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As a Catholic girl raised by strict parents and who went to Catholic school, I thank you. Remember too, Catholicism says no birth control. That's how I got an early introduction to being bum fucked until I got the pill from Planned Parenthood, which I had to keep well hidden. The sex ed we got in Catholic school (separate for the boys and girls) was very much about biology and not much about sex. That's why even now when having sex I think about how the guy ejaculating in me will be leaving a living part of himself swimming around inside for a few days. It's exciting knowing that usually there are living parts of two or three men in me at a time.

Isn't the the start of about half of the porn milf movies? Bam chicka wow wow

Hi all! Married couple from PA here, somewhat new to this sort of thing! I'm 38, and my wife here is 35. Something we have both wanted to try for a long time is a gloryhole. She really likes the anonymity of it. Does anyone have any idea where in Pennsylvania we might actually find one? Would love some advice!

Adding to the list above... We and a small core group of friends (couples and 1 single guy) take turns hosting parties. Anyone in the core group can suggest a new couple provided they have played with them previously and they feel they'll fit in well. (Not all couples are wired for group play) We'll typically only invite 1 new couple at a time, 2 tops... If they hit it off with everyone they'll get invited back. And, because we 'control' who is invited we have not had our booze cabinet emptied or any other issues. Once we know who is attending, we share profile names (with permission) and invite folks to open pictures and chat ahead of time. We have no issue with soft swap couples attending; but they need to be okay with the deeper end of the pool activities going on at the party. The advice #13 is dead on. Part of the appeal of the party is you don't need a 4-way match to play! Gravitate to who you want to play with and enjoy.

As Alura pointed out, you'll be going through a lot of changes in the coming months and years. Your emotions will be all over the place. I sympathize with you. Whenever you feel good about yourself, it will be time to start dating again - and your lifestyle experience will mean very little in that world, even if the woman you are dating is lifestyle friendly. On the other hand, you want sex! If you have some lifestyle contacts from people you've played with, contact them politely. Let hem know you're available if they are interested in MFMs. And you may get invited to house parties and such. Best of luck.

Is it the money?

A common phrase here is “as fast as the slowest partner.” Is she looking at profiles too? Have you tried meet and greets in your area? I hear it’s not easy to find a foursome that clicks and if you try to rush or push her it could backfire and lead to resentment. I have also read about plenty of unpleasant experiences, you don’t want your next letter about that and how do you get her to try swinging again.

I'm 71 and still have that fantasy.

Thank you NC, I was scratching my head on that one too! OP…The answer is patience and getting to the point that your wife accepts that swinging sex is purely recreational. People getting into this hobby first have to disregard lifetimes of conditioning regarding public (and private) morality, acceptable social behavior, traditional sexual relationships and the 'normal' parameters of marriage in our society. Its a tougher climb for some than others. It took us awhile to conclude that we don't NEED to be friends with people with whom we get naked. We merely have to like them and be sexually attracted to them. Developing a friendship is a much longer process than being aroused by a potential new partner. We DO have swinger friends but have found that the friendships have developed over time that initially started with fun sex that we wanted to repeat……and repeat more! For a long time, we had a "not on the first date" rule as well and found that with the pressures of life, jobs, families, etc, etc, even if we were VERY attracted to a couple and felt a mutual buzz, finding more time to nurture the social aspects was a challenge for both couples. Plus, it IS a target rich environment once you get onto sites and we're an instant gratification society so people often move on or simply lose interest. So, we dumped that rule and substituted a 20/20 rule; we tend to recognize within 20 seconds to 20 minutes whether we'll ever want to get naked with the other couple. If it's a yes and the stars have aligned, we now will play on the first date. But that also means that you have to work at refining your selection process and I think that's a matter experience and practice. We've found in recent years that we kiss way fewer frogs now than we did in our early years of swinging. You haven't done badly at all in 3 years when you consider the learning curve involved for both of you.

Same room same partner (no swap)

You may have learned enough playing as part of a couple to become one of the single men who actually know how to behave among swingers. I think Alura's advice is good, the guy is usually right on point. If you decide to take NJBM's advice, I'd suggest you eliminate the pictures of your wife. She IS attractive but she is also NOT a part of the package you're going to promote. Its almost like "click bait" on swingers sites when a single male posts pics of a woman in his profile. I think its deceptive and dishonest.

We don't usually go into these situations with a defined "plan" like most of the other people on this forum do. We don't spend time defining everybody's role and laying down rules because we just don't find that to be fun and sexy. Whether or not I participate really depends on how I feel about the situation and whether I want to join or not. My GF is into really extreme rough sex but I am not. So if a guy is getting really rough with her or doing some other type of sexual fetish with her that I am not into then I will usually not join but I often still find it hot to watch. If they are having more normal sex and I feel like if I join I won't slow things down or anything then I will often participate. It really depends on the scenario but like I said, we really don't go into it with a defined plan.

Put swinging on the back burner. You have plenty to deal with now, adjusting to being single again, mostly. Would you like to be married again? If so, armed with what you learned in your marriage, start looking. I've always thought one who would like to be married to a woman who is stable, knows how to communicate, and would consider swinging would do well by joining a single's intro service and putting exactly what he wants (including swinging) in his profile. There might be fewer interested ladies, but you only need one. I'd take my own advice, but I'm too worn-out to care. Good luck!

If by "hotwife" you mean letting her have some fun the way she wants before her having to deal with the complications of you playing with another woman, then yes that's a great way to start. If she's a good sex partner otherwise, don't complain and certainly don't be depressed. As a woman, I will do oral on a guy whenever he wants, but more than half the time he's putting his dick in my pussy without it. And even when I do suck one of my guys, after a short while they "can't stand it anymore" and want in my pussy. Rarely has a guy wanted me to do oral on him until he came in my mouth. I don't think it's because I'm particularly bad at oral (or my pussy's particularly good), because I see the same with Lora and Clair. Now that I don't understand. Perhaps she just likes the sensation of your dick better and prefers to get off that way. Since I can orgasm several times in succession, I like it as foreplay and as post penis-in-vagina fucking. And it is the essential part of our lovelife among Clair, Lora and me. A few, perhaps, but not "quite a few."

The first time she was with someone bigger than me she was really enjoying, but it didn’t bother me until his wife said to me that he was going to ruin her for me. I thought that was a rude thing to say. I’m not in this lifestyle to compete with anyone and I can satisfy my wife thank you very much! Lol Anyway she doesn’t get upset when I enjoy someone with bigger tits than hers, so why should I get upset if she likes someone with a bigger cock than mine? That’s kind of the fun of it being with someone that isn’t the same as your partner.

I always wore panties of some sort growing up. I think it was for health reasons, I thought. I later learned it was healthier to not wear. I went through phases growing up, cotton underwear at Target with prints. I switched to Victoria Secrets in HS and dating. I had some sexy underwear and then realized guys don’t care, they just wanted them off. I think I wanted panty lines because it gave me shape and then I wore thongs for no lines. A friend once told me my panty lines were horrible and said she never wore underwear. I stopped wearing and then my mom asked me why there wasn’t underwear in the wash. Now I don’t wear if I am wearing jeans or shorts. I wear if skirt or dress. Bra, yes at work or dressy, no if just going out. Don’t think people notice, I’m an A. My husband wears black boxer briefs all the time. I have suggested commando but he doesn’t like the feeling. Happy he does wear. I still enjoy popping it out. Never gets unexciting to do it and that goes for any guy I’m with. I still enjoy the thrill of undressing a guy... or girlfriend

Neither my wife nor I, or any of our swing partners have any restricts on contacting each other by phone, text or email. Once you've taken the issue that one of us might be having sex with someone else off the table as a matter of concern, there is no issue. We do not, however, sext. Even the rich and powerful have been hacked, so we don't think we're immune. The type of communication depends on who prefers what and the circumstance.

Its a "girl gangbang". I went back and re-read to make sure I spelled it right and it was. A girl ganbang is just what it implies: a Couple of females are the "agressors / bulls" and a female who is the "target" are gangbanged, usually by females with talented hands, lips or strap-ons. In the case of my wife it was all three, from what I was told.

I like to relax in a chair to watch. We tried double teaming her but after a few experiences she confessed that she likes to focus on one of us at a time.

For this male two women is sensory overload, like chocolate cake that makes your teeth ache.

I've said it before in other threads, but there's no arguing with FMF, yet MFM is just more practical in a lot of ways.

I like being one of the women in an FFM, I get the best of both worlds, and the feeling that we are "using" the man.

This is why it is important to have good pictures (we hope ours are at least okay). We have some of her, one or two of me, and several of us together (important to show that we are actually a couple)...and not a single dick picture.

We know of nothing in central Pa but there is a club in MD, about 25 miles south of Lancaster that has a room with three glory holes. The Private Affair (TPA) is a very nice , no pressure and friendly place. Unlike adult stores that have glory holes, we've been to a couple in South Florida, TPA is VERY clean and, since it IS a swingers club, you can be assured that the guys there have taken a shower that day. Mrs Doc loves the anonymity too, she also loves the control and power she has while there. She can pick and choose dicks, decide whether she'll jerk him off, or suck him, she 'll bring one guy right to the edge then move to the next or move back and forth between all three. Sometimes a woman will stick a boob through the hole or back her pussy up to it. Sometimes my wife will back up to the hole and let a guy get her off and on the rare occasion, she'll roll a condom on one and back right on to it. We've had some incredibly hot times in that room. Even if you're up in the mountains around Huntingdon or Juniata County, the experience under clean and very safe circumstances is worth the drive. Do let us know what happens if you decide to go.

Part of the fun of having sex with other people is exploring what they like, and how they like it. My wife and I are pretty much open to anything, but we are extremely sensitive to what others like and don't like. We like the variety, even if it's something we wouldn't do every day. Aggressiveness is one of those things. My wife isn't particularly aggressive, but does it for one guy whose wife thinks it's "sick." I've been on both sides of it with different women; it's just fun seeing how they get off, even if ass-slapping isn't my thing.

we had a man join us this weekend. He was openly bisexual and asked if he could join us after chatting at the nude pool all afternoon. He wanted to please both of us so he went down on me while I rode my husbands cock. His oral skills were amazing and had me cumming repeatedly. In return he wanted my husband to himself for a bit. Watching him suck my husbands cock was one of the hottest things I have seen. He wanted more so I watched my husband fuck him. I masturbated hard and had an incredible orgasm with my husband as he pulled out and ejaculated all over him. His cock was perfect so I asked him to finish i me. I offered up my pussy to him. It only took a few strokes and his huge cock emptied inside me. I guess we are hedonists - we don’t get hung up on labels and are all about the pleasure. Fortunately we have friends that are into the same with no judgement or weirdness.

In both cases, something we tried at the wives' urging, but haven't done again. We guys in our group of play couples prefer much more playing with women. Doubling up on one of the girls or going in for seconds is as far as we take it now.

My first time was with a couple who wanted to have a 3-some with an uncircumcised guy. Once she had me in her mouth she all the sudden stopped and asked if her hubby could have a taste. What was I to say? I've been fine with it ever since and had a taste myself.

My first was with a couple that started off as a hotwife/threesome but rapidly progressed to the husband being a sub cuckold. We had planned my first sleepover with them which started with me fucking her while he watched and after I blew my load in her pussy he wanted to eat her but she was kinda uncomfortable with it. She cleaned my cock and as soon as she was done he kissed her before she could react, and said she tasted good. We went out for drinks and dinner and on the drive back she got in the back seat and after sucking and fucking I left another load in her pussy. We got back to their place and did a few rounds of shots and were nicely buzzed and naked messing around. He asked me if I had cum in her pussy and the second I said yes he went down on her while I kinda sat on her face with my cock in her mouth. After a few mins he got on top of her in missionary while she was still sucking me and he put his head by hers. For a while she alternated sucking me and kissing him and then he asked me permission to suck my cock. She moaned when she heard him and I said yes and they both started sucking me while kissing each other. The dominance was HOT and we had many evenings of him sucking me ready, cleaning me up etc

I would never post or send a sex tape to anyone. I don’t even trust cloud storage.