all claimed "Poly" as their banner. Seemed to me that tere was a problem differentiating between Love and Lust. Your situation seems more "hive marriage" and theirs more "frat party".

This is Mrs. Idaho. A few months ago a bunch of my coworkers got together for drinks. I got quite drunk and kissed two females. I liked it. OMG. What have I done? were my thoughts. Had to go home and tell the husband. Did I cheat? (We've been married 35 + years) But man it was hot. He was so shocked. In a good way. And very turned on. In the last couple of years with an empty nest we have reawakened our sex life and are like a couple of kids with new toys...each other and toys, sub Dom, light bondage and spanking. Now the thought of adding extra players to the mix has blown our minds. We have chatted up some couples on sls and going to our first meet and greet next weekend. Then the following weekend traveling to Portland to a club. One night is kink night. We want to learn. Hoping to pop our swinging cherry real soon. We have been doing our due diligence in reading, learning, lurking and above all most importantly talking. We are doing this to have fun. Nothing is broken so not fixing our marriage, not missing anything in our relationship, not jealous, and neither one of us pushing the other into this. I know the thread was which partner brought up swinging? After a long winded explanation it was me the wife.?

The OP specifically is looking for a single male, unfortunately she doesn’t give any more information. Some women navigate house and hotel parties fine. Personally I prefer to attend with a strong male partner, I have felt too much like a piece of meat. Some people prefer small groups. Some want ongoing partners, others limit that intentionally. On membership sites I have had better success when I review the profiles and initiate contact. When the rules changed to you need a paid membership to communicate my inbox filled with more unwelcome messages than I could bother with. I ended up deleting my SLS profile after enough, but $$$ from obnoxious members speak louder than educating users. I like to think that swinging sites give me an opening for hopefully open and honest people, but not always.

That is exactly like us when I finally got comfortable with hubby playing with another woman (after me being with my boyfriend two years already) and we started dating women that I chose. Sometimes it went for months, no sex, a minimal amount of flirting (they didn't know in the beginning we were open to hubby and possibly me having sex with her). Whether it led to sex or not it was fun, we never pushed, always paid, and we still friends with them regardless of the outcome.

I think this is more of an attack on the parents of the millennials, and rightfully so. We didn’t get into the lifestyle until both of our kids were in college. Our job was to raise them in the tech age and teach them how to be social. Did we love driving to practices and games 5 days a week? Nope, but that’s how we helped our children develop social skills. Don’t blame the kids because the parents were “too busy” to get involved.

Studies have shown that an overwhelming majority of heroin users started on milk.

I enjoy sex while high on cannabis. I feel it opens levels I can’t reach when not. All of my sensations are at a heightened level and it brings me to a more intense climax.

Ok so two days ago me and my wife were having sex and while we were having sex in doggy style position I had made the comment to get her toy and suck on it then told her it would be hot to watch her suck a dick or eat a girl out while were having sex and at first she was weird out by it but then while still having sex and her thinking about it she got really turned on by it and made the comment that the thought was so hot and really turning her on and well at first I just thought about maybe I was just talking s**t but deeper thought still two days later I don’t think I was I do watch swinger porn and I am even open to full swap possibly can someone help me please the thoughts are still really turning me on

Does anyone believe that Snow White didn't get some action out of those seven dwarfs? Only question is, how many at once? There should be some advantage from them being so compact. Velma hasn't shared any of her intimate details with me, but I think she is bi or lesbian and so hot, in an intelligent, nerdy way. I identify with her - always the one solving the mystery. And those glasses...