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It does. Trust me, it does. I work in IT and to some regard in security/privacy. There is an absolute _wealth_ of information out there about everyone. It's not just the visible stuff you can search for either; personally identifiable information is a very hot commodity between companies. Targeted investments in marketing yield higher revenues on the bottom line. They get that targeted information from watching what you do online, on your shopping cards, in your credit card purchases, etc. In the U.S., there's virtually no protections against this. Everyone is a victim.

The other wife and I had that discussion once about what if we were together... We agreed it wouldn't be as good, even if we were non-monogamous, which would be less likely because both our respective spouses led the way. As a couple we would both be more one dimensional along our common interest. In other words, what we are doing has strengthened both our marriages. Our single point of intensity is no match for the broad attraction that we have for our spouses.

I'm more comfortable in a normal cowgirl orientation. It is a position of least resistance especially if the man's tool is too big for me (I'm petite). I can control the depth and movement to make it less painful at the start. It is usually the man who requests a reverse cowgirl pose to get a closer look of my bum in action or to see me stretched while entering and leaving me. Sometimes, I find it painful and uncomfortable. I suspect it depends on the shape of the penis. A curved or "banana shaped" tool doesnt work for me in reverse cowgirl. For me, there is definitely an emotional difference between the two. It is in the way the man looks at me. If it is affectionate, I prefer facing him. If he looks "too hungry", I feel shy and would rather do a reverse.

If you read all the posts about finding a unicorn it will get you down. Looking back I was the unicorn without knowing it. Most will say don’t do it but my first was with a friend. You might be surprised that odds are at least one of your friends play. It is very hard to figure which friend that is. Good luck.

WELCOME to the board! I have to say I've never encountered a person who is a virgin who has come to this forum. You are most welcome here! Being a virgin, a swinging experience might offer challenges to you and to another couple willing to have you. These are not insurmountable if you are mature, open, and patient. Some couples may be concerned about your lack of experience, and that this being your first sexual experience you might not respond quite appropriately. I would encourage you to keep reading threads here, most especially when they have to do with MFMs. You can gain a lot of knowledge here just by reading. Understand your own expectations. You may not get very much out of this experience on an emotional level, and you might be disappointed about that. Some couples may be willing to play with you more than once, in which case a sense of friendship may well develop. Chance are though that you will feel a very strong sense of new relationship euphoria (NRE). When this kicks in, you will be head over heels emotional, and not have the same returned to you. Be prepared for that. Understand that the NRE will likely guide you in improper ways as a third in a threesome if you play more than once with a couple. Understand your role; it's primarily a sexual relationship, and often little more than that. To your questions.... My wife and I are (barely) old enough to be your parents. The age difference isn't necessarily a problem for us. My wife considered a guy of similar difference in age, but decided against him. Part of it was age, but only a small part. Most of it had to do that she didn't quite feel the attraction she wanted to have for him. Had that been there, the age would have been a non-issue. Without it, the age was a bit of a compounding issue, if that makes sense. In general, my wife is intrigued with the idea of having a play partner who can go many times, and a younger man has a better chance of that than an older one. Some couples will not consider you at all, simply because you are a virgin. Every couple is different. Also understand; I would venture to guess there are more men in this lifestyle than there are couples looking for single men. You have something unusual to offer, which can both help you and hurt you. In doing this, you have to put your best foot forward. Whatever profile you create, say on SLS, make sure it's a good one and not one sentence. It's your best marketing tool. Use it appropriately. The use of condoms isn't about getting pregnant for us; it's about disease. My wife can't get pregnant. We are willing for my wife to play without condoms, and she has on several occasions. Only once was it the first time with a guy (story elsewhere on here). Otherwise, it's always been someone she's played with a few times already. She far prefers sex without condoms much more so than any other woman I've known, and very particularly likes having men cum inside her. But, disease is a reality and condoms on first dates are always a given. In your case, if it were us we'd possibly consider no condom if we felt we could trust you and your statements that you are a virgin. That's something we'd judge in person. Other couples may vary in their position on this. Just relating how we'd approach it. I can't speak to the position of you having sex with a woman and the husband having sex with you. We've never done this, and very likely won't. I'm fully comfortable with the full LGBTQ+ spectrum, but I consider myself about 99% heterosexual, so having sex with a guy isn't something I'd do. I say 99%, and not 100% because there once was a telephone repair guy (how stereotypical is that!) who came to the business where I was the employee who was working with him showing him where things were. I had a strong reaction to him that I've never had with a guy before or since. I don't think a couple being mature has much of an effect on sex positions, unless we're talking about some serious feats of gymnastics in bed. It's never been a problem for us, and I doubt it will be a problem in the future..at least for a couple of decades. I suspect that, this being your first time, you might have some problems with your erection period. Then again, you might not. It could also be that this position of you having sex with a woman while a man has sex with you might be so overpowering to you that you will (a) be harder than concrete and (b) not last long My wife and I have tried double vaginal penetration. I'm 6" and apparently thicker than 90% of the male population. The other guy was similar in length, and not quite as thick. We tried for quite a while to make it work. We found that what was likely needed was two men with 8" or more. On your Catholic upbringing; there are quite a few people on here who are 'recovering Catholics'. I remember a line from Law & Order, with Stone who said "I'm Catholic. I can feel guilty about anything!" I'm not going to try to convince you of anything regarding your spirituality, as that is your own journey. Welcome, though, to a very different view on the world. Being willing to have sex with a married couple doesn't have to mean giving up your spirituality. You are correct that the community here is welcoming and encouraging. We are very much a supportive group. The advice by others given above is testament to that; the advice to speak with a sex counselor isn't a bad idea at all. I can't speak to your psychology on this; only you can. I do think it can help, and would help to answer some questions within yourself as well. From what little I can read between the lines on your posts here, if I might be so bold; I see you very focused on the fantasies aspect of that. I understand that. But, I would strongly encourage you to approach this from a more tame set of expectations stand point. If you end up deciding to do an MFM as a first experience, go in with no expectations. Just relax, be you, and hope to have a good time. The first time shouldn't be wrapped up in a huge set of expectations anyway; that will ruin it.

As advised in an earlier post: Meet women in real life, it's important to listen and just let a woman talk; and I made sure they met my husband. It was more than just "met," if there was a connection we would "date" her together, take her to dinner and the theater, even go on trips/vacations together, get her a separate room. We always paid for it all. There was never any expectations or pressure. But I would leave her alone with him or let them do things together. He wouldn't hit on her, but she got the sense that I was good with it and wasn't jealous. The sex between hubby and me after a date with a woman was explosive. Subsequently, whenever she would turn the conversation to sex, I would continue to listen more than talk, but said things that solicited opinions about hubby (most said I was lucky to "catch" him), say that hubby and I were open about our past sex life, let her know that I was an unjealous person. When she would say that he was attractive, I would agree and say that he was the best lover I ever had. Then, if it got to that point, when she implied that she found him attractive, I would say that hubby told me he finds you attractive too. The final step was her saying it would be nice to try him; I would say, "That can be arranged." That was pattern, and it worked if it got that far. It was also a huge power trip for me to go home and tell hubby, "I've arranged for you to have sex with Amy." More took me up on it than I expected, but only a few let me watch. One of the women who did, Clair, played with me as well and opened up my Lesbian side. She came to live with us and formed our poly family. There was never any pressure and regardless of how it turned out there were never any regrets by anyone. (Some women were overly concerned about how I felt afterwards. They didn't know that they were doing me a favor.) We are still friends with those we are in contact with, including two who are married. One husband definitely knows about his wife and my husband, and is cool with it.

Marshall’s? Lol. TJ Maxx. If I feel like splurging Victoria Secrets. My husband likes my cotton bikinis.

Next week I will let you know about our newbie experience of going to a club out of state. Eyes wide open!

Well, we've met with them yesterday and it was a blast, all that sexting made us to go insane when we met, I suggest you to try as well.

Numex, this is exactly the kind of relationship that the O'Neills postulated when they wrote the book "Open Marriage" back in the '80s. You and the other wife have things in common that your spouses don't. If you and she hadn't found each other, your interests would suffer. Instead, your life, and the life of the other spouse are enriched. At the same time, you're not endangering your marriage and will be able to keep that wonderful relationship solid. Congratulations.

In any threesome there is a point where it is a two-some with the third not having an active role. This can often cause some discomfort and even hurt if they players don't understand this and even talk about it. I've been the special guest star and recognize when the couple are into each other and not me. I try to do what I can to let them enjoy even if I just stay close. A couple not prepared for this can be caught off guard. Good communication is the ultimate intimacy.

It all depends for us. When we have foursomes we normally play in the same room. We enjoy the sounds and sights of watching each other. Alos, it seems that most of our partners enjoy same room as well. When my wife has a lover over, we both prefer that I stay in the room with them, watching first and then taking part as they begin to slow down. But we sometimes get in moods where we'd rather be off by ourselves, and we're both fine with it if it turns out that way. And if our partners want it that separate rooms, we almost always agree.

****WARNING: GRAPHIC IN AN EFFORT TO EXPLAIN!**** For me (the male)/us it's the 'scene' of her watching me suck him and tasting them mixed together and anticipating feeling his hard cock pulsate in my mouth as I greedily take his entire thick load into my mouth where I swish it around, savoring the texture, flavor, heat, and most importantly taste, before gulping it down. Hearing him moaning and groaning under me as my hands grope and feel his tensing body with pending explosion coupled with hearing them BOTH telling me how much my efforts turn them on and how they love to watch me. Hearing my wife express her desire with the under tones of his grunting how he is about to blow his cum down my cum hungry throat just amps me up beyond any imagination! Before anyone says one of the words of many I hate the most: CUCKOLD. I'm NOT, nor is she, into that! For "US" it's not about humiliation, forcing, or domination it's about the exploration of turning each other on while enjoying the moment, the act, the outcome, and more importantly the experience TOGETHER. Turning someone ON to the height of total ecstasy is a power, feeling, emotion that is beyond words. So in short...go enjoy cum!!!