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I don't know what's worse? Over-reacting or under-reacting? Neither extreme is good - neither one is reasonable - neither one helps the situation. ?

When we talked about rules for playing separately, we realized this might be an issue and agreed that any "second dates" required specific advance discussion before they were on the table. That worked neatly enough.

His_harley, I think adamgunn is correct. There are situations where couples live apart, but are still quite stable. It's uncommon, but it does exist. The whole point here is wondering how stable the couple is? Some swinging couples won't play with couples who aren't married for that very reason. You two fall into that category, unfortunately, We wouldn't have an issue playing with you since you've been together for ten years, but some would. Likewise, there's reason to potentially be concerned here. What you don't want is drama coming from this couple. If they're not very well committed to each other, there's the potential for drama. That's impossible for us to judge, and will have to be something you two see/feel for yourselves coming from them.

Our friend is an infectious disease control nurse working for a large government agency. Last weekend we celebrated her birthday with dinner at a restaurant, dancing in a crowded club and to finish up - an orgy. When asked if she was concerned about Corona virus - she laughed and said that other than those with compromised immune systems, we should worry more about the regular flu and that this is just media hype. We are signed up for a house party in mid April, we won't pay until the day before as to make a decision to attend pending spread of CV. We are not curtailing an other activities, LS or vanilla.

You are talking about this and setting up guidelines. That's very good. I see your point about multiple guys, rather than one. You are attempting to ensure 'feelings' don't develop. Okay. But . . . you realize that the standard is for you, too, right? I mean, if you get a girl that's really great in bed, you can't go back for seconds. That's a pretty big restriction. I might suggest that you take the no seconds rule out, and then say if either of you is feeling queasy about one of your spouses partners, you can veto them. It's a little less restrictive.

We attend parties with many people. This doesn’t mean everyone plays with everyone. With no agenda I never know who I’ll be with.

This should be a real concern not because of news reports but because scientists say so. When the NIH and CDC doctors give reports that we should take precautions, I will listen to them over those who want to make political statements. I want to know why a congressman who made fun of the disease by wearing a gas mask to a vote on funding is now in quarantine. I will take the advice of real doctors not spin doctors. My husband travels and his company is now curtailing business travel. Italy is closed down. Israel is quarantining those entering the country. Ireland has cancelled St. Patrick’s Day celebrations. Do you think they are doing this because CNN is blowing this up? We have curtailed our playing for now. Most of my friends who play have agreed that now is not the time to take chances and my friends are not in the high risk demographic.

I don’t know how to respond to a post that claims every medical, technological, financial and political threat to our nation (or the world) is the product of a a shadowy cabal. So I won’t. But while there is a lot that’s not yet known about Covid-19, in time we will. Currently knowledgeable people may disagree. One of my college roommates is a research professor on infectious diseases at Johns Hopkins. He thinks it would be perilous at this point to assume the world will not have a very unhappy experience. On the other hand another college friend of mine trained as a microbiologist (and while still a student was lead author of an important paper published in the journal Nature — which I assure you is a very BFD.) He’s quite sanguine about the threat of Covid-19, expecting that more data will show much lower mortality rates that are currently seen, and also that the advent of warmer weather will see a roll-back of infection rates as is the case with flu. He thinks my wife and I should expect that we can take our planned May trip to Ireland and France with little risk. (He believes there’s is a greater risk to the global economy than to health.) These guys are experts in the field and they don’t agree about the degree of risk we have for a reprise of the deadly Spanish flu pandemic of a century ago, which would see millions of fatalities world-wide. I don’t disbelieve either of them. I do expect it won’t require the passage of too much time before we have pretty good clues about the direction. I will say that when interventions in the face of potential public health calamities are successful there’s nothing to see. And that’s the success we should applaud. in terms of the personal implications for swinging, my wife and I have agreed that until the picture becomes clearer, there won’t be any sex outside our marriage.

We respectfully disagree with this statement. SARS-CoV-2, the virus that causes Covid-19, is a novel pathogen that is demonstrably highly transmissible and demonstrably has serious consequences in vulnerable populations. Unlike influenza for which there is a vaccine and antiviral therapy, there are currently no known effective medical countermeasures against this novel coronavirus. Until further information becomes available from scientists and public health authorities, we think prudence is indicated. Indeed, earlier today a senior USG expert (Dr. Anthony Fauci) made strong and clear recommendations for older Americans, especially those with chronic health conditions, about avoidance of long flights, cruise ships and so on.

Reconnecting with your partner is the best part about the LS. It speaks to deep affection, honor,...and unbridled lust. Swinging enables and encourages couples to view their partners in an erotic light that is often extinguished by work, routine and so forth. Seeing ones partner as the object of others' attentions and desires -- and knowing that they are truly your partner--rejuvenates relationships in ways that vanillas cannot comprehend. Yes, the after-party sex with one's spouse is breathtaking in its intensity and duration.