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padoc, We are not predominantly a BDSM couple. We do, however, have a mechanism to communicate trouble if either experience it. While you are probably spot on with your analysis of exactly what the problem was for him, he does have the right to have those feelings. They will most likely be transitory They do need to be talked through as a couple in order for them both to grow. I do appreciate your tough love approach most times. If I thought he was a habitual weenie I would not be interjecting this comment. He did come here for perspective. He gets points for that.

The last sentence demonstrates that you may be getting to the crux of the matter. The fact that the woman stayed and they started to play again during the night is indicative that she didn't mind what your wife was doing. You were apparently the only one of the three who did. We discovered a long time ago that the more "rules and boundaries" a couple has the more risk of hurt feelings and unhappy endings.

While we have followed this practice, because it makes sense to us, I do want to add a caveat for those with little or no experience who are reading this thread. There probably will come a time,for the male partner, when there are needs/desires not being met, or anxieties being triggered. It is essential that the male NOT keep his mouth shut in the effort to give his lady the lead. Honest, transparent,and clear communication is important. Your lady has no way of knowing unless you express yourself. In our case, we were quite happily doing MFM. Initially I thought that I had no real desire for FMF. I have always been a one on one sort. After about a year in I started thinking that it might be fun to try. I kept my mouth shut. It festered for a few months until it started to interfere with enjoying the MFM. The chemistry was being altered. I said something to my wife. She had noticed something , but was not sure. Problem solved. She still has the initiative. She still needs it. It is better that the initiative is informed initiative.

Get a room at a Hampton, a Hilton Garden Inn or Holiday Inn Express. They are moderately priced but always clean and secure. Low rent places or hot sheet motels will cheapen the experience. Your wife isn't a $50 crack whore and shouldn't be treated as one. A good hotel will convey that message to the guy. In the event the meeting doesn't pan out as planned, you and your wife can still have terrific hotel sex with a nice breakfast in the morning. As for condoms, we use them for penetration with guys we don't know well. I can't speak for Sera but Mrs Doc HATES latex in her mouth. Let us know how it turns out.

@Alura. Whoever this coach person was is more probably the cause of the suicide than the parents and all the beatings in the world, although, if the parents were religious people, they certainly had a lot to answer for at judgement. From my experience investigating sex crimes, I'd surmise that there was a lot more going on between him and Stuart than the boy ever admitted, even to Laura. Almost certainly he and Stuart engaged in sex play of some sort and the kid was coerced to in some way or another to 'keep our secret'. Its almost classic child sexual abuse by a person in authority and its absolutely despicable.

We truly hope your first meeting goes the way you hope it goes. A few suggestions Speak to him first. Make sure he is what you think he is. There are many fakes out there who hide behind emails. If he refuses to speak, RUN. Yes, meet for drinks or dinner. Be comfortable with him. Some men can be jerks and this will show usually over an hour or two. I know a younger man, half your age, is an attraction. Though it might be a perfect scenario it might also be a red flag or at least a flag. On the other side it might just the thing. For a hotel go to a hotel you would go to if you weren’t meeting someone. Do you want a flea bag that prostitutes use? You aren’t doing anything wrong, don’t make it seedy. A clean bed, a clean bathroom are a must. Yes bring condoms. You want to use them for peace of mind. If you feel you want to use a condom for oral, use it. Again it’s your call. Personally we don’t use it for oral. It can be risky especially for herpes though you can can get any STD with any unprotected sex. Good luck and have fun.

There's your redemption right there. Use this time to enjoy each other and your recent experience together. Don't go rushing back to try and prove something, you'll just put added pressure on yourself.

Tricianmike, I was thinking in terms of who could get hurt by siblings playing which is why I mentioned reproductive age. If there is no chance of creating a child that would be aborted or possibly suffer some kind of genetic abnormalities, then for me, my conclusion stands, who cares? As for Mrs Doc's sister, no she doesn't play. We HAVE talked about the possibility. In a perfect world, my wife wouldn't mind, we've played several times with her very good friend who is perhaps closer than the sister and it was wonderful. It is not a perfect world however and if we even hinted at the possibility, her sister would be absolutely outraged. In puppy talk, I definitely got the pick of the litter. The attached was taken yesterday trying on a christmas present….

These things happen in the heat of the moment. If it's something that bothers you then you really need to make an effort to address it upfront beforehand. Sometimes when you're on the brink of cumming you don't really know what to do. My GF would NEVER let me cum on her face (she had never let anyone cum on her face) but one day during a MFM the guy pulled his dick out of her mouth and shot his load all over her face. She never told him not to cum in her mouth, on her face, or anywhere else - so what was he supposed to do? Since that day she now takes facials all the time!

It has happened a lot to me and I know it’s always a possibility so when I accept a guys cock into my mouth or pussy, I almost expect it. Honestly, i get turned on knowing that it feels so good they can’t hold back. Most of the time i’m able to get them going again so I can get what I need. I’m actually not much of a fan of sucking cocks, especially anything over 6” so quick is good for me!