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Reading the thread about SLS changing around some things on their site has me wondering. A lot of the people seem to think, as well as my wife and I, that they’re trying to push us to more rely on the app. I’ve seen quite a few comments where people say they won’t download the app because they don’t want the SLS icon visible on their phone. This leads to my question. Aside from maybe your parents or your children, do you really give a shit who knows or assumes you’re a swinger? We have friends that know, friends that are suspicious, coworkers that know and plenty of friends, family and coworkers that have no clue. We honestly couldn’t care less who knows, or what they think of us because of it.

We are not particularly concerned about who knows. Our oldest daughter suspects. Both sets of parents are dead. Mrs Doc's sister can never know, a more judgmental woman has never walked the earth and yet they look very much alike (what a shame!! A fantasy that will NEVER happen)… Most of our friends are swingers, a lot of our vanilla friends either know or suspect. Due to our fabric free pool and the fact that voices carry well over the lake water that backs up to the pool, some of our neighbors can't help but know. Our only major concern is our employers. We live on the Gulf coast, a very religious area compared to the more cosmopolitan MIA/FLL. So we try to be very careful talking about our weekends to colleagues and around bosses. Most people can think what they will of us but we believe that we've really broken the code to a successful marriage and a fun life.

OK, I'll admit one of my fantasies is to eat my wife's pussy after another man has cum inside of her. I also wouldn't mind eating a cum filled pussy other than my wife's. I have had this fantasy for years, but have never had the chance to do it, mostly because my wife doesn't want me to and secondly because I haven't done it before and I have the "First Time Factor" syndrome....I guess I am a little reserved. I've asked my wife several times in the past before we play with another to let me come over after he has cum inside her and have me clean her up. She knows I want to suck her cum filled pussy. I've even considered eating her pussy after I cum in her, and a few times have come close but she gently pushes my head away. A few times I have brought myself just to climax then held back and cum a little in and on her pussy without her knowing and then went down on her and sucked her. So, how many people here, men and women like to have their pussies eaten after being fucked and like to eat cum filled pussies? I don't think I'm too weird. Maybe I am. I wish my wife would let me do it. I did have the opportunity once to suck my cum out of the female partner of a couple we were playing with, but I sort of chickened out....I think because it was all my cum. However I am sure if it was another man's cum I would have went right down and sucked her clean. What's others experiences? Yes or No? Good or Bad?

We can’t be the only ones that find it ridiculous when a couple only has pics of the wife and nothing of the husband except maybe a useless cock pic! We see this far to often on online profiles and can’t help, but think fugly husband using his wife to try to get some. The other one we see all the time is someone listed as a single woman with a profile all about her with pics of just her and one line that says I have a husband and we only play together. No pics or stats of this mystery husband, but he is going to be there to. With both these types of profiles it also always seems to be that mystery guy that contacts us and a lot of the times he is just looking to play alone. Come on guys you are not going find anyone stupid enough to fall for this baiting tactic! If you got nothing going on yourself it doesn’t matter how hot your wife might be you are not going to be getting any. We might be interested in playing with her alone, but you are not going to be getting invited.

biloxi, still trying to figure out if you’re nudist swungers, Napoleon or both.

Absolutely want to stay closeted. Both of us are in leadership roles in our respective organizations. One in an organization built around religious structures me and principles. Not to mention her family of Italian Catholics who are devout. If people near us don’t get that we enjoy sex then they are blind or in denial but still don’t feel that it’s anyones business what we do in our bedroom, either with eachother or with other consenting adults.

We both love group sex and so for most of our swinging years, we were a same room couple. We met a couple this last year who were new and uncomfortable about playing with someone else in front of each other, especially the wife. We'd only gone off separately at a few house parties so it was somewhat new territory for us but we really liked this couple and Mrs Doc felt very safe with the husband. It was REALLY different for us but we both found that we enjoyed how much more intimate the sex was especially since I could hear her with him just down the hall and she could hear us. So our answer to the question is both depending upon the circumstances.

I prefer the reverse cowgirl position. I like the way my partner’s penis feels in this position and I also like to get oral at the same time - this position allows for that to happen.

I'm more comfortable in a normal cowgirl orientation. It is a position of least resistance especially if the man's tool is too big for me (I'm petite). I can control the depth and movement to make it less painful at the start. It is usually the man who requests a reverse cowgirl pose to get a closer look of my bum in action or to see me stretched while entering and leaving me. Sometimes, I find it painful and uncomfortable. I suspect it depends on the shape of the penis. A curved or "banana shaped" tool doesnt work for me in reverse cowgirl. For me, there is definitely an emotional difference between the two. It is in the way the man looks at me. If it is affectionate, I prefer facing him. If he looks "too hungry", I feel shy and would rather do a reverse.

Yes, we use code words, too. I've written a story about meeting a single male in a bar, here is the excerpt. (Mary is my wife, Michael is the man we're meeting. But after we talked for fifteen minutes, we went through our routine. “What kind of music do you like?” Mary asked Michael. This put me on alert. “Oh, just about anything. Not a big fan of country. What about you?” “Yeah, we’ve got a wide variety we like too. I’m a holdover from my father, he always liked Frank Sinatra.” As far as I know Big Jim hated Ol’ Blue Eyes, but it was our signal. Once Mary mentioned Sinatra, it was the same as telling me, ‘Listen, Adam, I’m hot as hell for this guy. I want to take him home right now and do him. What do you think?’ Now I had to respond. Mary always gave me a chance to veto the guy if I thought there was something wrong with him, or something I just didn’t like. If I wanted to end the evening, all I had to do was mention the Pet Shop Boys, Mary would take that as a ‘let’s not.’ But I liked Michael, I could tell they had the hots for each other, so I said, “Yeah, he’s always been one of my favorites too, for an old guy. Strangers in the Night was a great song.” By mentioning any tune by Sinatra, I’d agreed to let the night continue. “I never could get into him,” Michael observed, thinking we were actually talking about music. He was oblivious to the notion my wife and I had had a complete conversation, and he’d been moved, seconded, and an unanimous vote taken.

If you read all the posts about finding a unicorn it will get you down. Looking back I was the unicorn without knowing it. Most will say don’t do it but my first was with a friend. You might be surprised that odds are at least one of your friends play. It is very hard to figure which friend that is. Good luck.

This happened in a very short time after posting on here. I wasn’t shopping, I wasn’t searching, I just posted on a site. Am I going to get my FB loaded with ads for underwear now? I could understand getting an email about something I searched the Internet for but here I posted on a site with a little ci on it. Doesn’t that mean secure? I swear Alexa listens too.

WELCOME to the board! I have to say I've never encountered a person who is a virgin who has come to this forum. You are most welcome here! Being a virgin, a swinging experience might offer challenges to you and to another couple willing to have you. These are not insurmountable if you are mature, open, and patient. Some couples may be concerned about your lack of experience, and that this being your first sexual experience you might not respond quite appropriately. I would encourage you to keep reading threads here, most especially when they have to do with MFMs. You can gain a lot of knowledge here just by reading. Understand your own expectations. You may not get very much out of this experience on an emotional level, and you might be disappointed about that. Some couples may be willing to play with you more than once, in which case a sense of friendship may well develop. Chance are though that you will feel a very strong sense of new relationship euphoria (NRE). When this kicks in, you will be head over heels emotional, and not have the same returned to you. Be prepared for that. Understand that the NRE will likely guide you in improper ways as a third in a threesome if you play more than once with a couple. Understand your role; it's primarily a sexual relationship, and often little more than that. To your questions.... My wife and I are (barely) old enough to be your parents. The age difference isn't necessarily a problem for us. My wife considered a guy of similar difference in age, but decided against him. Part of it was age, but only a small part. Most of it had to do that she didn't quite feel the attraction she wanted to have for him. Had that been there, the age would have been a non-issue. Without it, the age was a bit of a compounding issue, if that makes sense. In general, my wife is intrigued with the idea of having a play partner who can go many times, and a younger man has a better chance of that than an older one. Some couples will not consider you at all, simply because you are a virgin. Every couple is different. Also understand; I would venture to guess there are more men in this lifestyle than there are couples looking for single men. You have something unusual to offer, which can both help you and hurt you. In doing this, you have to put your best foot forward. Whatever profile you create, say on SLS, make sure it's a good one and not one sentence. It's your best marketing tool. Use it appropriately. The use of condoms isn't about getting pregnant for us; it's about disease. My wife can't get pregnant. We are willing for my wife to play without condoms, and she has on several occasions. Only once was it the first time with a guy (story elsewhere on here). Otherwise, it's always been someone she's played with a few times already. She far prefers sex without condoms much more so than any other woman I've known, and very particularly likes having men cum inside her. But, disease is a reality and condoms on first dates are always a given. In your case, if it were us we'd possibly consider no condom if we felt we could trust you and your statements that you are a virgin. That's something we'd judge in person. Other couples may vary in their position on this. Just relating how we'd approach it. I can't speak to the position of you having sex with a woman and the husband having sex with you. We've never done this, and very likely won't. I'm fully comfortable with the full LGBTQ+ spectrum, but I consider myself about 99% heterosexual, so having sex with a guy isn't something I'd do. I say 99%, and not 100% because there once was a telephone repair guy (how stereotypical is that!) who came to the business where I was the employee who was working with him showing him where things were. I had a strong reaction to him that I've never had with a guy before or since. I don't think a couple being mature has much of an effect on sex positions, unless we're talking about some serious feats of gymnastics in bed. It's never been a problem for us, and I doubt it will be a problem in the future..at least for a couple of decades. I suspect that, this being your first time, you might have some problems with your erection period. Then again, you might not. It could also be that this position of you having sex with a woman while a man has sex with you might be so overpowering to you that you will (a) be harder than concrete and (b) not last long My wife and I have tried double vaginal penetration. I'm 6" and apparently thicker than 90% of the male population. The other guy was similar in length, and not quite as thick. We tried for quite a while to make it work. We found that what was likely needed was two men with 8" or more. On your Catholic upbringing; there are quite a few people on here who are 'recovering Catholics'. I remember a line from Law & Order, with Stone who said "I'm Catholic. I can feel guilty about anything!" I'm not going to try to convince you of anything regarding your spirituality, as that is your own journey. Welcome, though, to a very different view on the world. Being willing to have sex with a married couple doesn't have to mean giving up your spirituality. You are correct that the community here is welcoming and encouraging. We are very much a supportive group. The advice by others given above is testament to that; the advice to speak with a sex counselor isn't a bad idea at all. I can't speak to your psychology on this; only you can. I do think it can help, and would help to answer some questions within yourself as well. From what little I can read between the lines on your posts here, if I might be so bold; I see you very focused on the fantasies aspect of that. I understand that. But, I would strongly encourage you to approach this from a more tame set of expectations stand point. If you end up deciding to do an MFM as a first experience, go in with no expectations. Just relax, be you, and hope to have a good time. The first time shouldn't be wrapped up in a huge set of expectations anyway; that will ruin it.

Our thing was and have been pictures. Many are self taken.....a challenge to say the least. But most of our pictures are of events....MFM, MMFMM, Gang bangs, couples and multiple couples a few, sadly very few FMF and one FFMF. Some photos edited to creat sex art. Most all to relive the moment. Slide shows used at gatherings rather then commercial porn video. Always seemed that people preferred photos rather than video porn.....and many enjoyed seeing themselves or those they know in action. Only used in a closed setting.

I shave all week. Sometimes I don't on weekends. I've found that by sunday afternoon, if I rub my face on her neck, the stubble somehow makes her nipples hard. If I she's in the mood, she'll want me to rub my face over her boobs and pay particular attention to her nipples. After a little while she'll push my face downward. Mrs Doc absolutely loves the feel of stubble on her inner thighs and around her pussy.

They do not serve doughnuts. They roll doughnuts than take flying Fs at them.

Is enjoyment of sex affecting any other part of your life? I once thought my sex life could be called an addiction. My husband and I have sex almost every day. We enjoy ending our day with love making and many days start the day with sex. I admit being late to work more than once. We both enjoy visiting friends for swinging and that affects our watching TV or me shopping. I would state that we look for every way to have sex so I don’t need to go shopping. I won’t say I’m really addicted even though since opening my mind to sex with others than my husband, I do enjoy sex with our friend when my husband is out of town and even play with toys when alone (please don’t think less of me for having toys lol)

I am a wife who has liked my guys to eat my pussy after it's filled. My clit used to be ultra sensitive, then got it pierced which helps, and when with multiple partners, I love to see others swapping the cum and share with me too.

Laura and I have been in the Lifestyle for some time, and I never grow tired of her being fucked by one or more guys who can dump their cum in her, and when she wants me to clean her, I have grown used to it, and find it gets better with time, to now I welcome it. Dave

My husband loves to eat my pussy while another man is fucking me. When the man cums I sit up over his mouth and give him a very wet cream pie. I also like doing that with another woman while a man is fucking her. Deb

I recently had the opportunity to do this. We had played with another couple we met at a club and they slept over with us on our king size bed. The next morning, I work up to the sounds of lovemaking on the other side of the bed. It was the other couple getting it on. My wife was still sleeping next to me, so I eased out of bed and over to the other side of the bed and watched and helped our with my hands where I could. Finally they finished and started getting up to go home. I asked him if he had creamed her. He is like...yeah...Damn that excited me. I asked him if I could eat her out. He turned to her they nodded to each other and said sure. I laid her back on the bed, kneeled on the floor beside the bed and had a feast. I wanted to fuck her so bad right then, and I am sure I could have, but I just didn't feel right about doing it with my wife missing out on all of it. Finally I sat up, tapped her on the thigh, held out my hands to help her up, and said thank you very much. Gave her a very nice goodbye kiss and told them we can't wait to play with them again. And out the door they went. WOW!!!! Did that really happen??

My most memorable moment didn't even involve sex. We were having a custom home built. The builder I'd selected was about our age and my wife thought he was good looking. His wife was a complete knockout. We became more than clients and had become pretty good friends during the months the house was being built. One evening we were at their home. During conversation something was said about something and a certain man's name was mentioned. This was a man that my wife and I had swinging experiences with and we, instantly, knew that if they knew him too then we shared something special with them. There was a moment of silence as all four of us knew what had been revealed, then there were big grins all around. That sure expanded the friendship.