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Perhaps we should be discussing virtual house parties and clubs...

Our first experience at a club was last month at Trapeze in FLA. Safe to say that we were both very nervous not having been to anything like that before or experienced any Lifestyle events. We had a great dinner before hand with a couple of drinks and said that while they idea of going would be fun, and prepping for it was amazing (with her picking out an outfit and getting her self ready mentally) maybe it would be too much for us. After dinner, she surprised me and said, why don't we drive by and at least see what the place looks like from the outside. Who was I to argue. Making the short drive up we made nervous small talk and pulled up front seeing the valets parking cars and people waiting to head into the door. People of all shapes and sizes, but very sexy dressed and clearly looking to have fun. We drove around the block a few times doing the should we or should we not go in routine. Eventually, my girl made the decision to head home and say that this was a good first step. I totally understood, and to a certain extent had a breath of relief as I was super nervous to, but tried to play it off as nothing. We drove about 10 minutes in silence before looked at me and told me to turn the car around. She said that she would regret chickening out, and at worst, we can go in, walk around for a bit, and leave. No harm done. My jaw hit the floor and I quickly pulled a u-turn. She hopped in the back seat of the car and started to pull on the outfit that she picked out the week before. She looked smoking hot. My eyes bulged out of my head looking through the rearview. Pulling up to the valet was the point of no return. A couple of cars pulled in behind us and it was time to leave the safety of the car. We got out of the car and headed to the line. She went with confidence that I never expected and it seemed like the nerves were through. She told me afterwards that leaving the car and walking in was the hardest part. Not being in the club, dancing, going to the playroom, but simply walking in the door. We awkwardly do the whole new member check-in, but are comforted by the fact that others are doing the same. We went on couples night to avoid the single guys as we had read that they can sometimes make it a little more intense for newbies. After check-in, we head to the bar area and realize that with our nervousness, we forgot our drinks in the car....(real pros here!). We ask for a couple of waters so we don't seem like fish out of water and head to the area around the dance floor. Its our first time experiencing anything like this and it took us a bit to take it all in. People were having a great time. Lots of range in age. But I would think that most were mid-30's to early 50's which put us (both in late 30's) at ease. There were older and there were younger but I would say most fit in that range. If anyone is torn-up by what to wear to one of these clubs, don't be. The guys were all pretty standard, dress pants and a shirt, while the girls ranged from trying out for the AVN hosting awards, to looking like they just came from work at an office. I would definitely say that most were on the less is more vain, but no one looked out of place and it seemed like a pretty accepting and inviting group. Lots of couples dancing and at about 11:00, the place was absolutely packed. We both looked wide-eyed at each other and commented a number of times that we were amazed at how many people are into this and that they all seem pretty normal. There were a few folks on the older side who were going at it pretty good which was a bit weird given that the playroom was like 10 feet away, but hey, whatever floats there boat. We danced a bit, kissed a ton and my hand moved her dress over her ass. Super big turn on for both of us being so inhibited in public like that. I would say we were very much into each other, maybe in hindsight a bit too much, because we didn't really get approached by anyone at that time despite the fact that we would both be described as being very fit and her very attractive. Despite not thinking about it too much, we ended up at the side of the dance floor where the entrance to the playroom is. We saw the people coming in and going out. Towels in hand. Our eyes both pop out as a very attractive girl comes out of the play area with no towel on and wades through the crowd naked to the bar to retrieve her bottle....We joked to each other that it must be fun in there as we keep an eye on the door opening and closing. After a few more deep kisses we agree that there's no harm in going in and checking it out. The same as there was no harm in coming in in the first place. We got the locker room, change out of our close in a way to small room with a bunch of others head over to the door. As we walk in we hear the moans of someone obviously having great sex and a ton of people walking around in just towels. We wander through the crowd to the open play areas, turn the corner and get smacked in the face by a full on orgy. Keep in mind that we're completely new to this, so it takes a moment to sink in that its okay to look. It was obviously a turn on for both me and Mrs. to see the group of people enjoying themselves. There's no room to sit and just joining in would be going a little too quick for us, so we stand and start playing, the towels coming off. The Mrs. left a g-string on just to get her mind over being naked in a group and I have to say it was very sexy as basically everyone else was walking around in a towel. It was super hot to see my beautiful girl confident wearing just that. We played a bit, watched a bit, kept mostly to ourselves other than a brief welcomed interruption by a woman wanting to touch a bit. We eventually found a spot and hand mind blowing sex with people watching and walking by. Definitely a high-light. After a couple of more laps in the private area we decided that it was a bit of overload and it was time to call it a night. Overall it totally exceeded our expectations. The people were nice, the facility clean. There was no pressure to do anything and it was just about having a good time and being into your version of fun. Not drinking was actually a great think as it allowed us to be a bit more clearheaded and even though I was bone sober, there was a fog after with sensory overload. It took us a few days to get over the fog and actually have an intelligent conversation about it. We both agree that it was a great experience and that we were happy at how far it went (and didn't go). She was very much into the idea of going again and has mentioned a few times since that now that we've gotten the first experience out the way, shes looking forward to visiting a club like that or a party without the first time nerves. Just a few thoughts if anyone is looking at doing something like this for the first time too. a. Its okay to be nervous b. Only do what you both really want to do, there shouldn't be any pressure by either hubby or wife. Let it happen organically. c. There's always tomorrow if you have second thoughts and don't go through with it. d. Get a spot early in the playroom as it fills up fast. e. Don't forget your booze in the car! XX00 LC

We noticed lifestyle events happening tonight on SLS. I think one would have to be at the least highly irresponsible to host or attend such an event. Even if one thinks that they are too young to have a bad outcome, they could spread it to older friends and relatives.

We are about ten days behind Italy. There was a point in the president’s press conference today where he indicated that travel within the US will be restricted. The science is that the virus may not become symptomatic for up to 14 days, while the unknowing carrier is shedding virus among otherwise healthy folk, including those over sixty or with underlying health conditions that make them more susceptible to a bad outcome. Symptoms can last up to 37 days thereafter. As of yesterday, Italy had a 6% death rate among all victims. I haven’t checked today. Here in Tennessee, there have been runs on grocery stores, and the governor has declared an emergency, as has the president nationally. Due to the relative inaction of responsible government officials until this week, there has been a relative lack of testing in the US. While it will get ramped up, social distancing is necessary to protect the medical system and keep it from being overwhelmed in the coming weeks. I strongly approve of the suggestion of virtual play for the next couple of months. Here is my state government’s explanation:

Certainly, assuming you can find another couple that's into that, it would be perfectly okay. This happens fairly often at swing clubs.

300 photos? Maybe you should start an album?

With all due respect to your thoughts, Tom Brady is not someone I would look to for advice on a pandemic. I don’t know if the numbers quoted are even close to being true, even if they are what does that have to do with the transmission of Covid 19? Does it have any bearing on those that did die or the families who lost a loved one? Covid19 is highly transmittable and the only known way of stopping the spread is by avoiding contact with anyone infected. A major problem is very few people in the US have been tested and much more needs to be learned about this virus. Mad far as humans killing other humans, that’s a topic that should be discussed as well, it is preventable.

Wasn't it the captain of the Titanic who said 'I think we should try an open marriage...and lets see how fast this boat can go!'

It is just possible, even most likely, that it is all of the above are true, a serious concern, overhyped political opportunism, and media self serving self aggrandizement. The media folks really have cried wolf too often and this is an election cycle in an emotionally charged year. I am definitely close to the targets bullseye. The two of us are trying to be prudent and we did cancel going to a hotel party this weekend. I mean what would the fun be in going when we aren't even shaking hands with strangers right now?

We do use the word "discreet" in our profile. The word means, "judicious in one's conduct or speech, especially with regard to respecting privacy or maintaining silence about something of a delicate nature; prudent; circumspect.” This is the way we feel about it - we don’t want our vanilla family, friends and business associates knowing what we do on Saturday night. It’s really none of their business, but if they found out there would be consequences. Perhaps some friends would no longer care to associate with us, it’s even possible we would lose the opportunity for promotions and such. We don’t want that to happen. And so, as our swinging associates, we won’t tell other people what we know about you, and we are asking you not to tell the world about us. Sun & Moon, that’s what the word 'discreet' means.

We are no longer shaking hands, so Lifestyle activities are definitely on hold for us. We are over 60 years old, so we are in a higher risk category. We are from the better safe than sorry school.

Swinging for us, suspended until further notice. Parallel mono, in effect! ?