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Swinging is just like every other couple activity in which you can engage. If you bowl, some nights she'll have a better score than you some nights, vice versa. She had a good night and you?? Hell, you got to watch. Actually, for a 1st experience, you two did well. You didn't describe yourselves but understand, swinging is generally a couples sport and a visual one. Perhaps your wife is more physically attractive than you? If so, go to the gym, get a haircut and work on your social skills. Swinging women basically call the shots in this hobby, something your first experience demonstrated clearly. Work a bit to become more attractive to the women around you and to be considered a "fair" trade. The best part of your story is that your wife established that she was attractive to both sexes. That's gotta be good for her. Be proud of her instead of jealous and take an honest look at yourself in the mirror and address whatever you need to to be your wife's equal in the attractiveness department.

One other major point. I understand that people like to loosen up and drink. You were probably nervous and needed it. But drinking is really bad for male performance. And too much drinking is bad for women to have their wits about them in a party situation where consent is necessary. Your wife may do things that she wouldn’t do sober. This could be fun or it could be overwhelming. Just a thought. As we knew more people, we have been able to go to house parties where we knew most of the people. Much more comfortable and I can relax knowing that no one is going to try anything wacky that my wife doesn’t want.

Who was the Doctor? Larry Nassar trying to explain how one of his girls came up pregnant? There is no way this can happen. Spreading false information like this is a huge disservice.

Our first full swap, I had her friend bent over the bed and she was on the opposite side getting it from behind by the other husband. They're long time friends. The intensity of the eye contact was totally off the charts between them watching each other get groped and roughly fucked by each other's husbands.

We first started two years ago with friends. We were surprised who else we knew that played too. Surprised but never shocked. My wife used to worry about bumping into people she knew in business. I joked she should invite this one hot woman she worked with to a party. I never worried because if I met someone I knew, they were doing the same thing. My whole outlook on this life has surly evolved this past year. At a recent house party, two couples came after some fun started. My wife came running to me. She scared the crap out of me. I thought someone did something to her that she didn’t like. She was in panicky excitement. She then pointed out a couple. It was my brother’s sister-in-law. My sister in laws sister. She was going into a room where everyone left their clothes. I went into denial. Couldn’t be her. It was! I couldn’t ignore her. I know she was shocked to say the least when she saw us. I had to start some small talk. Both of us buck naked. Who was more red? We got past the nobody knows, my brother or her sister. She looked at my wife for approval and then grabbed me. Hey, we’re not family.

We are of the same opinion. My wife's first check point when looking at a profile is if there are any pictures of the two of them together. If not, she immediately suspects that they are either not a couple or it is the guy doing the posting and the F knows nothing about it. So the profile is off to a bad start. The next thing is if the profile contains some close up shots of private parts. We don't care nor need to see that either. That is part of the exploration with a couple if we get to that point. We prefer shots of them doing what they like to do together as well as some classy sexy shots to know they also have a sexy side. But dick pics are an instant turn off for her. And for heavens sake, take some nice pictures. Selfies in the car or bathroom don't cut it. And pay attention to the mess in the background. Says a lot about you if the house is a mess to boot.

Two times. Once in 72 when we encountered a young junior officer from my husband's squadron. Guess since I was fucking him and my hubby was fucking his wife, we either blurred or skipped over the fraternization regulations. Never bothered the guys as they were professional military. The other time was when we encountered hubby's civilian boss and his then fiancée. They wedded and we have been more than fuck friends since 1979. We consider them like family.

I posted previously about the swinging history of my husband and me in another thread. It hasn't been pretty. I've been talking to H about our feelings regarding the whole matter the last couple days, and we're at a stalemate. I can't handle watching him with another women and would be content to leave the lifestyle entirely. H points out that I have had some good times with it, he has had some good times, why can't we have good times together in the lifestyle? To him it's not just the sex- he says he also enjoys the atmosphere of the clubs, the sexy, edgy vibes that people give out there, the thrill of going against norms. And don't I enjoy refusing to become the frumpy wife that a lot of his friends have? I pointed out that the occasions when I had the most fun were the ones when I was by myself- I can only enjoy it if he's out of sight, out of mind- can't do it with him. Couple activities I have problems with. He asks why I would be willing to give up having that fun? I've pointed out to him that I can live without this and be content with one man for the rest of my life- I don't need this and it's not working for me as a couple. We can find social outlets elsewhere. His response: he believes it's made us stronger as a couple and really improved our sex lives. He has the best sex with me after being with someone else. I believe the total opposite: I have put a wall up around me that keeps me distant from him emotionally and sex afterwards feels really off. I have asked him previously which was more important to him- me or the freedom to have a variety of swing partners. He won't answer that because he feels I'm painting him into a corner to say he'll drop it for me- and claims he could easily ask the reverse: if H was the most important thing to me, then I would be willing to do this. Thing is- that's exactly why I've done it this long (6 or 7 years), and I can't anymore. We're at a stalemate- has anyone else had these kind of discussions/impasses? Am I making too much of the whole situation and should just go along with it like I have been?

Unless the plan is to get together with someone numerous times before even thinking about playing, we're not sure what you mean by friends first. Friendship takes time. The deeper the friendship, the more time it takes. There may be such thing as "good friends at first sight" (same kind of thing as love at first sight) but a deep and lasting "at first sight" friendship has to be nearly as rare as love at first sight. (If you don't really know a person, how can you truly love them?) Play first, let the friendship grow over time.

I always considered my wife straight and she had never said anything about women until about the third time we played with this particular couple. My wife was laying on her back giving head to the other husband. I was laying between her legs and licking her clit. The other wife was laying beside me. I ask the other wife if she would like a taste. She moved closer to my wife and began licking her clit. My wife just looked down from the corner of her eye, raised her eyebrows and kept sucking. When the other woman brought her to orgasm she stopped doing the other guy and cried out "Oh My God That Was Good" as she went through her orgasmic shudder. My wife has been OK with giving and receiving with the female playmates ever since. It has added even more combinations to our swinging activities.