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One of the things I highly value about this board is the civility that most members show in their interactions with one another. Even when they disagree, they do so agreeably. Sadly, this thread is veering toward the disagreeable. One commenter has been personalizing matters. I think that’s a shame. It’s nice when new folks join in the discussions here. They often bring fresh insights while addressing issues that are of interest to many members of the board, whether frequent posters or longtime lurkers. Unfortunately, now and then people show up here and it appears to me their posts frequently are needlessly provocative. They get into quarrels with other posters. The good news about this bad news is that they don’t tend to stick around. I don’t know if the admins run them off or if they just move on looking for other places to joust. The important thing is they disappear from this board.

Our poly family started with me having a boyfriend, then marrying a guy who was fine with it. We have since added two other women. Here's my perspective: New relationships burn bright, hot and relatively quick. If you thinks he is perfect, you don't know him yet. If your husband thinks he's fine, he doesn't know him yet. You first need to move past the "I love him because" stage to the "I love him despite" stage. If ultimately your relationship with both men works out (and theirs with each other) there's no reason you can't be together like that. But you need to talk out the expectations. All three of you going to live in one household? And the big one, if you new boyfriend wants you to have his baby is everyone good with that? You can't live your life worrying about friends and family. Don't flaunt it, but don't run from it either. I lost my father over being a "whore," but I couldn't have him running my life.

I don’t really like the bouncing on top, I’ve always done the grinding method since forever, i find the harder and deeper I grind on his dick the better it feels that causes me to orgasm pretty quickly usually. I can’t do the deep grinding with very well endowed men though as it just hurts no matter what I do to try get comfortable on it. My favourite has always been missionary, or with my ankles over his shoulders. I love a good pounding, I’ve been with a lot of men in my time and have yet to tell any man to slow down or stop when he’s power jackhammering furiously into me even those with huge dicks, I really love proper rough sex. I’ve often been told I would’ve been a good female pornstar haha. I love it from behind too but missionary is my thing if he has a lot of fit stamina.

I prefer alone with men one on one/two. I used to love parties and swinger events but I'm finding I love getting dressed up to go out dating with men, hubby is the same he enjoys meeting random women though he rarely does so lately I think he's a bit bored of it all these days. I'm kind of bisexual but I'll admit I do absolutely love a nice hard dick in me.

True on all counts. Scientists are human. They are prone to self-deception, just like everyone else. The difference is in the nature of science: scientists accept that most beautiful theories are destroyed by an ugly fact.

Newandnaughty — Exactly what part of “ Second, this was built upon seeing the areas activated when a monkey ate a peanut and then noticing the same areas lit up when he only saw a peanut being eaten” do you not understand? That’s an actual observation based on monitoring different areas of the brain ... it’s NOT an opinion. You sound like somebody who has no clue how science works, so you just might want to stifle yourself and do some actual research!! https://www.zmescience.com/ecology/animals-ecology/monkey-brain-activity-syncs-watch-something/ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/03/180329095444.htm

It seems there's a lot of folks that enjoy the retelling on the ride home and then erotic, passionate sex (sometimes termed "reclamation") upon arrival. It seems like we're in the minority of couples in that respect. We enjoy both MFM and MFMF or other alphabet salad variations very much, and we ALWAYS play together. For one thing, part of the thrill for me is watching Angel with another male....tremendously so, for that matter. The other thing is that when Angel is aroused, she literally (using the word with it's proper meaning) loses all sense of the situation unfolding and the world around her....she's completely unaware of anything except her sexual pleasure. She wants me there to be sure that in that state, she doesn't do anything she wouldn't want to do otherwise. While on the way home I'll sometimes recount the evening to her (the only way she knows what actually happened), but most of the time she's so drowsy and relaxed that she falls asleep during the story, and the recounting happens a day or so later. Once home, there is almost always virtually no chance of any sex occurring given that scenario...LOL. The few times that she's been completely awake when we get home, she's pretty done with sex for a couple of days at least...in her mind we've had enough sex for me (us) to be satisfied for a while. I'm not sure I've heard of too many couples who roll like this; anyone else out there roll similarly? Sure, I'd love to come home and hit it again with my babe, but it is what it is. T

That is EXACTLY the kind of thing that women do that drives men crazy but it also keeps us interested.

Numex, we are an experienced MFM couple. We both prefer that I am one of the two guys, that he will be the 'primary' lover, and that I will spell him off when the time comes.

I'll echo a lot of what's been said. And like adamgunn said, experienced MFM husband here. Like chiccouplexx, I'll sometimes initiate things by beginning to undress my wife for him, with her facing the other fellow. That's never failed as a cue for him to begin playing with her. My wife enjoys me being directly involved. I do de-prioritize myself in it, making way for the other fellow. I want my wife to enjoy him as much as possible, and don't want to interfere with that. If I haven't moved off for a while to just enjoy the view, then I am wherever the other fellow isn't. My wife very much enjoys having the attentions of two men at once. When we first got into this ten+ years ago, she wanted me to always be directly involved. Now she understand I really do sometimes just enjoy watching her have sex with another man. Sometimes that's easier for her to focus fully on the other man for a while.

Ok, so what has happened to the long standing idea of “Don’t Kiss and Tell”. We, like nearly all profiles we read, are discrete and request discretion by others. This seemed to be a standard of respect and etiquette at one time. Even more so when specifically asked by others you had some sort of interaction with to please keep your interactions with them private and among only those directly involved. The idea of keeping your business and/or interactions with others private and only between those involved is what one would expect, especially when asked to do so. Yet, it seems to have become common practice by many to run their mouths. I can’t tell you how many times I, Mrs. Flaswing, have been in a swinger’s chat room constantly being told by someone what other online user they have fucked, banged, and/or nailed. How good they were, how much the other person just loved it, how many times they made them orgasm and on and on and on. Some (and at times many) seem to have an overwhelming urge to provide unsolicited details of their sexual encounters with other users. Someone will just start bragging away, providing details as if they thought somehow deep inside I really wanted them to tell me these things…..NOT. My husband has also experienced the same thing on numerous occasions. Even when we say something about it like, stop, seriously, we really don’t want to hear this, it’s not our business, it sometimes continues anyway or they claim, “oh, its ok…so and so said they don’t mind if I tell others about our time together”. Now, in all honesty, and this is in no way a dig on the men but, it does seem to come more often from the men. Not that it has never been by a woman, just not as common. Even with people we start to make a connection with and may even be considering playing with, once they feel some level of comfort with us they seem to have this need to tell us things about others they have interacted with, things we really don’t want or care to know. We cannot help but feel, even if asked not to, those same people would do the same regarding us. Neither me or my husband have any understanding as to why this seems to be such a common thing. Our business with anyone is just that, our business not to be talked about to others like some sort of honor badge or something. Even when someone sees a user we may know or be friendly with the questions begin to come rolling in. “Hey, I noticed you know so-and-so, I bet they are a good fuck, what were they like, did you two get with them, how good was the sex with them, did he have a nice cock, did she have a tight pussy?” and so much more. Seriously people? We just don’t get it. It’s not just single males, it’s not just the husbands in a couple, it seems to be a lot of people. Everyone claims they want discretion but many don’t really seem to care about it, or maybe they feel its ok to have this sort of talk among others that are in the Life Style. We just don’t know…… We were wondering what others think about this, what your experience has been like, have you encountered the same, and if possible to answer, why the hell does this happen by so many that demand discretion:?::?:

We both sleep naked.