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Both of these incidents occurred in the context of sex parties that followed an afternoon wedding. Both of the women and their new spouses were longtime swingers. The only scenario that even approached what you allude to was in the early 1970s. One of my college roommates married one of his med-school classmates and they asked me to photograph the wedding. (I had photographed his older sister’s wedding several years prior.) At the reception dinner my roommate asked if I would be willing to come to their hotel room afterwards to document their first married fuck. My wife and I had taken separate cars to the ceremony and I agreed to make those photos. But before the end of the reception they reconsidered. The hotel were they stayed for the night was right next to the Garden State Parkway and for years when I passed the hotel on my way to or from somewhere I would think about what almost happened on their wedding night. we’ve stayed good friends over the decades and once maybe 30 or so years ago the husband asked me how my then wife and I kept our sex life fresh and fun. I kinda blew off his query with some non-answer, but it did cause me to wonder just a trifle if they might be swingers.

Sex is an addiction for most people (and animals) during a large part of their lives. That's what keeps the species going through good times and bad. As with most things, humans try to apply logic and control it for their benefit and pleasure.

Way too many people dying now to play. My wife thanked me when she came back after playing. She even suggested I visit our friends for some fun with them. I was tempted to even if I’m not into mmf. I don’t think either of us will be meeting anyone for the foreseeable future.

I do wonder if he is using you as a partner/wing woman in order to find more opportunities for himself. I think my assumption is that single men have a harder time of finding couples/women to play with than do couples. This could just be a way for him to be more readily accepted. As for the MFM he tried to set up. that has to be 100% agreed upon by all 3 participants and if you don't want that at all or even just not with a particular gentleman, then remember, NO means NO.

Adamgunn, totally agree. Desires change. And sometime you just can't live the fantasy alone or between a couple. The wife isn't interested in 'fake' cock, dildos etc. She likes the real thing, flesh and blood. We also pursue bi-male activities which can be simulated with a strap on but it's just not the same, again real flesh and blood, and doesn't ,for example, provide the opportunity for perspective on the wifes' part. ie Sitting back and watching. Sometimes you just gotta have another person the help.

I clearly remember Swinging of all sorts in the pop media of the 1960s. The cartoons in Playboy frequently joked about it. "WifeSwapping" was the perception at the simplistic level, but even as a teen I heard threesomes, gang bangs, orgys, swinger parties mentioned, discussed, and joked about.

My GF has the same fantasy/ fetish and I think it's pretty common. I'm not very into it but she gets that fix from other guys.

Not only more play, but more satisfying play. It seems to me most experienced couples are in this to assuage urges that can't or won't be scratched by play within their marriage. Sure, you can role play and talk about fantasies or past experiences all you want, and that will lead to great sex, but if you want to see what your wife would do with a big dick, even a large dildo won't give her the whole experience. (That's just one example, I'll leave others to the student.) We all have different desires, and those desires can change from year to year, even day to day. Flexible non-monogamy allows us to satisfy those desires, sometimes.

As a group, swingers are generally an adventurous lot so when the news first broke we didn't think much of the virus pretty much believing it was a China problem. The last lifestyle type of event we went to was in January. I (the husband) developed a respiratory problem that lasted for about 7 weeks (dry cough and fatigue) and after three trips to the doctor's office, the first two placed on antibiotics which didn't do much, the last treatment was steroids and an Albuterol inhaler, it finally cleared up. The cough was pretty intense at that time where my wife thought I was going to stroke out and I thought I'd be a candidate for the Iron Lung machine. It cleared up just before the epidemic hit the news so my wife thinks it was the coronavirus but I believe that it was just a seasonal bug. Originally I didn't take this virus very seriously and truth be told I still don't. However we live just north of NYC and on tonight's news there was a shocking story - the NYC government has ordered the EMT's NOT to take heart attack patients to the ER if they can't be revived in the ambulance. That is fucked up!! We and our LS friends are staying home and just going to ride out the storm since we are in our 60's.

Please expound upon the two brides who were not your wives. How did you arrange such encounters? Usually the stories I hear are of the "last fling before the ring" type, before the "forsaking all others" vow is made, not afterwards. Any participation by the new husband? Bridesmaids and best man?

So, me and my wife have only swung once. It was a couple of months back with some longtime friends (See "Embarassed Newbie" in first swinging experiences). Well, this couple will be coming up to our town Saturday night. It will be the first time we have hung out since the encounter. They have already asked to sleep at our place and offered to bring the tequila, which is what fueled the last encounter, but also what I believe killed my erection. Nothing has been discussed as far as sex. As far as I know, it could just be a normal night with friends, but I desperately need to get my redemption from the last time. Any advice? Should I try to lead things in that direction, or just let things play out? Also, how can I limit my alcohol intake to avoid the problem I had last time without being seen as a party pooper? On a side note: I have recently acquired some viagra for the sole purpose of being prepared if this situation ever presented itself again. I have tried it while sober and it definitely lived up to the hype, but will this work if I have been drinking?

You definitely are not in a relationship (at least HE isn't in a relationship). It sounds like he is looking for a partner to swing with (swinging as a single guy is not easy) and not necessarily a partner outside of swinging. Your feelings are justified. It takes time to develop a strong enough relationship to swing and while there is no exact time table, it doesn't sound like you are anywhere close to having the trust required. You deserve better and you certainly deserve more time before you take this (large) step. One of the golden rules (at least in our opinion) is to NEVER move faster than the slowest person is comfortable with. Are you even interested in swinging if it wasn't for him? I think that this is nothing more than a fling for him and its time to look elsewhere. You deserve better!

So size does matter?