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My wife and I were having a convo the other day about a 3sum we had. She was telling me how much she enjoyed herself and how much fun she had. It (the 3sum) started out a little different than I expected. We were at a friend's house playing cards and drinking,he goes to use the restroom and my wife tells me that she wanted a 3sum with the two of us and how horny she was. I encouraged her to be the one to start things and she agreed. When my wife went up to use the restroom I asked my friend if he would be interested in sharing my wife with me and he was very into it. After a few more hands of cards my wife, him, and I go sit in the couch to watch a movie (friend turned on porn lol). We are about 2 minutes into the show and I feel my wife’s legs spread open and he is fingering her and at some point she got his cock out of his shorts and is playing with it. To sum it up, we (my friend and I) had our way with my wife and she loved it so much that she has asked me to take her back there 3 times, and the 3rd time I watched them for a bit before joining. She has since asked if I would send her over there alone and she would tape it for me! Is this something that is ok? We are happily married and in love and I do enjoy watching her with another guy. She has mentioned before about her having a boyfriend and I think she found him.

My husband didn’t “let” me, I never asked him if I could have sex when he is out of town. He suggested it. We had played with his best friend and my husband wanted me to have fun when he travels for work. I was surprised that he was so insistent. He explained that he knew it would be safe and there was no reason for me to be lonely. I think you need to feel safe if you go along with her want. If you feel threatened you will not be happy

Numex: "OTOH, when my wife is working or needs to concentrate, she isn't distracted by thoughts of sex like I am." I am so glad I'm not the only one. My lady can turn off all erotic thoughts when busy, worried or otherwise preoccupied. Me? They just keep coming at a rate of about 17 per second NO MATTER WHAT I'M*DOING. This is why I can be deep in a work project one minute and wacking off the next or at the same time!. My lady just shakes her head. One more difference between men and women, at least the two of us.

We and the couples we play with have threesomes and play alone often for one reason - kids. No one is hiding anything and we don't consider it cheating. Babysitters are sometimes arranged on weekends for couples play.

Swinging means different things to different people but to me, it's a journey of sexual exploration and it's done together. Once we're not together and sex with another happens, it's ain't swinging, it's cheating. I don't get the whole "cuck" thing but this sounds more like that.

"Should I let my wife have a boyfriend?" My concern originally was that if my wife was having sex with someone else, it would diminish the amount of sex she would want with me. The opposite happened. We screw as much as I can perform (usually twice a day) AND she steps out. Women have a capacity for sex that men don't - they don't have to get an erection to get going, and can have orgasms one after another. In swap situations I've seen her finish and appear completely satisfied/spent. Several minutes later, she's at it again. OTOH, when my wife is working or needs to concentrate, she isn't distracted by thoughts of sex like I am.

i think its fine..if you try to hold tight it will break.

I know this is an old post, but thanks for the review of YKW. I want to take my wife there on a first time experience and it sounds great for us.

It’s not as easy as everyone thinks. On the sites like SLS there are plenty of fakes, flakes, and freaks to sort through. There are some quality single men, also cheaters too. Some just treat single women as an easy lay. Many will say what you want to hear just to get what they want. It does take time though to find a quality FWB. This is a great site for advice. Don’t put up with any bs. When I am interested in someone I suggest a public meeting clarifying I don’t play on a first meet.

.........It has worked out with my wife and I but one of the reasons is I got older and can't be very good at sex anymore. Wife is still Horney but I have to admit I enjoy the pictures she takes. Life is good!!! I wish you well.

Ok so after talking more with the Mrs,I guess I miss understood. She doesn’t exactly want a BF just a guy that I’m ok with her seeing when she’s feeling horney and I’m not home. She is home alone a lot because of my work schedule. I did mention to her about video and the phone call/FaceTime stuff and that seemed to turn her on a lot! Tbh the thought of her inviting a guy over while I’m at work and in her words(letting him have his way with her) is very hot and arrosuing. She did tell me before that it would be hot if I let her have a boyfriend I guess our definition on that is different as I thought she would be having a personal relationship with him. Turns out her def of BF while married is a guy she can call frequently to come over and let him have his way with her and F her like a little slut. Thanks for the feedback all. I guess now I should talk her into doing ya both at the same time? Or find a GF?

I wouldn't have a problem with it. Especially, if she's going to tape it for you. And something you might consider is her calling you and letting you hear and even talk to them during. Hey, maybe even SKYPE. If he's going to be her boyfriend, they probably want some time alone.

OK ... we did and here it is! ? We went to the club -- our first EVER experience in the LS -- this past weekend. It's in what was certainly warehouse space behind a chain furniture store on one of the major roads (Bragg Blvd) in Fayetteville. The street in front is reasonably well lit and there's ample parking in a shopping center lot across the street. (The same person/group owns the warehouse and the shopping center, so it's OK to park there.) The club offers a round-trip shuttle bus from/to about a dozen hotels in the area, which indicates to us that they must get a lot of out-of-towners. Once you step inside, it's easy to forget that it's a converted warehouse. We thought the facilities were nice. There's a good-sized dance floor with a stripper pole; PLENTY of seating for eating/meeting/talking; a small room in the corner of the main area that offers a little more privacy due to the fact that you have to enter through "love beads" hanging from the ceiling; an interesting dungeon where the curtains can be closed OR left open; coolers where you can keep your beer or white wine cold; a bar where the bartender will hold your non-cold drinks for you so you don't have to keep up with them all night; lockers for which they provide the lock and key; and some beds -- also with curtains -- that face the main floor for those couples who might want to get "frisky" around a larger crowd. There was an ample supply of pretty good food and a soft drink dispenser. At midnight, they changed out the corn dogs, chicken & pasta, and meatballs for bacon, scrambled eggs, biscuits, and gravy. There's a DJ booth and he played an interesting mix of music all through the night. Maybe the most interesting thing was the shadowbox ... a room where whoever's in there can be seen from the dance floor only in silhouette/shadow. All kinds of activity went on in there, some involving both sexes and other involving only women. You can see plenty of pics on their Web site (YKW| NC Swinger Clubs | Fayetteville) In the back of the place are the various playrooms. They all have a theme (e.g. Las Vegas, 80s) and some of them have not only a bed but another play area such as a swing, sofa, or love chair so two couples can share the room without having to share the bed. There are also two Sybian rooms; a sex machine room; two rooms with a plexiglass wall between them for watching what goes on; a theater with mattresses where they show XXX movies all night; and gloryhole rooms for both men AND women. (Don't wanna leave the ladies out!) In the middle of all this is a dance platform with another stripper pole, couches to watch whoever's dancing, and another DJ booth. The pole got plenty of action during the night, and it wasn't just from the females! ? Again, you can see pics of all this on the Web site. As for the staff, they were as friendly and courteous as could be. All first-time visitors were given a tour and a glow bracelet and we guess it worked, because most of the times that a staffer passed us, they made sure to ask how we were getting along and if there was anything they could do for us. The owners also made it a point to stop by our table to introduce themselves and welcome us to the club. We were surprised by just how low a percentage of the people who were there actually had sex. There was some dirty dancing, hot kissing, and groping in the public areas, and after about 11:00, the playrooms were occupied constantly without much turnover. We DID see some sexual activity out in the open, but it seemed to us that the majority of the people there came just to party in an uninhibited atmosphere and then take it home. The only negative thing we'd say is that the club should maybe turn down the lights in the back play area to help create a sexier atmosphere. Having said that, we realize they might not be able to do so due to safety issues and/or fire department regulations concerning evacuating the building. Overall, we found the club to be a great place to visit and we can certainly recommend it to anyone in central NC who's looking for their first exposure to the LS. PS We've posted another thread more about our personal experience in the First Swinging Experiences forum.