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This actually happened to us. We politely "passed" on a couple. They handled it fine. Months later we had a party and our friends invited them. Again, no hard feelings, they were welcome to join. As we spent more time with them, we did, in fact, hit it off. We feel fortunate that we got a "do-over" - but none of it would have happened had we ghosted them or been impolite.

Ms. Gold doesn't LIKE above average...most often men with large dicks think that the size is enough and just pound away. Well, just pounding and/or 'bottoming out' HURTS some women (Ms Gold included). Skill and paying attention to your partner will ALWAYS win out over pound and grinding away. It's not the size of the wand, but the skill of the magician...

My wife has worn revealing clothes since we were married in 1972. The funniest time I remember is when we had spent the night in a Motel 8 outside of Fort Sumner NM. Wife was 42. We had stayed on the second floor across from the stairs. We were leaving. I was in the car waiting for her. Next to me was a guy waiting on his wife in his care and their two boys 8 and 10. His wife and my wife came out of the rooms at the same time. They met at the base of the stairs. She was wearing an unbuttoned sleeveless sheer top blouse and see through yellow shorts. Her nice breasts were hanging out and you could see her pubic hair through her shorts. My wife was wearing a black fish net top no bra and a white sheer shorts. You could see all of her breasts clearly and her pussy. They stopped, looked at each other and began to talking. They laughed and talked forever. I turned off my car and he did the same. Both of their breasts wiggled and bounced for all to see as well as their pussies. It was very beautiful to see. After 18 minutes, I know for sure I kept time, they finally hugged, mashing their exposed huge breasts and exchanged phone numbers. They were from Montana on vacation going to Juarez Mexico. My wife told her the best way to get there. We were heading to Wyoming. She told my wife what to see and visit on the way. They still talk today. My wife enjoys displaying her bare breasts in public.

You have been having threesomes with your wife and the same other female. It doesn’t sound poly at all to me but you would like it to be. Your wife uses this as leverage for what she wants. It sounds like manipulation and not a good way to problem solve. I suggest you both take a step back from all swinging activities and work those out perhaps with professional help.

I don't think you need to explain why something turns you on and you may not really know why yourself. If something turns you on, it turns you on. You might find it interesting to think about why just to understand your own motivativations, but if anything, trying to explain it is probably a mistake. Trying to explain why you think the way you is a minefield you are not going to cross without blowing yourself up. It's a great way to make your partner wonder if she's "enough for you." I have brought up the subject of swinging with prior partners and tried to explain what I thought was interesting about it and why. Explaining my way out of how that was understood as a negative reflection on her was always next to impossible. After a couple of those, I decided that trying to explain my own psychology to someone, even if I thought I understood it, was too difficult to explain adequately enough. If it turns you on, don't over analyze and don't try to explain it to someone who will over analyze it for you.

Not exactly a toy but my GF has wore my buddies cum on her face and walked through the mall. Pretty sure they got the idea from a porno. Her boss told her that he was going to buy her a buttplug to wear around work but he never did. I'd be interested in that.

This is correct.

SWINGING LESSON NUMBER ONE: The female makes the call! There are multiple reasons for this but in simple terms, most men will stick their erection in any warm, wet, accommodating place that will have it. Women must let a partner INSIDE her. That's why she makes the call if you ever want to be successful in your marriage and in swinging.

In my experience a triad is the hardest poly relationship structure to pull off, why it is often pursued as an intro level thing baffles me. It is seriously hard (and rare). A triad is made up of (at least) 4 relationships. Given persons A, B, and C. Then A and B, A and C, B and C, A and B and C. It is unlikely to have all of those relationships be of equal intensity at all times. So to answer your question, is it common for one relationship be more intense than another? Yup, happens all the time. The only way I think this will work (he says humbly) is if you let individual relationships themselves define the shape your constellation takes. Don't try to force things into a triad if the relationships don't support it. Maybe they will evolve to that shape over time, but maybe they won't. Expecting them to fit from the get go is just going to make everyone involved unhappy and feel unseen/heard. So that leads to a question for you, would your existing partner be OK with the relationship structure being more of a V? With you and your new partner having the stronger connection and She and your new partner having a metamour relationship? D

I get that, and fully understand where you're coming from. I'd just never considered that it might be interpreted any other way than how I'm sure it's intended: "we try to live a certain way and if you already know it will be mutually uncomfortable, let's not bother". It's probably a term I would use as a throwaway without thinking about it, but on the other hand, I'm also one of those people who can't handle certain notorious suburbs because the snobbishness grosses me out. I agree that it's not the best euphemism, but I'm not sure specifying "groomed, polite, well-spoken" is actually less insulting. I'm also sorry your daughter gets dumped on at work, I hope she knows it's really more about those people and their inner misery than it is about her.

The term may be new to the 21st century, but it is something that has been present forever just like racism and homophobia! Some people choose to ignore it if it doesn’t effect them directly and some people don’t. Just like some people walk away or watch as someone gets bullied and some people step into put the bully in their place. We know which kind of people we prefer to be around and don’t. Not up to us who others choose to spend their time with.

Damnit you beat me to it...lol. I haven't had the pleasure of seeing my wife with anything but toys and myself up to this point. So I'll have to get back to you after it actually happens. But this is pretty much what started our conversations of swinging and now we are here. For me, my wife is my favorite porn star. And as someone else mentioned earlier real, tangible interactions with the possibility of including you are really indulgent to the human mind. So while being able to get on the interwebs and watch dolled up actors bang is adequate for some pleasure, the vision of someone you know banging it out seems to cause a different more intense reaction. A semi provocative picture of my wife does more for me than a hardcore photo of my favorite actress/act etc. I think for me it also comes down to her pleasure. Being able to see her get pleasure to her satisfaction is infinitely hot. Hearing her, etc. And not being involved means I can pay more attention to that and not be distracted by the sensations in my most sensitive areas. Which allows me to be more seduced and engaged mentally. Lastly I just want to see my wife doing something she does well. And see angles that I can't see if I'm involved, especially when my eyes are rolled to the back of my head. It comes back to her being my favorite porn star and me wanting to see all of that porn.