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You got somewhere around 3/4ths of what you wanted out of your fantasy the very first time - your wife fucked, she had a great time, and you enjoyed ("hot as hell to watch") - so that's pretty good. You can fix the one thing lacking with the advice above; it's much better than being in the situation where your wife hated the experience and doesn't want to do it again. Tell yourself that if you can't get it up there's a backup plan, oral. Go into licking mode to please the other woman. She can do the same for you. Even a limp dick will blow with the right oral stimulation. Meanwhile, I'd be fantasizing about the other things your wholesome wife might surprise you with. ?

If the situation happens again be prepared. Viagra will help you unfuck yourself. It won’t help you get it up, but as long as you get it up, it will help it not go away. There’s a reason they call it “swinger insurance.”

Plan another evening with them, go easy on the booze and see where it goes. If your wife is adamant that it was a one time thing, you'll still have the visuals in your head. "but I'm not sure if we will ever do it again" leaves the door open. "not sure if" gives you both some wiggle room.

You are correct. Its something that will be locked away in the spank bank for years to come. And believe it or not, my wife actually looked at me at one point and asked "Do you need us(her and my friend) to go downstairs?" I said no because I didn't want to make her uncomfortable. All in all, it was a great experience. I was unable to maintain an erection which SUCKED, but i got my first taste of a double blowjob, tasted my first pussy in 12 years that wasnt my wife's, saw my wife eat another women's pussy, and saw my wife fucked by my best friend(the one thing I did not think I would like, but ended up being a huge turn on). We have talked about it very little in hopes to keep things from becoming awkward. We did discuss it for a short time the next morning. My wife's words were "I had a blast", "It was such a turn on seeing you with another woman", and "The main reason I have never wanted to do this is because I was afraid you would like the other woman more than me. Now that we did that, I see there is a difference in sex for fun and sex for love. I mean, sex with him was fun, but it could never match what we have together. I feel like it actually made us closer." All that sounded great, but then she hit me with "It was great and I'm glad we did it, but I'm not sure if we will ever do it again." I need to figure out how to get my redemption without making her feel pressured. I think I would be fine with a one and done if I had been able to perform, but I cant let my only opportunity go down like it did.

This is NOT an unusual occurrence. I'll bet you get rock hard now when you picture your wife actually doing the fantasy you've had for years. Try it again. Next time go easy on the booze. There's a fine line between losing inhibitions and losing your erection. Once you figure out where that line is, you can get a buzz AND a woody. When you try again with this couple, I'd suggest separate rooms to start. You know that your wife is safe with your buddy. Go off with his wife to another room and you'll get a hard on that could drive nails. Once you get past that first hurdle, a whole world of erotic fun will open up for you and your wife. Let us know what happens next!

Yes it was the alcohol and yes it was nerves. Alcohol is not good for erections and nerves like "is he bigger than me", "will I please the other woman", "will my wife have more fun with him than me"......all this plays into the situation......it happened to me on my first MFM with a couple, so exited and nervous I couldn't get it up Like NC_Seniors said, get back on the horse! Don't give up. I set up a MFM erotic massage for my wife and it worked out great. Might want to think of something like that to get comfortable with another guy there. Check out my post I wrote on our experience. My wife had emotions on the experience but we worked them out.....remember, communication is vital.

Male half replying here ... Yes! Is that a serious question? Didn't you ever get nervous about anything else you had dreamed of doing? Going skydiving? Learning to drive? Your first cruise? Really REALLY wanting to do something doesn't prevent you from being nervous about it the first time you do it. Get back on the horse and ride again.