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I lived through the Hippie era, including an overland trip from Germany to India. I ran into a lot of pot smokers. When I worked on a cattle ranch in my youth, I used to hang out and dance in a country saloon with other cowhands and cowgirls. I met a lot of drinkers. I can say with confidence that I never saw a pothead become angry and violent. I never saw a boozer who became thoughtful and introspective. I saw a lot of bar fights.

I find it very sad that the general public accepts TV shows movies and video games that mow down people in a hailstorm of bullets and a shower of blood and call it entertainment, but showing a nipple or bare butt is pornographic. Society has finally gotten to where it (for the most part) accepts all kinds of pairings be it hetero, homo, bi, trans, etc... but a couple inviting another couple or single to have sex, in spite of it being one of (if not the largest) sexual fantasy out there, is still shameful and unacceptable. Its time will come, it has to...it just isn't going to be today.

We prefer profiles that have 420 friendly in them and we have it on ours! We live in Canada where it is now finally legal as it should have been all along. The best playing experiences we have had so far in the lifestyle have been with others that do it as well. It makes both of us horny as hell and the sex with others that are also users has been insanely hot. Having it on our profile has most definitely turned many people off and to be honest we could really care less, because they are obviously not the kind of people that are on the same page as us and we probably are going to have a totally different opinion on many things in life if they consider pot some hard drug for addicts. We don’t live with views from the 1940’s and don’t tend to get along with uniformed people that do. People that are pro booze, but are uptight about pot are the ones we avoid 100 percent. In my 48 years of life on this earth I have seen multiple peoples lives destroyed by drinking. Families destroyed, jobs lost, addiction battles, lives lost, people abused at the hands of a drunk and people losing everything. This seems to be acceptable to many of the pot is dirty and bad crowd for whatever reason. In contrast to that I have never seen any of those things happen, because someone chooses to partake in some 420 ever and I have been around it most of my life.

We simply gave up worrying about it. We don’t openly advertise but if someone finds out, they are either involved or it’s just a coincidence. We do take to a few select friends about our nude beach experiences and a very small few that we are actual swingers. We have both seen our pictures show up in other sites that show our fave. We got smart quickly back in our AFF and SLS days nit to trust anyone and there are a few pricks live get off on taking pics at the beach. Life is too short to worry about it so as long as we continue to have great experiences, it’s going to take more than some shocked friends or family members to stop us in our tracks. We both ran out of fucks a long time go and have no more to give.

It didn't take either of us hardly any time to accept the idea...it took only slightly longer to 'get used' to the idea. For both of us we were married before for over 20 years. Her husband brought up swinging (with friends which is where our strong feelings about NOT swinging with friends come from) in an effort to 'save' their marriage...it didn't. My ex would never even consider the idea of swinging due to the complete lack of trust we had...in fact, any time I went anywhere without her, she accused me of cheating on her. I was raised with a strong Christian upbringing, but I always seem to ask too many questions (and wasn't given very good answers). Why there was so much love in the world, we were 'forced' to limit it to only one person (our spouse)...unless we had children, in which we were limited to our spouse and children...oh, and our parents...and friends, etc (I know, different kinds of love, but isn't love love?). Was love and sex the same thing? (no) We can love others but can only have sex with one person? Also, in the old testament, having multiple wives was common place...why was loving and having sex with more than one wife okay then but not now. Roman bath houses were places where most people would go to 'bathe'...and have sex and this was okay? Why was sex something that was so fun and exciting limited to only one other person? At some point I was always just told 'because that's how it is' (shut up kid, you bother me...) I wanted my next relationship to be based on trust and love so from the start honesty and full disclosure was installed as bedrock. We told each other about our entire sexual history as well as our sexual fantasies. She told me about how her and her ex tried swinging, and , surprising to me, how she didn't have a problem with the swinging part, but just that the relationship was just too far gone when they started. I told her that I didn't think love and/or sex should have limits imposed on them. She said that if I was interested in finding other people to have sex with, we needed to do it together...but I could take the lead in finding them. It took a few weeks to make sure that she was serious and not just saying it to 'appease' me. Then came the over-analyzation (something we both do), long discussions about rules and limits, and the trek of finding another couple that 'matched'. As we took each step, we found that most of our rules, originally set to keep us from damaging our relationship, were unnecessary because we trusted each other (trust is what keeps the 'green monster' away). Okay, now I'm starting to ramble...Love trust and communication...and doing this together, made it easy to accept and enjoy. I know that there are some (most) people who just aren't 'wired' for this, but I think that it's because they don't place a high enough value on the love/trust/communicate part of their relationship. Only the few who have developed wings can ever fly about the rest.

Yes, when you are of an age you will lose your erection after you orgasm. You noticed that you were harder than normal. From my experience, had you and your wife continued to play, you would have found that after a normal recuperative period you would have easily gotten hard again, and that erection would have lasted quite a while. In LifeStyle circumstances, Viagra is very good for playing multiple times in one night. I find that the effects of the drug last for around twenty to thirty hours. So if you wake your wife up the next morning, she'll get a nice surprise.

Seriously both viagara and cialis are responsive. The injectibles like tri mix are active regardless.

How dare you disagree lol. I read your answer last night and thought about all night. I still think I rather be on top and most likely goes back to when I was first having sex. I think that first boyfriend wasn’t that good at missionary and I found me being on top felt better. I think that is the reason but I’m not sure. I am trying to remember the beginning of my sex life, was I the one who initiated the me on top? I am thinking the guys enjoy when I go on top but do I do it to just please? I can say I enjoy being on my back and being pleased. Even orally I can start on my back and then usually roll over on top. I’m sure Freud would find that interesting. Now years after my first sex experiences and many more partners in the last few years than I had before my first 3some I find I enjoy me on top most, even with girlfriends.

My doubts were before we started. I now have no problem having her spend a night with our friends. I only enjoy the stories about her and her girlfriend and don’t need all the details outside of that. Her girlfriend reciprocates spending nights with us and I enjoy watching them play with the extra benefit of playing with this really fine friend.

Thanks for posting and sharing your story. This site is for everyone, and we're glad be reading your posts!

Been lurking for a loooooooooooonnnnnnng time, used it to educate my self and wife...but wife does not want participate at this time, maybe in future (she says)...I respect her wishes and I envy everyone who does enjoy this lifestyle...it must be difficult to find 4 people that like each other..or at least respect each other's boundaries...I haven't given up hope that she'll get motivated soon. Thanks for listening

You are so right. Last weekend I played in the gloryhole room with another lady friend. We totally get off on the whole experience as the guys poke their hard cocks in for us to sample. It’s always fun to try to guess who belongs to which cock when we leave and see the guys out on the dance floor or around the club. One of the guys had a huge cock - honestly I could barely fit the head in my mouth. When we left the room, my husband introduced me to him and did he wanted to join us in one of the rooms. I agreed and we grabbed a room and sure enough i recognized the massive cock once we got undressed. My husband couldn’t wait to see me tackle that monster. After some fun foreplay I got in the missionary position and invited him to take me. My husband watched intently as he worked his penis around my opening. The guy really did nothing for me but to be honest i did want to feel what his big cock would be like inside me. Before I was really ready he steamrolled inside me. He was every bit of 10” and as thick as a beer bottle. My husband loves watching him stretch my pussy but it was nothing short of unpleasant for me. After a few minutes of thrusting he thankfully ejaculated and was finished. I never came close to an orgasm and my pussy was spent for the night. I have had some very big guys who know how to fuck and a big penis does feel very good - but so does a 5 or 6 inch cock that hits all the right places. I think got guys it is a thrill to see your wife take. big penis especially if they are on the smaller side but at least for me, I’m happy with any cock that’s attached to a great guy.

I believe that this is the first and only time that I disagree with you. I am so excited as I get naked; lie on my back; spread my legs, pull my knees up in anticipation; put a finger in to pull the juices up front; see him becoming erect to get us both going...

I find it very sad that the general public accepts couples where one of the spouses have secret affairs but get all bent out of shape with couplee who decide to live a non-monogamous lifestyle where no one is hurt.

I can tell you after a number of years undercover in vice and narcotics, the reality of a hooker/escort will NEVER live up to the fantasy unless you're wealthy enough to reach into the "exclusive" category. Generally speaking, you get what you pay for and unless you're willing to spring four figures with a decimal after the last 0, you'd do better in a meat market at home or on a swingers site.

I understand the well intentioned thinking but ultimately someone is being left out of the loop and eventually the truth will come out. It is dishonest and may lead to more problems. I think a better approach would be to agree to meet to see if there is any interest in future play but be clear it’s not going to happen at the first meet.

I appreciate your play on words.

Kik so far is still up and running

And I agree with you. I've had two babies pass that way and still don't want to try it. (BTW, being tight has a lot to do with your muscles, not the vag itself.) I'm unable to orgasm by anal alone, although I'll do it every so often if one of my guys wants it. But pussy/anal DP does feel good for me both physically and psychologically.

When I met the person who became my wife, I knew she was sexually active with other men. It didn't bother me, and when we got married we became monogamous almost by default. Fast forward twenty years. We started talking about it, started thinking. We talked, fantasized. For three years! So by the time we finally did it, I was used to the thought so the actual deed wasn't a big deal. It was exciting, yes, and when a few months later we got into MFMs, I loved it. But it was never 'hard' for me to see her with someone else, and it wasn't hard for her to let me have a good time.

Thanks for the good questions, Lee. I'll try to answer them. I've not questioned my sexuality. I just didn't worry about "his juice." I do remember a time when Laura and I had same-bed swapped with Ron and Linda. Both mixed couples had finished. I was lying on my back, gasping, when Laura, who hadn't climaxed, said, "I need your magic tongue, Darling!" and climbed aboard my face. As she spread her labia and nestled them around my nose, the dam broke. I pushed it aside with my tongue, letting it cascade down my cheeks and set about achieving my goal. Ron took one of her nipples in his mouth and Linda the other. Laura held their heads in her hands and shouted "YEEEEESSSSSSSSSS!" When it was over, I had a sticky beard but was otherwise unchanged. I don't recall ever trying it with Laura and Mr. Playmate in a 69 position. (Not sure how that would work.) We probably liked the couch position enough that we never thought of it. Yes, when we did the fuck/lick thing the first time, I did reinsert Mr. Playmate's penis when the thrusting got enthusiastic and his cock popped out, but I learned that I could keep that from happening with my chin and continue making Laura groan with my tongue. Laura and I tried anal once, early in our relationship, just the two of us, but never again. We decided we didn't care much for it. I couldn't kiss her which lessened the experience. Laura remarked, "Why would a guy want to stick his cock in my dry asshole when there's a hot and wet pussy right next to it?" I never could answer that question.

When are we going to put the Politically Correct stuff aside and do what we personally desire? What is wrong with people that desire a certain body shape, color of hair or race. Do the Lifestyle the way you want to and not be offended when someone says No! Good Grief -- go have fun.

Sounds like you did the right thing, wait for an opening and dive in. I like to use opportunities like that to use the bathroom, refresh my deodorant, drink some water, change the batteries in the toys, and then re-enter the fray. Usually if I lay down near her side she will reach out and lend a hand. You might have some prearranged maneuvers, or kiss her ear and then whisper a request, such having her roll over on top of the guy when they are in a 69 so you can do her doggy while he is munching away. We really like that arrangement during an MFM, as it lets everyone get a piece of the action and she gets all really taken care of.