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We are The O Zone, a swingers nightclub in Toronto, ON and can only answer based on our specific club, but it’s food for thought. For us, we do not allow nudity in the club portion, only in the back playrooms. Occasionally, someone walks up to the bar in a towel, but they are totally out of place. Our dress code is ‘Dress to Impress” so slacks, a collared shirt and loafers or other dress shoe is appropriate. We do not have a pool or hot tub on premise. And as a licensed night club, we really discourage being barefoot. Paper towels are expensive (especially when people don’t care and use way more than they need) so we provide white cotton towels. Better for the environment, although with those who use 5 or 6 towels when 1 or 2 would suffice that ups the laundry strain on the environment as well. We also provide hand sanitizer, mouth wash, locks/lockers, water based lubricant and latex condoms. I agree, if you have a preference for condom size, type or material, bring your own. As a side note, please do not take silicone lube to a club… ruins the sheets and towels, costs a lot to replace, and then the price of admission has to go up to cover that cost. Just some food for thought here! Happy Swinging!

What makes you think they are really couples? I'm convinced that single men sometimes make couples profiles so actual couples will respond to their messages or contact them first.

Three years ago I had a life changing experience and it was remembered by the friend who changed it. She sent me a bottle of wine, a rose, a chocolate penis and wonderful card with a beautiful handwritten note. Three years ago after meeting my friend at a Rutgers-Penn State football game and the weather turned cold and snowy icy I stayed with my friend and her guy friend at a hotel. It was an innocent invitation I thought. To this day I don’t know how I allowed things to happen. It sure changed my life. What started as a cuddle by my friend ended up as my first experience with a girlfriend. I think what certainly changed my life was having sex with her guy friend. It was the guy that made me admit to my boyfriend what I did. Even though it was the girl friend sex that was what was the new thing I never thought of before, it was the cheating with a guy that made me tell. It was my admission that led to my marriage I am sure.

Everyone is different and not everybody wants the same thing. People just need to be respectful in how they communicate their desires. It may seem someone is limiting themselves by specifying a limited age range, couples only, full swap only same room, no smokers, friends first, HWP, whatever that is their choice. I know I am not attracted to pushy people trying to tell me what I should like and will enjoy if only I give them a chance. I am not directing this to anyone in particular. Many couples have profiles saying no single men and yet there are always a few that think they are the exception.

We’ve got those messages. From a couples profile but she isn’t interested in the lifestyle anymore but doesn’t care if he is. Lol or some variation of that story.

Chico, add to your suggestions when you get later in life. After the youngest turns 60 or so, ten years is a huge difference between committed mates. Health is such a huge issue, and when you get up there it can really suck.

Numex I could have any of the above posters answer your questions because they are the ones who have guided me through the beginnings and my choices. 1. I was monogamous at the time of my first contact. No I wasn’t a virgin. The guy with us was a stranger and I allowed things to happen. 2. My guilt was I allowed another man to be intimate with me. I can’t answer if I would have told my bf about being with my girlfriend. I may have. 3. My then boyfriend actually left me when I confessed my infidelity. He didn’t accept what I did. It took time to convince him that my confession was an act of love, the love we had for each other. What we went through was very complicated and tears were shared.

If you have watched Season 1 of Swing on Playboy, you may remember that in the first few episodes there were two real young couples. You could tell, right away, that they were not mature enough for that environment and the potential outcome. Not necessarily stating that maturity comes with age because some people seem to stop maturing long before they age.

I think a lot of the people on this board are middle-aged or older. As others said, it's very common for people to take up swinging again once the kids are starting to become less of a factor. Mrs. E is roughly 15 years older than I am and all of our regular play partners are in that camp. The single woman we play with is newly-divorced, between our ages, and her children are out of the house. The first couple we connected with, she used to babysit for. She usually prefers younger men for MFM but we really have no hard and fast rules about an age requirement. I think if you participate in the scene of visiting clubs and meetups, etc., you'll find no shortage of people who you feel are age-appropriate for yourselves and welcoming to you.

Zero. The same is true about email and texting. This is why we have always wanted to meet another couple as quickly as possible once we connect. You will know more in 5 minutes than you would learn in 5 years of chat/text/email. If the connection isn't there, you usually know pretty quick once you meet in person.

C&T, you're overthinking it. Go, see if you like it, take anything along you think you might need for your comfort. Especially condoms.