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Just or a general idea of the people involved: Everyone in this story is 28. Except my wife is 26. John is my best friend, since I was 14. Jenna is my wife who I have been with since I was 19. Mona is John's wife, they've been together since they were 18. She has also become my wife’s best friend over the last few years. Everyone is each other's first. My best friend, John, and his wife, Mona, managed to buy a nice home. There was some things that they wanted to do though that I (an electrician) offered my services for. Knowing they were strapped for cash, having just bought a house, I offered to do it in exchange for a day hanging out with beer and BBQ. Long story short, they bought a hot tub, wanted to set it up, along with some lighting to install outdoors. On a relevant note, my wife and I hadn’t fucked for roughly two weeks before this, which is rare for us. I got to work early in the morning, around 7h, and went at it. It took almost all day, and the girls were very turned on by my abilities, neither had ever actually seen me working before. By around midday it was fairly hot, around 35 with the humidex, and rather than sweating through 5 shirts, I took my shirt off. I noticed Mona was eyeing me quite a bit, and even commented how even though I look skinny, I am actually rather muscular. On the flip side, we were also very turned on by the girls' abilities with manual labour (they helped me dig out a few trenches). Watching Jenna, who is curly dark haired with dark brown eyes, with her petite little body, her short shorts accenting her firm and shapely ass, and eventually changing into a sports bra, showing off her flat stomach and supporting her little tits, sweating away, digging, the muscles in her arms showing from the effort, was very hot. Mona too, helped out with the same, she’s a bit taller, at 175, works out all the time and it shows. She has straight brown hair, brown eyes. She was wearing skin tight shorts, and a fairly loose shirt that still didn’t manage to conceal her full tits. I finished up everything at around 17h, and we turned the tub on right then. I went and took a quick shower, and we hung out having dinner and drinking. The three of us were fairly sore, and decided that the best thing would be to…use the hot tub. We all change into our bathing suits and get into the tub. I like to think we are all rather good looking people. John is in shape, slightly shorter than me, with more meat on his bones and very defined. Brown hair, light brown eyes and fair skinned. He and I were the first ones in, while the girls grabbed us drinks. My wife came out next and brought us a couple of drinks each. She had changed into a fairly risque black bikini bottom, not quite a thong but it revealed quite a bit. I don’t know the term, bit it maybe stuck out five centimetres in each direction from her ass crack. She has varying degrees of tanlines, and the white of a part of her ass that was covered by some of her more covering bottoms was visible. I noticed John couldn't keep his eyes off of her ass when she turned around to help out Mona some more. Her top wasn’t much more revealing than the sport bra she had been wearing earlier that day. Her flat stomach looked even better in the night lighting than it had earlier. She came back out a few minutes later with a bottle of white wine and two glasses for her and Mona and got into the tub. Then Mona comes in last. Even though I had known her for so long, I hadn't seen her in a bathing suit for years. She was wearing one of those triangle string bikinis. Her tits looked perfect, I'm guessing a C, maybe a D. Her stomach was very well defined, her legs nice and long. John caught me looking and just smiled in acknowledgment. We are drinking and chatting, and because we had been drinking since the morning, our lips have loosened up quite a bit. All three of them are paying me compliments, they had never actually seen me work, and were very impressed. Mona told Jenna how she is so lucky to have someone so good with his hands, and made a point that it must translate well to...other things. She also brought up my physique again, saying how she was pleasantly surprised. Jenna goes on to pay John compliments on his physique. He works hard on his body, he didn't look anywhere near as good in highschool, even to me, who has seen him in the buff before and is not attracted to men, I was surprised at how far he had come. The girls got their fair share of compliments too, seeing two rather girly girls do manual labour in skimpy clothes is actually quite a turn on. Me and John both said this. The conversation drifts away from the flirtatious things, and we just continue drinking and hanging out. We were discussing a recent trip of ours to Greece, when John asked: "You guys have been to nude beaches, right?" John asks us. "Yeah, a few times, we didn’t go in Greece, though we did go nude a few times at some very secluded beaches" "What does it feel like? Without a bathing suit in the water?" I'm a bit surprised he never tried it. I describe it as well as I can. "Sounds good," he said "do you wana try it?" He asked Mona. She didn't even answer him. She just reached under the water, and pulled off her bikini bottoms, and tossed them over the edge. Then undid her top and did the same, though sinking into the water a little bit so as not to show anything. I couldn't see a thing, between the dark water and the bubbles, and her tits being below the water, but I felt my cock stir a bit, just knowing she was nude, about a metre away from me. John followed up and pulled his trunks off under the water and tossed them over. Jenna and I just laughed, a little out of being awkward, a little from being happy. It was honestly the last thing we would have expected from them. After a few minutes, Mona said. "What about you two? This should be normal for you, since you’ve already been nude in front of strangers before" I looked over at Jenna and she just shrugged, taking the lead I reached under the water and pulled off my trunks. My wife then followed, and pulled her bottoms off, then her top, but she didn't have an issue exposing herself right away, at least for a few seconds. Showing ger perky little tits, her white olive-like skin hidden underneath her bathing suit, with her round little pink nipples, veered just above the water for a few seconds as she removed her top, I saw both John and Mona looking at her, not taking their eyes off her tits, at this point my cock grew from a chubby to a full erection. I guess we were all a bit more awkward than we thought we would be, they talked a little about how it felt freeing, but really, conversation died down, and our drinks dissapeared much quicker than previously. My cock went back down to a flaccid state. "Well, I guess I should get us more drinks, what does everyone want?" Mona asked us. We told her, we were all on empty at this point. Now thing is, Mona has always been very insecure about her body, for god knows what reason since she had always been very fit. I was convinced she would awkwardly manage to put her bathing suit back on, but was secretly hoping she would expose herself at least a bit. To my surprise, and as I found out later, everyone's, including her own, she just got right up, in no rush. I knew a little of what to expect before, from John's descriptions over the years. She stood up, her body glistening in the lighting, the water dripping off of her body. Her tits were bigger than I had expected, and much more perky than I thought tits that big could be. Her nipples, a dark pink, were surprisingly small in comparison, roughly the size of a toonie, and practically a perfect circle. Her crotch was completely hairless, her pussy lips were practically perfect, and as if though God decided that she needed an imperfection there, a cute mole toward the top of her pubic mound. She stepped away showing us her smooth defined back. Above her ass she has the two cute dimples, accentuated by the lighting shadows. Her ass looked firm. I probably spent too long looking, when I felt a hand grab my cock, now fully erect again, under the water. I looked at my wife, she just gave me a knowing look and let go of my cock. She comes back carrying two drinks, her tits moving up and down with every step, and gives the drinks to Jenna and I, all while blushing, an embarrassed smile covering her face. I’m paying attention to her as she leans down, her full breasts being carried down by gravity as she hands me my drink. She then asks John to give her a hand with the rest. John gets up, I can feel my wife looking at him. He is near hairless, a stark contrast to me. His white ass, which has probably never felt fresh air before, is ripped with muscles, as is his torso. He has a slight chubby from what I can tell, and is completely shaved. Only a few hairs are across his chest. My wife didn’t take her eyes off of him as he got up and went inside. After he turns his back to us to walk inside, I look at my wife, and take my hand and start rubbing my wife's pussy lips. Before I know it, she straddles me, goes on top and starts rubbing her clit against my rock hard cock. I take her tit and start sucking on it like I haven't since we first started fucking as kids, my other hand squeezing her ass, grabbing firmly, following her movements. Partially it was that we hadn't fucked in two weeks, partially the situation we were in. They came back sooner than we expected. We just heard Mona say, wow look at you two. She has two drinks, and John was carrying an ice bucket with a bottle of white wine and a couple beers. We look up at them, faces flushed from the sudden rush, and quickly go back to sitting while staggering out an apology. They laugh and tell us not to worry about it, get back in the tub and cheers us. We talk a little, much more relaxed now. We're talking about stupid things, when we finish polishing off the 2 more drinks we had. Mona was at this point being a little more open with her body, her tits occasionally coming out of the water, exposing her nipples to us in varying degrees. "Well, now it's your turn,” said John. I know John has always found my wife hot, this didn’t surprise me at all. Besides, it was only a matter of time before we would have to get out for one reason or another. I waited for her to get out first, and take my cue. Jenna isn’t that hung up on nudity, but she has never been nude in front of male friends before, so I wasn’t sure what to expect. My wife isn't as tall as Mona, and you wouldn't think she has such a great body since she dresses so conservatively, though there had been a sneak peak earlier that day with her in the sports bra. She stands up, facing toward John and Mona. I didn’t see her much front ways at that moment, since we were sitting on the same side. Instead I had a view of her profile. Unlike Mona, she keeps a little bit of a bush, maybe half a centimetre long or so of thick, straight, dark hair, and those pubes were slightly visible to me. I could see tiny droplets of water clinging to it. Her ass was perfectly smooth except for a few tiny little stretch marks on the side, still tanned from our recent trip, still just as high as when we were in highschool. Seeing her like that, in front of my friends turned me on a bit. What turned me on more, was that John didn’t take his eyes off her. She started sidestepping to get out, facing John consistently. Her ass was right in front of my face, even though I’ve seen it a million times, it looked much nicer now then ever before, her varying tan lines, completely white right above her crack, then slightly darker a bit out, and a very faint tan line further still, I didn’t resist a little squeeze. Before I knew it I was rock hard again. Mona asked 'why are you walking like that?" "Your husband's going to have to wait a bit longer to see my ass," she answered slyly. We all laughed, she got out and stood facing us waiting for me to get out. “C’mon” “Yeah Nick, c’mon,” said Mona. I was stalling, I had a raging boner and no one had walked out in that state yet. “Just give me a minute Jen, I’ll join you inside,” “No, go now, we don’t care that you have a boner,” Mona said. Well I saw I had no out, so I figured, whatever. I got up, my body on display for all. I trim all my body hair, though I’m still quite hairy. My pubes were about a centimetre long, as well as my chest hair, and my treasure trail. As I said before, even though I am skinny, I have quite a bit of definition, especially in my arms and abs. My cock was pointing straight up at full length, which is around 15cm. Now, I have never considered myself to be well endowed, average, yes, but not big by any means. So, what came next was surprising to me, from Mona. “Wow, you’re thick….” I 'm genuinely confused, and say “no way, I’m fucking skinny as fuck.” “no, I mean your...you know” user she looking at my dick. I look down, still a bit confused, just say “i don’t think so, average no?” At this point John chimes in: “nick, you’re pretty damn fucking thick.” I still don’t think I am, but it was nice to hear. My face lit up in a smile. I stepped out, now showing my little ass as I walk in. Then it hits me that Mona is looking at me all this time, I was turned on a bit that my friends wife was seeing me like this. I snuck a look back and saw she was staring at me. When we got in and reached the fridge, I turned Jenna to face me and kissed her while running my hand up and down her smooth body, my cock right up against her, the tip resting right atop her belly button, she grabbed a handful of my ass, I smacked hers lightly. We grabbed a couple more drinks per person and carried them out in one go, they were talking when we came out, but stopped and didn’t take their eyes off of us as we walked toward the tub. I handed Mona her drink, my bare, hard, cock just a half a metre or so from her. We hopped back in the water, Jenna still side stepping hiding her ass from John, and handed him his beer. We slowed down our drinking over the next hour or so. And were actually like just a few friends chilling, that happened to be naked. We were chatting about random things, work, our siblings, just regular conversations. Well, as has happened before, the regular conversations moved toward sex. We started talking about the craziest things either of the two couples has done, which, believe me, is very vanilla. The consensus was that us seeing each other naked was at the top. The runner up was that both couples had sex in public before, but never got caught or seen by anyone, and even position wise, we are all very vanilla. We start discussing our bodies, only paying compliments. As we’re having this conversation, John says: “You know what, I still haven’t seen Jenna’s ass,” “You’re just gonna have to wait,” she answered. We finally finished our drinks, and this time, it was decided that just the girls would go. They both looked fantastic, and both were shooting us sly glances. Again, Jenna managed to make her ass not visible to John by sidestepping the whole way out of the tub, and walking backward until out of sight indoors. Again, we didn’t take our eyes off of them. They get back, and we chat a little. Again, the conversation switches toward sex. “Have you guys ever watched two people fuck?” John and I explain we have, at some high school party years ago, a couple was fucking in front of 30 people or so. “Aside from that?” Jenna asks. Everyone says no. It was silent for a minute or so, finally, Jenna said “im not having a threesome, or a foursome” Everyone agreed. We were all way too jealous for that. We start talking more about sex, positions, places, what who likes, and what not. And this point, everyone is pretty damn drunk. We’re running comparisons between ourselves (as couples). We run out of drinks again, this time, John and I get to go, both flaccid. We can feel our wives’ eyes on us as we walk out. I asked him if any of this was planned beforehand, he told me no, he wouldn’t have ever even thought of it with how insecure Mona was with her body. We exchanged compliments on our wives, and he complained again about how he hadn’t seen my wife’s ass. We get back outside, the girls eyeing us the entire time. I’m facing Jenna, my bare little ass right in front of Mona as I hand her the white wine and then sit down. After yet another drink, I bring up how it really isn’t fair that he hadn’t seen Jen’s ass yet. “Well, whatever, I haven’t seen him hard.” We’re slurring our words at this point. “Show him your ass and you will” said Mona, “whats the big deal, it’s just an ass!” as she stands up, turns around and smacks her own ass a few times. The sound of a wet slap on her bare ass, mixed with the slight jiggling that followed was a huge turn on. John and I both reiterate the same thing, and get up smacking our own asses for her. I’m sure it wasn’t half as attractive. “Jesus, fine, relax.” She finally says. She gets up, and turns around so he has a nice view. She then bends over for him and says “because I made you wait,” I then smack her ass, and spread her cheeks a little. John cries out thank you! And proceeds to compliment her. She stands up for a second, still out of the water. “You know, we were just talking before when you guys left about how it might be fun to watch each other fuck.” I look at John, he doesn’t say anything. Look at Mona, and she is just smirking. I Move Jen over a little bit, and put my hand on her back motioning for her to turn back around and then bend over. I saw what John was looking at when she had bent over at that point. Her ass, dripping wet, with a slight red mark from my smack. Her tan lines visible in the lighting, her light olive skin a sharp contrast to her more brown tanned body. I spread her cheeks, exposing her little asshole and making her pussy more visible. Although she keeps a bush on her pussy, she is hairless in her ass. There’s and no hair aside from peach fuzz. I take just one finger, while pulling one of her cheeks aside, and rub it slowly to part her lips while giving them a view, feeling her wetness. I go back forth like this a few times, teasing her. Then insert it into her. I move back and forth slowly, I can feel she is as wet as the Amazon, and hear her softly moaning. I do this for a minute or so. Then stop. “Why are you stopping?!” Jenna says “Jenna, turn around, John, stand up.” He stood up, his cock was standing up straight, I’d say he was 20cm, give or take, longer than I for sure. “There, now you saw him with a hard on.” They both smiled, and sat back down. Then looking at the two of them, I said: “to quote you guys, now it’s your turn.” Mona got up and sat down on the elevated portion of the tub facing us, legs closed, but her beautiful round tits looking very inviting. John got to sucking on her tit, while fondling the other, then kissed his way down stairs, causing her legs to spread, for a brief second we saw the pink inside her, before he started eating her out, obviously loving every second of it. Mona started softly moaning, you could see each deep breath she took, her mouth forming a slight “O” while John continued to eat her out and fondled her tit. After a couple of minutes, he stopped, and she slips back into the water. “His turn now” said Mona, indicating toward me with a nod. Jenna grabbed my cock under the water, turned to face me slightly and started running her fingers along my already erect shaft, then started to kiss me, my neck, and my chest. Mona complained they couldn’t see much, so I got up and sat at the edge of the tub. Mona sat up too and continued to run her hand up and down my shaft, occasionally stopping to play with my balls. After what felt like an hour, but was likely around a minute, she bent down and started to give me brain. First just teasing the tip of my cock with her tongue, before starting to really go at it. After a few minutes of heaven, she sat up, and slid back down into the water, I followed suit after a few seconds catching my breath. We didn’t even need to tell them it was their turn, John got out of the water, while Mona went down on him. She then ended up getting out too, and continued to blow him on all fours, fondling his balls as she did so, using mouth and hands, her large tits swaying with her movements. She obviously has a bit of a gag reflex (which she had mentioned earlier), and couldn’t fit his entire huge cock in her mouth, only about half, still, John was definitely enjoying himself. After a few minutes, she stopped and slid back into the water, John stayed out a minute or so longer, his cock having already turned pink at the tip, catching his breath before sliding back into the water. Jenna gets back to kissing me, in the water this time, sitting in my lap, facing me, I reach between her legs and start rubbing her clit, teasing her, when I hear Mona. “Hey, guys,” We stop and look at her “let’s take this inside, it’ll be better.” We agree, the four of us all get out and are using the towels to dry ourselves quickly, John asks: “rules?” "I don't know" I said. "No touching?" He asked Mona. Mona looked at me, and said, " you guys can touch if you want and if that's okay with you." Jenna agreed. But John didn't, we agreed no touching. Mona grabbed John by the hand a led him to the pull out bed they had set up for us because we were too wasted to drive home. It being completely dark, Jenna decided to hit the light switch. By the time we looked up, Mona put John onto the bed and started blowing him, ass up toward us, giving me a nice view of what was between her cheeks of her white ass, her tiny little butthole, and her swollen lips. It was very tempting to smack her like that, but we agreed no touching. I took Jenna to the edge of the bed, placed her down next to Mona, and kissed her, quickly making my way down to her tits, and down to her dripping cooch. Jenna was moaning hard, and I was loving every second of it. I got up, flipped her over. And inserted my throbbing cock into her from behind. Mona and John had changed positions to her laying down on the bed stomach down while sucking off John who was standing next to me, so I had the view of Mona's ass as she was laying down blowing John, and my wife's ass. What turned me on most was that Mona could not take her eyes off of us the entire time, her face, with my best friend's dick in her mouth, was barely 25cm from where I was thrusting into her best friend. John took her, and laid her down on her back, entering her slowly, mouthing off a moan as she is looking at Jenna who I had already been deep into for a few moments. I smacked Jenna's ass, hard, she likes that, and she let out a big moan. I looked at Mona, who was watching us fuck, and I slapped Jenna's ass again harder. I looked at her. John was going deep, with long thrusts, she was red in the face, covered in a thin layer of sweat, her tits going up and down with each of his thrusts, she grabbed one, and I made eye contact with her, she held eye contact while moaning. John, on the other hand, from a few quick glances, wasn't taking his eyes off of Jenna's ass. Which I then smacked again, then used my hands to spread her cheeks out further. Both of the girls were moaning fairly loud now, I reached around Jen to rub her clit and felt she was soaking wet, dripping. I said, loud enough for Jenna to hear, “John, go ahead, smack her if you want,” She, through moans, said yes. He did, then he squeezed her, then smacked again. Watching him feel and slap my wife's ass like that, brought me really close to orgasm. Feeling I was getting too close to finishing, I quickly moved so Jenna was on top of me, which is her easiest position to orgasm in. In doing so, I found myself right next to Mona. Jenna went down low, kissing me while moving up and down on my cock. I'm following the movement of her ass, stretching her cheeks apart and smacking every so often, we're kissing deeply, can't keep my hands or mouth off of her and vice versa. She rises up to grind on me. I look at her, she's more beautiful then ever. She rides, let's out a few moans and then her scream she has when she reaches a deep orgasm. John and Mona are both looking at us, and seem to be enjoying it. Jenna falls back down on me,I run my hands across her now completely sweat covered back. We sway back and forth a little, then with my hands I motion for her to grind again. She does, while she is riding me, John switches Mona to doggy style, she is still right next to me, I can feel her breath on my face, her soft moans, the slight smell of wine. I look back at Jenna, she’s close to orgasm again, grabbing her little tits, rubbing her nipples I feel her legs tense, her grinding slow down slightly, and little gush of her juices cover my pubes. She leans back down toward me, kisses me, and rests for a second before resuming her position up higher. I see John staring at Jenna, running his eyes up and down her outstretched body, and I shift back to Mona, her big tits jiggling with every thrust, I guess John caught my eyes, and he told me go for it, Mona moans her agreement and I do. I reach over with my hand, feeling her soft tits on my fingers, rubbing and pinching her nipples, I'd never felt big tits like that before, I wasn't letting go. Just then, Jenna grinds again and reaches another screaming orgasm, maybe 30 seconds later, I heard Mona get louder too, she orgasmed as well, louder than I expected. She takes her hand and puts it over mine which is still caressing her tit, and pushes it toward herself. I took Jenna, and flipped her over to go missionary, I knew I couldnt last much longer, as I insert myself again and start thrusting, I hear John moaning, he pulls out, and cums all over Mona's bent over ass. At least 3 or 4 big squirts of cum showered her. I kept on thrusting while looking at this, then switched my attention back to Jenna. I sucked on her tits, nibbling her little nipples, thrusting continuously. Then I realized a hand squeezing my ass, and saw that it was Mona's, she was watching us, as was John. I guess that was all I needed, I pulled out, and looking into Jenna's eyes, came all over her torso and titties. It had been two weeks, and I really covered her. I fell onto the bed, no one said a word. Jenna muttered how she could really use a cigarette and everyone agreed. I went outside, grabbed a pack, I put one in Jenna's mouth and lit it for her. I saw John wasn't there, he went to get us towels, Mona said. So I went over to her, my cock less than 15cm from her face, put one in her mouth, and lit it for her. Then I lit one myself, and sat at the head of the bed. Watching these two girls, best friends, smoke in the house, covered in their respective husband's cum. No one said a word. John came in with towels, dried off his wife's ass, and gave me a towel to dry Jenna, which I did. Finally he said "you know, you didn't end up feeling Mona's ass." I looked at Mona and Jenna, they just looked back at me, then Mona started rocking her ass back and forth a bit. I took my hand over to her, squeezed and rubbed her ass before giving her a light smack. Exhausted, Jenna and I moved to the couch a few metres away and covered ourselves with a tiny blanket. Mona and John just ended up sleeping where they collapsed after sex. About a half an hour or so passed, and I felt Jen’s hand rubbing my cock. I didn’t need much convincing, I was spooning her, and just inserted myself into her from behind, she was already wet enough. I slowly started thrusting, trying to be quiet so as not to wake them. Jenna was being quiet too, though that’s hard for her. She turned around to face me, the two of us still lying down. I rubbed her clit as I was slowly going in and out of her. I felt her breathing get deeper, then her force back a few moans and a scream. She collapsed her head into my chest, and I knew she had finished. I kept going for a bit longer, placing her on her back, but she was starting to feel sore. She came over to me and went down on me for a few minutes before I finished in her mouth. We thought we had been quiet, but apparently not quiet enough, we heard Mona whisper to us, “good job guys.” Exhausted, not even bothering to cover ourselves much, we drifted off to sleep. Edit: my wife just read this, and has said she will write it from her perspective soon. So if anyone is interested just keep an eye out for a similar post in the future.

Sorry, but from three short years experience in the lifestyle with my wife.....single men are not swingers.

Mrs Doc is a swallower. She will occasionally cum as I cum in her mouth. It's really hot to watch her blowing someone in a 3-some or while his wife is sucking me. She always goes down as far as she can go and holds it as he cums. Amazing to feel and incredible to watch!

This was a huge part of my journey. Our first experience in a club ended in a full swap. It was a great couple but honestly the sex wasn’t so hot, but it was fun. What I really loved and what kept me coming back was the fun and flirtation. I loved picking out outfits that would temp and tease. I liked showing bits and being able to provide some limited access. I want men to want to see more but on my terms and when i’m ready. I like to see their face when they finally get to see all of me. I find the exhibitionism as much of the rush in the club setting as the eventual sex that inevitably happens later.

In my opinion that when the wife starts talking about it then it is wonderful and exciting

Steel, pushing for more right off the bat is a REALLY bad idea. Your wife has opened the door just a bit. Push even a little and that door will slam, likely forever. Stick to her rules and her comfort level the first time. Afterwards, discuss what you both saw, what you both enjoyed and what turned each of you on. Then, if there is a 2nd visit to the club discuss and agree upon the rules before you go and then follow up as before. Very few people get to jump into swinging with both feet. Go at her pace or go at your peril!

It was the Ms. We were talking about all of our previous experience and she told the story about how her and her ex swapped with another couple (family friends) in their hot tub (hot tubs = gateway to swinging ). The marriage was too far gone and they had no communication when this happened (and the other husband fell 'in love' with Ms. Gold and would have left his wife if Ms. Gold had any interest)... this is why we don't recommend swinging with friends. The thing that surprised me out of all of this is she said that she didn't have a problem with swinging and would consider doing it again under the right circumstances. We talked a bunch more and here we are!

I have read your other posts written by the husband. I really don’t understand why the two of you keep this going. Yes it’s a great fantasy but it doesn’t sound like an enjoyable reality. Why are you not taking a break from any swinging/open marriage activities and working on your marriage? Just stop.

Both approaches work and we've used each of them successfully at one time or another at Tj's, DJ's TPA, Pleasure Garden, Saints and Sinners, Players, Trapeze and Desire. The key it to recognize that you're not looking for friends or the perfect couple. You're looking for playmates for an hour or an evening who are reasonably attractive to you both. Approaching people in a friendly fashion is a big part of the selection process. Dressing sexy, the occasional direct teasing flash or some pretty obvious sexual interaction between the two of you lets others know that you're there to play. Adam's success ratio is very close to ours and on the few nights we didn't play with anyone else, we always have each other and Mrs Doc is hardly a consolation prize

"I have recently gotten back into swinging as a man" That sentence begs the question….what were you before???

My policy when lending money to friends is to only lend an amount that I don't care if I ever see again. So if the amount is such that you don't care at all whether you actually get it back, then consider it a gift and give it to them. Otherwise, don't do it. As prometheius mentioned, that will just put a strain on your friendship. Not to mention your sexual relationship with them.

I think you should buy your husband a horse. Once he's learned what a REAL fart is, he's stop worrying about that little "thing" that flies out of your cootch when you're having sex.