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Glad your session went relatively well. We just look at it as playing. With new partners, it’s difficult to figure out what everyone likes. My wife and I enjoy relatively brief sexual exploits. We find that many partners want a marathon session, which bores us.

Hey guys just wanted to update you, so last night was the night to say it was interesting is an understatement. So we had dinner and a few drinks things went well tried the toe dipping exercises that were recommended and they were a tremendous help however as the wore on the female of the couple kept getting progressively more pushy wanting to play in the deep end of the pool so to speak. So i tried my best to roll with it needless to say they picked up on the fact I was nervous very quickly she was the one that finally realized that they were my first couple and she reassured me that everyone was new once and that they actually found it kinda cute and exciting, and it seemed to fuel their efforts. We decided that it would be best if we did same time different room play which was completely fine with me I really enjoyed it. I'm not sure that I can say that I am completely satisfied with the actual outcome for the simple fact that once they reached their peak and were done they were ready to leave neither myself nor my boyfriend reached that level of enjoyment. After said couple left my boyfriend and I discussed things and the feelings that I was having and ended the night by fulfilling each others needs and that reclaiming sex was hot. Going forward and knowing what to expect from the situation (all of them will be different) I do believe that this is something that I enjoy. @bbarnsworth I didn't get the feeling from them that they were all that close and he had to have her relay messages about how he really was interested we will see how this plays out at this time I am content with keeping as friends and as long as there is no drama all will be well their reasoning behind not living together is "well we need a break from each other from time to time " still trying to figure that out because they didn't elaborate and I got the sense she was feeling some jealousy issues last night because she remarked on his touching me and pointed out the fact that he doesn't rub her legs like he did mine and that they just fall right into it

I was just thinking if anyone had started a thread about this. Glad I came here this am. I am, however, surprised by some of the posts. I agree that panic and denial are useless positions. But i don't agree with the idea that this is just another 'hoax'. I'm also not concerned about myself. I am very healthy but I do worry about others. There is a virus spreading, silently and invisibly throughout the world. It does kill people. Does it kill as many as other diseases, maybe not, but cancers, diabetes, heart disease are contained within the body of the infected/sick person, this is NOT. And the number of people who claim to be immune-compromised is FAR LOWER than actually are. The human race has been destroying it's natural immune systems for 50 years. And, viruses mutate. So, next time might be worse, more virulent than now. And those that get covid-19 and survive or have no symptoms may not be so fortunate next time, and there will be a next time. I think what's missing is that even if a person doesn't die from the virus, they can develop life long issues because of it. So, death is not the only measure of the long term effects of this virus. Plus, as with the flu, a new strain may develop every year or two making control of the problem more and more difficult. It's not hard to imagine a virus like Covid-19 becoming our new reality with deaths each year reaching 10's of thousands like the flu and at the same time never being reported in the media. Regarding children: they do not appear to get the virus, but they do carry it. So, as with healthy adults, children may be vectors for spreading the virus without ever knowing they are infected. Potentially spreading it to another child that takes it home to their immuno-compromised parent or grandparent. How is ignoring and playing down the spread and seriousness of Covid-19 not the same as anti-vacers and measles? I think the real problem, is that we really don't understand the virus, have any plan for controlling the spread. We're flying blind and that's scary. So, taking precautions, thinking of how our actions might affect others and erroring on the side of caution seems to make sense.

It sounds like Italy has a triage situation going on. They do not have enough ventilators and they have to decide who lives and dies. We are in stage 2. The upcoming stages have occurred in Italy, Spain, Iran and China. We have to look at where we are heading and think ahead.

FindingAnswers: I started out with the disclaimer "Normally I do not support looking towards sports figures to find useful insight from their opinions (just because they can play a sport well, doesn't mean they are particularly 'insightful'), and I'm not a Patriots or Tom Brady fan...", I just found the comment more accurate than not. We are now almost in a case of national panic because of this...and it is mostly hype. As of March 13, in the US there were only less than 1700 confirmed cases of Coronavirus and only 41 deaths according to the Center for Disease Control https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/cases-in-us.html Even if you want to take the Governments 'numbers', that number is only 3700 plus or minus cases with 57 deaths. My personal favorite quote was that the number of cases were up 14 percent from the previous day (but testing was INCREASED at least 10x's from the previous day). Now I don't want to slight those people who have died or have had loved ones die, my sympathies go out to all of them, but we are on the brink of a full out nationwide panic with schools being closed down (children, for whatever reason, are NOT getting the virus and when they stay home, the doctors, nurses, first responders, etc have no source of day care), bars and restaurants closed, runs on the markets for food and cleaning supplies, seniors being told ordered to stay home, and fear being allowed to run unchecked. Orson Wells would have been proud...

I don't know what's worse? Over-reacting or under-reacting? Neither extreme is good - neither one is reasonable - neither one helps the situation. ?

Once this is over, everyone will see how silly this was and how they reacted. What I AM afraid of is when a real dangerous threat does rear its head, we will all say '...remember the corona virus/bird flu/sars/etc, you aren't going to fool me again' and that is when the zombie virus devastates society. Lucky for us, we are already ready for zombies. Being into IT, I, of course, remember Y2k. Stopped my father from loosing a ton of money investing in a software 'cure'. Same thing as this, just a overhyped software virus instead of a flesh and blood virus...that will do the same thing (ie: not much). Just happy to still have the lights on and my car not thinking it was a 1900 buggy.

If anyone wants to keep tabs on the numbers https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/?fbclid=IwAR0zAnmqgism07DU3q2p2BTu6AzRjnB8CoXVnY0Un6SfuLUrl6kZP3VM8Sw

I would slightly agree with Wornsilver, in that the current state of media tends to escalate fears rather than be balanced. For those who are into history, we remember the yellow journalism of William Randolph Hearst around the turn of the 19th-20th century. For example he charged that a battleship in Havana harbor was intentionally blown up by the Spaniards (when it may have been an accident on the ship) and garnered support to incite the Spanish-American war. The current state of reporting, led by blogs and cable networks, is that they need to fill air time and gain viewers, so the negative aspects that will draw eyes are emphasized. In these media outlets, there isn't much time for thoughtful reflection and measured reasoning, which used to be the purview of 'journalism.' So today the CoronaVirus is emphasized, and fears are stoked. (Note: I am not saying that the disease isn't a serious concern. It's just that you're unlikely to hear we'll have more deaths this year from the common flu than Coronavirus.)

We respectfully disagree with this statement. SARS-CoV-2, the virus that causes Covid-19, is a novel pathogen that is demonstrably highly transmissible and demonstrably has serious consequences in vulnerable populations. Unlike influenza for which there is a vaccine and antiviral therapy, there are currently no known effective medical countermeasures against this novel coronavirus. Until further information becomes available from scientists and public health authorities, we think prudence is indicated. Indeed, earlier today a senior USG expert (Dr. Anthony Fauci) made strong and clear recommendations for older Americans, especially those with chronic health conditions, about avoidance of long flights, cruise ships and so on.

It is entirely common and understandable that both partners aren't on the exact same wavelength when getting started swinging. That's why one of the Cardinal Rules of Swinging is "go at the speed of the slowest person". I don't think you are getting out too far ahead of yourselves, I just think it's a simple matter of he has more experience than you do so his nerves aren't at the same place yours are. Totally understandable. It's hard to get rid of the nerves and anxiety all together, even people who have been swinging for years still feel it to some degree. I think the best thing you can do is just both agree that you go into Friday night with no expectations other than having a fun night together. Don't feel like you are being expected to do something, and then you won't worry as much about that something. I can relate too to what you say about you and the other guy being on the shy side since I fall into that category too. Some people can just say "Hi" as the clothes are dropping and be good to go For others of us though, it takes a little more warming up time to feel comfortable enough to really be a good swing partner and have a good time. Nothing wrong with that, just how some people are. That goes back to the no expectations and moving at your own speed thing. Do those and you'll be fine!

COVID-19 is the latest in a constant series of fear mongering enterprises: Y2K, Anthrax, West Nile Virus, SARS, Bird Flu, Ecoli, the 2008 Financial Crisis/Great Recession; Swine Flu, BP oil spill, the Mayan Calendar, North Korea (now, that one is realistic), Ebola, ISIS and Russia. Nearly every year. I'm worried about the little boy who cried "Wolf" too often.