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Three years ago I had a life changing experience and it was remembered by the friend who changed it. She sent me a bottle of wine, a rose, a chocolate penis and wonderful card with a beautiful handwritten note. Three years ago after meeting my friend at a Rutgers-Penn State football game and the weather turned cold and snowy icy I stayed with my friend and her guy friend at a hotel. It was an innocent invitation I thought. To this day I don’t know how I allowed things to happen. It sure changed my life. What started as a cuddle by my friend ended up as my first experience with a girlfriend. I think what certainly changed my life was having sex with her guy friend. It was the guy that made me admit to my boyfriend what I did. Even though it was the girl friend sex that was what was the new thing I never thought of before, it was the cheating with a guy that made me tell. It was my admission that led to my marriage I am sure.

Three years, and a cold day in NJ. This weekend the game is in Happy Valley and I’m sure it will be cold again. Yes I had plenty of questions after that day, sexuality and guilt were just a few. Looking back I still have some questions and I’m sure in the future I’ll be talking to a shrink with the same questions I now only admit on here. To me it’s funny that I came to strangers for answers and didn’t listen to most of you. A few were encouraging most said don’t play with people in my everyday life. Little did I know three years ago that so many of my girlfriends in school were doing this. Was I just naïve? I always thought I had street smarts. Don’t think I can agree about your last line. We Are.....

For me, it's when a woman has good "follow through." As I orgasm, she continues just as she was doing before the semen started flowing. Both through the three to five squirts of semen, and the orgasm that continues for some time afterwards. Then watching her do an exaggerated swallow is nice. My wife and one of the other wives has this down perfectly for me.

...because you're not ready (yet). In order to be successful in swinging (or a 3some) you need to be in a solid committed relationship. If the relationship is less than granite, then you start worrying about everything else...is she better/prettier/someone he likes more than me? Am I not good enough for him? Etc. Wait until you have a wonderful relationship built around the big three (love/trust/communication) and then see about moving forward.

There is an active post entitled "What makes an unforgettable blow job?" How about a discussion about what makes receiving oral unforgettable for a woman? My list: - I like getting oral while lying on my back on the bed while you kneel on the floor. Let's get comfortable first. - Don't turn me down just because someone has recently been down/in there. I may not be fresh, but I'm always clean. My girls don't have a problem with it. If it's good enough to put your dick in there, it's good enough for your mouth (except my bum; you don't have to lick my bum hole). - Don't jump in immediately. Start by looking and admiring everything I have down there: my hair, my outer labia, the coloring of my inner lips, my clit, my vaginal opening. Turn the desk lamp on, shine it on my pussy, tell me how beautiful it is. - Once you get started, use both your lips and your tongue. Go back and forth measuring my response. - My clit is big, but please don't suck on it like you're trying to suck the life out of it. - Alternate between slowly putting full tongue pressure on my clit, especially from the left and right with quickly flicking across it. - It's nice to have your tongue occasionally go across the opening of my vagina, but trying to stick it inside like a dick is not going to work, it's too small. - Gently slip your index and middle fingers into my vagina. - Even more gently and once some juices have run down, slip your ring finger into my bum. - With your other hand, play with my tits while your licking and kissing my pussy. Don't squeeze my nipples too hard! You can be a little rough with my breasts overall, but just gently brush across my nipples. - I usually don't give instructions while getting oral, but if I do, listen and follow directions. - Continue whatever you are doing at the time I come well through my orgasm. And don't be backing off because something is shooting out of there, sometimes it happens. You should be flattered. - Remember that unlike you (if you're a guy), me having an oral orgasm isn't going to diminish my capabilities for penis-in-vagina intercourse. - After I say "stop," Stop! You can keep your mouth on my pussy, but don't try stimulating me for like two minutes. After I recover we'll decide what we're going to do next - more licking, fucking, moving on. - Optional - I'll get on all fours on the bed, you get underneath and lick/kiss me while I take a dick doggie. You can skip the fingering steps above. You can play with one of my tits, but leave one for the other guy. I'll suck your dick/lick your pussy for a while, but the closer I get to cumming, it's all me, I need to breathe.

Adam is right a lot and I agree with him often. That last sentence, not so much. We ARE!! And Lioness, Mrs Doc and I have enjoyed reading your story as you progressed from guilt to shared decadence. Good for you!!

I also experienced something similar in an mfm where the guy did me for 2 hours or more. My partner froze there watching and can't even jump in to join. He wasn't sure if I'm still comfortable with it but he can't stop the action because he hears me moaning continuosly. I'm multiorgasmic that's why. But after that my whole body sored and felt worn out for days. The guy apologized later and he said he has the ability to hold back for a long time if he sees the woman enjoying. My partner admitted he felt intimidated too, just as you are, but I guess it is perfectly normal. Only very few guys can do that feat. Unfortunately, I lost my phone that week and wasn't able to communicate again for another meetup.

Sucking on my balls is usually a little much. It's too easy to drift from "wow" to "ouch. Long licks and something like an open-mouthed kiss work better. Dirty talk, eye contact, and lots of tongue action around my head while she bobs are all sure winners. Numex is right about the follow-through, too. Slow it down but keep going, without suction. Only three women I've ever mastered giving really good head, and I am lucky the third one picked me for the practice dummy and has decided to stick around.

Amazing stories here, my Wife and I are from Canada and have been in the LS for 5 years together 8 years. We had only played with one couple off and on for the first 4 years but we kind of broke out this summer and have now played with 4 couples and currently have an ongoing lady that joins the 2 of us. Her and I have also played separately a few times at my Wife's request which has been pretty hot for all of us.

PSU, I remember reading your posts from three years ago - has it really been that long? At first I thought you were confused and perhaps a bit reluctant to admit your burgeoning sexuality, but interested in how it would turn out. How your attitude has changed! Congratulations on your anniversary. And . . . Go Buckeyes!

I like the way you think!

I remember this girl, and I developed a technique that worked great: I deleted her phone number.

I'm not disagreeing about the challenges, but I'll point out that there's a large discrepancy between what people do and what they daydream about doing. It's understandable that the OP's wife feels guilty about doing things she considers taboo while raising a daughter, but there's been no shortage of research into sexual fantasies. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/267627883_What_Exactly_Is_an_Unusual_Sexual_Fantasy There's tables in this paper of both the general occurrence of specific fantasies as well as people who identify themes as their "favorite" fantasies. 3-4% of women mention threesomes, orgies, and gangbangs, each in separate categories. (Meaning, they might all be the same 3-4%, but probably aren't.) 2% mention partner swapping, 9% mention exhibitionism, and another 14% sex with a stranger. For men, twice as many mention watching their spouse have sex with another man (8%) as with a woman (3%), 5% a threesome with their spouse, and 8% group sex generally. When you scroll down to Table 2, the list of all fantasies, not just favorites, you'd think everyone is secretly daydreaming about orgies all the time. 28% of women mention sex with three or more men, 30% of women and 45% of men sex with a mixed group of three or more. 75% of men mention three or more women. I think men usually take the lead in encouraging their wives to overcome taboos or inhibitions and try, and I agree that it often doesn't work out, but I do think there's no shortage of women turned on by various scandalous scenarios. Even the most rigidly vanilla woman I ever knew, offended by nearly everything, admitted that she often masturbated to getting spit-roasted by two twin NFL players.

It sounds like everyone had fun and nobody is disappointed, right? This happens with me from time to time, even without any kind of pharmaceutical assistance. Especially if I'm working with a morning erection. Communication is key as is self-awareness to make sure everybody's having fun. I've just stopped before when I can tell a partner is satisfied and I'm not going to get there anytime soon, which is a little disappointing but not as disappointing as leaving a partner sore and bored.

You dodged a bullet or almost kissed a frog. Either way, be glad you didn't waste more time on them. While nuance and tone are difficult to detect on chat or IM or even emails, sense of humor isn't. We've found that people who can't keep it light, joke a bit or laugh are generally not much fun in the sack. Don't give them a 2nd thought.

There are idiots in every walk of life. Don't let it get you down. Just be happy you did not spend time with them. Gives you more time to pursue more meaningful relationships.

Look at the bright side: they saved you the time and effort of finding out what they are really like. Finding a great match is HARD, but worth the time and effort when you find it. Charles Schiltz drew a Peanuts a poster that I had when I was in elementary school (WAYYYYYY back then). It had Linus saying 'I love humanity, it's people that I can't stand'. That has always stuck with me. Some people just suck (but the exception are the people on this board)

I've only once participated in a real gang bang - guys lined up to have a turn with a woman - but in this instance at least all the men were fully respectful of the woman. It was in a play room at a club. I had met the couple earlier in the evening in a social area, and they both seemed nice and happily connected with one another. There was no mention at that time of plans for a gangbang. Later in the evening, after playing with a couple of other women, including my date for the evening, my date and I wondered into a play room where the gangbang was taking place. My date, who was extremely nearsighted and really didn't perceive what was happening on the other side of the room, found a guy to suck. I got in line, with about four or five guys ahead of me. The woman was on her back on a bed, but surrounded on both sides by a couple of men who were verbally supportive of her, almost like attendants. Between episodes of intercourse they would offer her water and check how she was doing. Her husband, standing at the foot of the bed did offer verbal encouragement to the men, asking each to "fuck her good" or similar. Each of the guys ahead of me finished pretty quickly, maybe two or three minutes each. I clearly recall when it was my turn one of the guys closest to her on the bed asked if she was ready for another round, and she nodded affirmatively and took a drink of water that was offered her. I slid between her legs and entered her pussy. I didn't hold back my orgasm at all, came quickly and withdrew. By this time there were another half-dozen guys in line. I have no idea how many men this woman entertained in the evening, but for the time I was there it was clear that all of us there were participants in a scene meant to gratify this couple.

Unfortunately this is how gangbangs are always seen in porn so it is what most guys going into it are going to expect! When is the last time you have seen a gangbang porn where it was all about the woman getting the goddess treatment instead of being treated like a piece of meat. This is why the missus would never entertain the thought of being in this situation. She has no interest in being slapped around, having her hair pulled, spit on and used up like she isn’t human. I get that some women like this and that is their choice, but it is not something that interests me at all. I respect women far to much to hit them. It is too bad, because I would love to share her with a group of men that interested her, but I know it would not end up making either of happy when this is the expectations men have going in.

I know what makes bad cunnilingus and I think those are unforgettable.

Hello, Petra here. Why are all of the responses to this thread discussing what makes it good for the guy? For me, as a woman giving a blowjob (to completion), what makes unforgettable for me is: - He's already been in a pussy, mine or preferably another woman's, but hasn't yet come (see below); - He's totally flaccid (I like getting it all in my mouth to start and feeling him expand); - He is not too long. A good blow job-size dick for me is short, but thickness doesn't matter - the opposite of what I like for anal where thinness is preferable and length doesn't matter. - He lets me have control. I don't like it when a guy is thrusting his dick into my throat. I can deep throat some, but it doesn't make it good for me. I want to do it my way with a lot of tongue and take it farther down when I'm ready. Be patient and I can take it all the way. - He lets me know when he's going to cum, because: - I take all of his semen in my mouth; - I hold it in my open mouth (to me the taste is anywhere from neutral to good), roll it around with my tongue for him and anyone else who's interested to see what I've done (naughty girl); - I make a show of swallowing. - Optional - Instead of swallowing, I like to snowball (pass the semen back and forth between our mouths before swallowing) by either kissing him or another woman. (I like to do it with another guy, but guys don't. Hubby's done it for me twice though.) - Also option - Having someone fucking me or licking me while doing the above. I prefer giving blow jobs while upright (kneeling, standing, sitting) for control so I prefer doing cowgirl, reverse cowgirl or sitting on his/her face if it's going to be me doing these simultaneously. Doggy can work as well.