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Most of the people we see online are middle aged to older! It seems many people start looking into the lifestyle when they are more mature and established in their relationship. You should not have any issue finding people in the same place as you. It is actually way harder to find serious younger people in the lifestyle.

I noticed that there’s not a lot of talk about older couples and I was wondering what it is like for a Middle Age couple that are newbies ? Most of the post that I see tend to come from younger couples (or appear too), so I was just curious if there are any middle-age couples out there and what your experiences are as an older couple?

We are a bit different as I go with single or the man from the couple while my husband may join in - but he is always in the room. Over the years experience has made it easy. First you need roving eyes, to know who is looking at you with intention. Second, if he is alone or with company. If he is with men - he could be gay or bi. If he is with friends, you have a chance for a group activity. My experience says, same that women don't like direct approach without a preamble, men find it embarrassing if an unknown woman approaches them. Here are the best pick up lines we have used. If I think someone is interested, I share with my husband and show him the person. He walks up to the person and says, "Hey, how are you? Are you looking at my wife?" As a first reaction the guy is embarrassed. My husband continues, "You are free to watch. She likes it." That breaks the ice and in a few minutes of chit chat, without further ado, the 'fish is in the net.'

I'm the mrs.of our couple. I am a lurker. This where I learn everything. We haven't actually met a couple on line yet and "swapped". But recently went to a club and had our first MFM. Then later that night played side by side with another couple. Next night played in a pile with people. We love it so far. The talking with each other has us hot all the time.

The Alura's, along with a couple we had agreed to a "test fuck" with, were in our living room when Mr. Playmate asked, "Do y'all know any ice-breakers?" "Kissing does it for me," Laura answered. "Huh?" He stammered. "If you were to kiss me, I think the ice you're feeling, would melt." She was right.

Here’s what works for us - the guy with the longer penis ltd in his back. I lie on him facing up. He penetrates first and works on me for a while until i’m ready for guy #2. Guy #1 keeps his cock in me all the way while guy #2 faces me, speeds my legs and then does all of the thrusting. Guy #1 doesn’t need to move because the second cock will provide a ton of stimulation. I usually cum very quickly from this and so do the guys.

I protest! There are some interesting things you can do with a cane! And you've never had it good until your lady's perched on your walker... Seriously Rico&Jenni; Swingers are your average people you see at a grocery store, and the vast majority of them are not the younger set. Most younger couples either haven't even thought about swinging yet (if it's even entered their minds), or are too young/immature in their relationships (not saying that in a negative way) to be ready for it. At least at the places I've been too (it's not a long list, but still) I would have to say the average person is over at least 35 if not 40. I see lots of people quite a bit older than that too.

Too funny Padoc. We are 57 and 58. Grandparents not boingking people that look like what I thought my grandparents look like. Lol. People are much more attractive in person than in profile pictures. Age is just a number. We are newbies and so far everyone we have hooked up with have been younger than us.

And I'd like to identify as wealthy but that won't get me a Bentley convertible! OP, many of the regular posters here ARE middle aged, us included. We have met a lot of new couples in our age bracket. The only problem we've found is that while we are grandparents and want to boink grandparents, we don't want to boink people who look like OUR grandparents did at our age.

This is an easy one, we don't ask them anything. We don't think their business is any of ours just like we don't feel ours is any of theirs. We'll take whatever cautions we feel are appropriate in terms of safe sex, which could mean condoms or just passing on the experience if they had offered up some unsolicited information that caused us concern, but to ask, no. Swinging comes with some risks, and we feel that the risk evaluation is totally on you. That's not to say if you KNOW you have an issue that the responsibility is on you to be up front and honest about that, and we aren't stupid, we know there are those who can't be counted on to do that, but we still don't feel comfortable asking questions about someone's sexual past.

We went to the out of state club trip, it was amazing. This was a large club over 10,000 sq ft. Velvet Rope in Portland OR. First night was a Friday. They had speed dateing. Good way to break the ice for newbies like us. We ended up with our first MFM with a very nice gentleman. Only problem was I went to the first private room I found it was very small and ended up leaving the door open. Actually turned into a turn on for us having people walk by and watch. Later found the couples only area huge bed with lots of other beds and others playing. We played next to another couple with touching between us women. Wow! Now the second night was a bit overwhelming it was kink night. A lot bigger crowd. Dungeons everywhere. Flogging done to music, very intricate rope bondage, hot cupping and I did a tasting with a violet wand with a little bit of electricity running through me while a woman stroked me lightly.., shoulders, face, hair upper breasts and thighs. What a sensation and I hadn't even had a drink yet. I did get to have one fantasy I want to give my hubby a blow job in public and offer him to another woman. Two women took me up on it. Boy was he thrilled. There was sex everywhere. We mostly wore each other out. About the time we were ready to relax in a hot tub and leave we were invited to join another couple and a trans woman. Boobs, pussy, cocks mouths everywhere blew out minds. To bad we didn't have more time as it was closing time. I think we have lost our shyness. Just talking about the experiences has us all over each other. We are in our late 50s feeling like teenagers with new toys. This weekend heading to a Halloween house party. Can't wait as of many people there we have been chatting with on sls. From wallflowers to wild sex people in a month. Life is Grand.

In some of the MFM threesomes I’ve been involved with the woman has taken the lead, sometimes beginning by kissing her husband and then moving on to me. (I’ve also had a woman, while we were still fully dressed, grab my crotch through my clothes, which was a little weird.) One has to play these things by ear, but often, particularly when it’s a couple with not much experience and particularly where one or both appear to be a bit nervous, I will take the lead in a vanilla conversation. When they seem to be more relaxed and the time feels right I will ask both if it’s okay for me to kiss the woman. Only after the kissing has gotten passionate and she is quite turned on will I suggest we move to the bed (assuming we aren’t in a small hotel room where we’ve had to sit on the edge of the bed.) After that things usually proceed smoothly and naturally. Sometimes the other man strips at the same time the woman and I are undressing each other or ourselves. But if not at some point while the woman and I are playing with each other I will ask if he’d like to join us. And I always make sure I tell both of them how much I’m enjoying being with the woman.

In a hotel room, Mrs Doc has gone into the rest room fully dressed and then come back out wearing just a thong and her heels. She walks up to the guy and begins to unbutton his shirt and says with a smile, " I shouldn't be the only one naked, should I". On that occasion, it worked like a charm. Within 2 minutes all four of us were naked and the parted was well started.

We've had this discussion with various playmates and the consensus seems to be that the following rules apply. You can speak about a couple only if the people you are speaking to were there and involved in the action. Otherwise there are no names. With regard to discussing how play went we were in agreement that discussing what happened is only acceptable from a learning perspective. Boasting is in bad taste. The rule stands that if they are telling you about their last play partners they are going to be telling their next play partners about you. Mr. Nomad

My favorite fuck lick story happened in the public room at one of our favorite clubs. We had a group and about 4 or five couples watching us go. I was on top facing him with my back to the group. I was so fucking turned on I decided turn around and ride him reverse so they could see me fully with my pussy open wide and wrapped around my husbands penis. I also loved that they could see him as well and I kept pulling his cock out of me would jerk him off. One of the women came in and joined us and started to suck my husbands cock while I held his shaft. After a moment, she guided his penis back inside me and then planted her face on my pussy. i held her head in place and had one of the most powerful orgasms of my life while our friends watched. There is nothing like oral with penetration.

mfm for us we both love the excitement anf bf loves to watch me sucking on another guy

I have one fuck-lick experience with a guy. After having his Viagra, he had his erection on for over two hours. We changed and tried every position. He pumped, slow, fast and furious but would not shoot his cum. I had already orgasm ed three times over. It was his idea that we do a 69 with me on top. Then he requested that my husband fuck me from behind while he was licking me. I loved the warmth of his tongue on my clit and the bareback fuck from my husband. When my husband signaled that he was about to shoot his cum, I asked my guy to stop licking me. But, he started to lick me more vigorously and after my husband had cum inside me, he licked up all the juice. I was surprised, but very pleased.

As has been said elsewhere, men come to realize that it's better to have a wife who likes a little too much rather than not enough or not at all.

As a woman, I prefer FFM. I like one of each and the sense that we are "using" the man (he doesn't mind).

Realistically, I would have nothing to gain. It is just a little frustrating to have this part of myself that feels so very normal and harmless forcibly kept under lock and key around people with whom I spend most of my day. I guess it just feels inauthentic. But no, they can't handle it. And because it doesn't fall under the LGBTQ umbrella, it wouldn't be recognized as a "protected" status in the workplace. So it's not exactly like coming out to your coworkers as gay or lesbian. This is like coming out as deviant, right? It's not like I want to regale them with my weekend adventures (if we were to have any, that is). That's none of their business. But I wouldn't mind if they knew generally that, no, we don't have much value for jealousy or monogamy or the like, and that we judge the health of our marriage on how honest and vulnerable and conversely, how unconditionally loving and accepting we can be. Yeah, so we're non-monogamous, what's your point? Pass the peas. I just don't want it to be such a big deal, that's all.

At the risk of redundancy, let me point out a few facts about the LS. Swinging is not a substitute for good marital sex. Swinging is not a substitute for good marital communications, affection, shared life experiences or trust. Swinging is not a substitute for anything. Swinging is the icing on the cake, it is NOT the cake. Swinging is a recreational activity. To view it as anything more profound is incorrect, in my opinion. If you are of the opinion that swinging is the be all and end all of human relationships, then you need to start over in the playbook and re-learn the basics. This may seem blunt, but it's meant well.

A quick reply to get the discussion rolling: How many of these "Don'ts" can you change to "Do"? 1) "Let's try to keep our sexual interest and activity up throughout the week by building on the weekend fun". 2) "Let's revisit our rules, and see if there is room to move closer in our boundaries". 3) "Let's commit to each other to be open, honest, and non-judgmental about what we do and don't like".

Rural farm communities in our part of the world are very very small and can be very conservative. 67 seems a crowd. We developed friendships in the city we visit once in a while. We are planning with a city couple to come and visit us in our neck of the woods. Should be interesting. We suggest you work on the city angle.