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You definitely are not in a relationship (at least HE isn't in a relationship). It sounds like he is looking for a partner to swing with (swinging as a single guy is not easy) and not necessarily a partner outside of swinging. Your feelings are justified. It takes time to develop a strong enough relationship to swing and while there is no exact time table, it doesn't sound like you are anywhere close to having the trust required. You deserve better and you certainly deserve more time before you take this (large) step. One of the golden rules (at least in our opinion) is to NEVER move faster than the slowest person is comfortable with. Are you even interested in swinging if it wasn't for him? I think that this is nothing more than a fling for him and its time to look elsewhere. You deserve better!

I have seen the black ring as a swinger signal come up before. I was out recently and saw some mood rings for sale. Black supposedly means stressed. Perhaps that is an explanation for Prince Harry’s black ring.

This should be a fun hobby that you're excited about. If he's not helping to make you comfortable and excited to do it then there's something wrong.

First thing that seems out of place to me is that you have been together less than 3 months and you haven't been intimate in 5 weeks. To me, that is a red flag that needs to be addressed before swinging is even thought about.

This is what my wife enjoys the most as well. The two things she enjoys the most are having sex and giving head at the same time, and having both of us cum inside of her (that part's only with a regular boyfriend she's played with a few times already).

Reconnecting with your partner is the best part about the LS. It speaks to deep affection, honor,...and unbridled lust. Swinging enables and encourages couples to view their partners in an erotic light that is often extinguished by work, routine and so forth. Seeing ones partner as the object of others' attentions and desires -- and knowing that they are truly your partner--rejuvenates relationships in ways that vanillas cannot comprehend. Yes, the after-party sex with one's spouse is breathtaking in its intensity and duration.

Part of our after-play ritual is to give each other a Full Report on the play time, from our own point of view. We make it pretty detailed, and we do make a point of describing what we liked and didn't like. Sometimes, especially in the beginning of our swinging career, giving those Full Reports in the car on the way home got us worked up enough so we be ripping each other's clothes off as soon as we got home! But we do it, whether we have played in the same room or different rooms, mainly to reiterate to each other that we have nothing to hide from each other, and are open and sharing everything.