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One of the things I highly value about this board is the civility that most members show in their interactions with one another. Even when they disagree, they do so agreeably. Sadly, this thread is veering toward the disagreeable. One commenter has been personalizing matters. I think that’s a shame. It’s nice when new folks join in the discussions here. They often bring fresh insights while addressing issues that are of interest to many members of the board, whether frequent posters or longtime lurkers. Unfortunately, now and then people show up here and it appears to me their posts frequently are needlessly provocative. They get into quarrels with other posters. The good news about this bad news is that they don’t tend to stick around. I don’t know if the admins run them off or if they just move on looking for other places to joust. The important thing is they disappear from this board.

Everyone is more perfect than my spouse, that is why he is my spouse. My spouse is like a long distance runner who keeps pace with me all the way and will last the full distance. Others are short distance runners - fast, furious and done and gone. Some last a little longer and keep coming back.

That’s what I did. I was afraid to ask my doctor and felt silly asking. The nurse just added it to the scrip for my blood test with no questions asked. I am thinking or hoping that some of the others we play with are getting tested and even more if someone test positive would let others know.

They usually get bored and move on if they don't get too many bites. Sometimes they are promoted to "former member". Your comments are appreciated.

Well said alexandsandra! EMS, this is a disaster waiting to happen and you know its really gonna hurt?? That baby you're talking about making, that's who! Bringing a new child into the mess you're creating with the four other lives already tied to you is borderline child abuse. Men have a ready made excuse, we often think with our dicks, which organ is thinking for you?

Do you plan to close your relationships to just your husband and boyfriend, or continue to be open? Is your boyfriend good with you continuing to have other partners?

This is exactly like my situation. Until now, I stay 1 or 2 nights a week in bf's house plus a few hours during the week. I feel I'm more bonded with bf sexually than partner. Couplers is right. There is no perfect person in this world. We love the qualities that are different in both men. We love them despite....! It can still work out in spite of your families being wired to monogamy. There is a need for hard work though. Like, always planning for discreetness, and managing your time effectively between the 2 worlds. But unlike Couplers, I'm still in the beginning stages of the journey and am not sure if I can keep everything inside the closet. I'm lucky that partner and bf lives in separate but nearby cities. Bf' family and friends know me there, as well as partner's. It is like living in 2 realities. Eventually, if bf will be raising a child with me, things might change, like, living arrangements, "outness", etc. You should consider these things too.

Our poly family started with me having a boyfriend, then marrying a guy who was fine with it. We have since added two other women. Here's my perspective: New relationships burn bright, hot and relatively quick. If you thinks he is perfect, you don't know him yet. If your husband thinks he's fine, he doesn't know him yet. You first need to move past the "I love him because" stage to the "I love him despite" stage. If ultimately your relationship with both men works out (and theirs with each other) there's no reason you can't be together like that. But you need to talk out the expectations. All three of you going to live in one household? And the big one, if you new boyfriend wants you to have his baby is everyone good with that? You can't live your life worrying about friends and family. Don't flaunt it, but don't run from it either. I lost my father over being a "whore," but I couldn't have him running my life.

Newandnaughty — Exactly what part of “ Second, this was built upon seeing the areas activated when a monkey ate a peanut and then noticing the same areas lit up when he only saw a peanut being eaten” do you not understand? That’s an actual observation based on monitoring different areas of the brain ... it’s NOT an opinion. You sound like somebody who has no clue how science works, so you just might want to stifle yourself and do some actual research!! https://www.zmescience.com/ecology/animals-ecology/monkey-brain-activity-syncs-watch-something/ https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/03/180329095444.htm

I know he had a problem the first time he saw me with a guy, he told me. Not so when he saw me with my girlfriend. I was the one who suggested him playing with my girlfriend and sure was nervous and then excited. He was more nervous than me. All in all we are both glad we got by those first times.

This is probably my longest-lasting kink, and the one I asked her about first that got us started. I've always liked watching women give head, to me or anyone else. I don't have an easy explanation for the appeal, but maybe it's a purely performative, pleasure-giving act. A woman giving great head is working entirely on someone else's orgasm. It's still a very intimate act but in a different way from intercourse, and a woman giving great head to a stranger can seem variously incredibly generous, fun-loving, and promiscuous. Fun-loving, sexual women in general turn me on.

We are a bit different as I go with single or the man from the couple while my husband may join in - but he is always in the room. Over the years experience has made it easy. First you need roving eyes, to know who is looking at you with intention. Second, if he is alone or with company. If he is with men - he could be gay or bi. If he is with friends, you have a chance for a group activity. My experience says, same that women don't like direct approach without a preamble, men find it embarrassing if an unknown woman approaches them. Here are the best pick up lines we have used. If I think someone is interested, I share with my husband and show him the person. He walks up to the person and says, "Hey, how are you? Are you looking at my wife?" As a first reaction the guy is embarrassed. My husband continues, "You are free to watch. She likes it." That breaks the ice and in a few minutes of chit chat, without further ado, the 'fish is in the net.'