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Our first swapping a number of years ago was in different rooms where I was made love to my a great man. It was really romantic. The next day was horrible when I was used by that same man for sex in front of others. I also didn’t enjoy watching my husband have sex with another woman and I had no desire to be with another woman. To this day I still prefer being alone with a partner even if others are playing in a party setting. We don’t play very often and it’s mostly with the original couple who doesn’t live close to us. When we do visit them they have invited others to our evenings. Over time I have let myself enjoy other men and even though I was originally repulsed by being with women. Over time I reluctantly did a little play, more allowing and me not a great participant with women. Over the New Year we visited our friends who also invited two other couples. We did play as a group which I don’t know if I was ready for. The couples were not what I thought it was going to be. They were pretty nice people and we enjoyed everything that led up to the inevitable sex. I found myself with a man we just met and was nervous. I wanted to go to a bedroom with him as I am more comfortable that way. We didn’t and all of us stayed in the same room. After a little hesitation I felt more comfortable and started to enjoy. Then I saw two of the women playing and prayed they would leave me alone. Didn’t take long before I was drawn into playing. After some playing and fun at my expense it came out that I enjoy separate room play. I was coaxed into going to another room with one of the women. We spent the rest of the night together at first talking, telling stories and eventually much more. She was great in not forcing me to do things and instead letting things happen. I think I at first felt obligated but it the end I wanted to play. I am still evolving.

Interesting perspective here, a Huffington Post story of a monogamous lesbian goes by herself to a swingers resort. It's a good article, what she describes experiencing will sound very familiar.

We have a queen bed in our room in bf's house but we use the other queen bed in the guest room when we invite another couple in. The guestroom, living room, washroom become play zones, and usually foursomes happen in the living room. We prefer free flowing activities and diff permutations than being confined in 1 bed or room for the whole session play.

I was just wondering how the women here who've done gangbangs felt after their first one. My first big gangbang was with another woman and we had 12 guys show up. It was pretty intense for both of us because we may have overestimated the number of guys we could take. It was really difficult for both of us because we each played with all 12 guys and we both did anal. There were times during that night when we thought we couldn't take any more. Afterwards I had a mix of emotions. I was exhausted but after about an hour I felt a sense of calmness and peace. It might sound strange but I was really proud of myself. What really surprised me was that before the night was over I was feeling horny again and played with some of the couples who had come to watch our gangbang.

We love to hear how other couples/ladies expose themselves. Not sure how creative this was, but last time we were in Vegas, wife tried on some outfits for me in our room. We were heading to the Red Rooster and she of course wanted the perfect outfit. One of them was just a little short black dress with no panties. I told her how hot it would be to walk through the casino and maybe flash a guy or guys. As we walked around, she got more than a few looks and smiles. We went by a lounge where you could see in from the casino. She spotted what looked like a bachelor party, bunch of young guys drinking and laughing. There was an empty table not far from them with hardly anyone else in the lounge. She went in and had a glass of wine at the table. Then she positioned herself so she was sitting facing the guys table. She crossed and uncrossed her legs. I was watching from a safe distance in the casino. She noticed one of the guys look her way and she again uncrossed her legs giving him a clear view of her little trimmed red pussy. He wasn't quite sure what to do or if what he saw was done on purpose. He looked away, but then looked again. This time she caught his eye and smiled while crossing her legs again. He kept looking and then elbowed one of his buddies. She flashed them both, then got up and walked by their table smiling. She came out and told me how fun and hot it was. We decided to keep walking around. We found some slot machines in a corner of the casino that wasn't too crowded. There was a guy playing on a machine and I mentioned that if she played on a machine across from it, she could flash him very easily. I got positioned myself behind him and was able to take a quick picture over his shoulder and caught what he was looking at. Very hot and we laughed about it all the way to the Red Rooster. The taxi driver also got a great view. Love to hear some of your fun flashing stories.

To be clear, me and my wife have only swung once. It was a full swap with some close friends, but reading some of these posts, it sounds as though most people prefer to swap with strangers. What do most people enjoy and why? Like I said, we have only done it once. And though we both thoroughly enjoyed it and are open to doing it again, we are not to the point where we are making a lifestyle change. But it seems like doing it with strangers would be terrible. I feel the only reason we participated the one time is because it was with trusted friends. Do you do it with strangers because it's a turn on, or because you dont have friends in the lifestyle?

Lately I have become more focused on my own pleasure and getting what I need out of our experiences. The fact is, guys always get to cum but in conversations with my female friends that’s not the case for them. I can’t tell you how many times we have had a guy put his cock in me, give a few strokes, blow his loading be done. It pushes iff my husband and leaves me hanging. On a friends recommendation, lately i’ve been using a new strategy and it seems to be working. The past few times we have had a guy or two join us, I make sure they cum before they fuck me. I love watching them masturbate, I love wrapping my hands around a cock and I love giving oral. I love watching a guy ejaculate and I love it even more if I bring it on with my hands it mouth. After they release, I work on them and get them ready for #2. I find if they release, they can give me a better fucking and last long enough to let me cum as well. A few have been able to get up again so I figure fuck them, they at least got to nut once, why should I let them inside me if they aren’t going to finish the job. I guess it’s selfish and I don’t want to get a reputation as a tease, but it’s ME time! Thoughts?

New members here. Plan on being more active than lurker. Here to learn and interact. Some threads just feel like there is no need to say anything, especially as a couple just starting our journey in the LS.

I've always found things work out best when BOTH partners are primarily focused on the enjoyment of their partner. Whenever EITHER partner decides it's all about them, the spark is gone and it's time to order the pizza.

I don't think that's uncommon. I've seen a lot of guys who fuck my GF bust their nut in a couple of seconds. They just need to replenish, get hard again, and then they usually last much longer.

Mrs Doc got sick just before Christmas this year and so we had to cancel our trip north and our NYE at TPA. That party has never disappointed us. Last year, we went to a small house party in Florida where we knew one other couple, turned out that the rest of the partiers looked about 20 years older then their pictures or professed ages. I think we left 10 minutes after the ball dropped. We normally LOVE our nights at Trapeze in FLL but our experiences on NYE 2014 and 2016 were disappointing. The crowd was too big, the music was too loud, people got drunk early including the DJ, who messed up the countdown, how the hell can you do THAT? One guy got insistent and belligerent with my wife and had to be taken down (he started to get grabby, she told him no twice, I did once, firmly. When he came back again, I quit talking, he dropped before the ball did). The play areas could not accommodate the size of the crowd, you shouldn't have to stand in line to boink at a swingers club. People were still coming in the front door when we gave up and left before 12:30. We didn't even consider it this year. If we don't go north to TPA next year, we may simply invite 3-4 couples we know well to our house. We have 3 bedrooms, a leather sectional and a heated pool and spa. The only drawback is that our neighbor will probably feel compelled to spend her NYE praying for the naked sinners next door.

We jumped right in. We had played a bit with a friend but the real swinging didn’t start until we were at a club for the first time. We had no idea what to expect. We were introduced to a lot of couples and had a blast. A super hot couple invited us to a room and we really didn’t know what to expect. They started making out so we followed. I got bold and dropped to my knees and started sucking my hubbies cock in front of them. I had never had anyone watch before so it was a rush. They watched and her husband took off her top and bra and massaged her tits. She asked if she could help so we both sucked my husbands cock. We laid him on the bed and got him completely naked and focused on him. While I was bent over sucking him, I felt her husbands hands in my waist from behind. He caressed my ass and slid his hand up my skirt wear he found my wet pussy - i had lost my panties earlier! We continued giving my husband oral and I felt him positioning me to receive him. I leaned forward like a bitch in heat and he slid his cock inside me. The adrenaline was incredible. As he started on me. She got on top of my husband and guided his cock inside her as she faced me. We kissed and I went down on her while she rode him and just like that - it was full swap time. Didn’t really plan it or expect it - it just happened. Still one if our best experiences.

A gangbang can we overwhelming for her and even you. I think starting off with 2 guys would be the best first step. If you're serious about having a gangbang with all of the guys cumming inside of her then it should be extremely well planned out. You need to screen the guys, make sure they are tested, etc. And then when the time comes half of them won't show anyway. It's not worth the hassle in my opinion. It's easier to just bring in a bunch of your buddies or maybe go to a sex club, however you will want them to wear protection either way. You can still have a fun gangbang with condoms especially if she'll let guys cum on her. We always make guys wear condoms in gangbangs but my GF let's them nut on her face, so it's kind of like a gangbang/bukkake and it's very hot.

This sounds like another man with a fantasy that is not based in reality. She already told you she would never do it and you already discussed it. My advice is only act on it if she brings it up.

Wishing all the couples, singles, triads and more a very Happy New Year and wish you all the very best in 2020. We've gotten good advice and new perspectives from reading the many posts on this board. Recently, we read something really interesting - and it was posted in 2007 :-) This board is a great resource for couples either new to the scene or, like ourselves, slowly inching back into it. So thank you to all and have a great 2020

Be cool, don't pressure her, and most importantly, tell her that you love her. When the opportunity to do it or even talk about it comes again, don't push it, just let her know that she can do as she wants AND she can direct what you do as well. She will be most comfortable having total control. Perhaps she'll want a regular swap, or to play alone, or for you to play by yourself, or maybe just take a pass. Tell her you love her, give her control and she will move it along.

If the situation happens again be prepared. Viagra will help you unfuck yourself. It won’t help you get it up, but as long as you get it up, it will help it not go away. There’s a reason they call it “swinger insurance.”

This is NOT an unusual occurrence. I'll bet you get rock hard now when you picture your wife actually doing the fantasy you've had for years. Try it again. Next time go easy on the booze. There's a fine line between losing inhibitions and losing your erection. Once you figure out where that line is, you can get a buzz AND a woody. When you try again with this couple, I'd suggest separate rooms to start. You know that your wife is safe with your buddy. Go off with his wife to another room and you'll get a hard on that could drive nails. Once you get past that first hurdle, a whole world of erotic fun will open up for you and your wife. Let us know what happens next!

In my opinion, one shouldn't rule out anything in a new relationship. It's a time to explore the other's mind, learn how she thinks, and determine the possibilities. That said, Laura and I discussed "fidelity" on our first date. We had both learned we each had a history of sexuality. At one point, I suggested that people who are able to "swap spouses" must have a very strong marriage and impressive communication. Otherwise, such might well ruin their marriage. "I can't imagine living the rest of my life having sex with the same person constantly," she said. "There's a special excitement when you fuck a new and different person." We continued this discussion for the next two years when we got married. About a year into it, I came home from a business trip to the question, "Darling, would you mind if I fuck someone else while you're in Dallas next week?" "I assume you have somebody in mind?" "His name is Richard. He's a contractor who is doing some work on our building at work. He wants to fuck me." "Every man who has laid eyes on you want's to fuck you. Has he asked?" "No, but a woman knows. He asked me out to dinner. I'd like to do him while you're in Dallas next week." To shorten the story, she did, and our path into Swinging began. She was unimpressed with the experience, (I wasn't.) and didn't repeat the encounter, but it narrowed our search to couples, which we found sometime later. Communitation is key. Learn to understand each other and your freedom to experience excitement will be assured.

There really isn't an answer to your question, or others would have chimed in already. But I will share my thoughts at this point. Every relationship is unique in many ways. And honestly swinging is a really big step for the majority of people. It is contrary to how they were raised and societal norms. The chances of you meeting someone who is "swinger ready" are pretty much slim to none. So, if swinging is something you really want to do, then you have to be honest about it. In my case, monogamy was something that was never really important to me. It all depends on your motivations. If you want to find a woman that feels the same way, then you will have to look where the environment is already swinger friendly. If she is there, she leans that way to start off with. I saw a profile of a woman on SLS the other day who was specifically looking for a male swinging partner for a LTR. You might try there. You can also visit venues in your area that are swinger friendly. If you are up front in what you are looking for in a relationship, where ever you meet her, you are gonna have a lot of one and done dates, but then again, you might get lucky! Women at your age are past the raising kids stage, they are in their sexual prime, and you just never know. Good luck!

She looks so sexy doing it. She is my favorite porn star!

and one more….ho ho ho