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When I've been sick, not recently, with a 24-48 hour flu as I come out of the worst of it and seem to be near the end have a very strong drive (addiction) to have sex. After sex, I feel much better. Whatever chemicals, endorphins, etc are released seem to be the final one two punch for knocking out the bug I had. So, I use sex for healing all the time. ?

When I was very young cooties was also a fear.

"Parallel mono" is tiring too. I have to drive between 2 houses every 3 days. I'm thinking if I just remain for an interval of a week for each of my men. But I'm trying to convince bf to stay in our house (with SO) temporarily. It will be nightmare-ish if road travels are totally restricted and I'm trapped in either of the houses for a long time!

I think there is a difference between a heathy, strong desire to propagate and a sex addiction. We know some people with sex addiction problems and it is apparent to us that they have a remarkably strong drive to play, even if they are sick or have a transmittable disease. We like it, enjoy it, but we can take a rest.

"Wonder just a trifle"? Not only would we see that as a bid to open a conversation, but perhaps as a bid to something stronger.

When I was a young cop, my partner on the job took a weekend and went with his g/f to Platos in NYC. He came back and told me all about their experiences (you talk about all kinds of stuff on midnight shifts) and he suggested my wife and I go with them some weekend. I mentioned it to my wife at the time but her religious upbringing prohibited her from even giving it a 2nd thought. Other than one very hot night on our honeymoon several years before, she would never entertain a suggestion to expand our sex life. So we never went. I occasionally would broach the subject with her but was stonewalled every time. 20 years later, I was dating Mrs Doc when we saw a tv news expose about Club Khama Sutra on South St in Philly. We checked and found CKS and about 4 other clubs we all within about an hours drive from our home. We talked about it for a week or so and then went to TJ's near Harrisburg. We were hooked. Within 2 months, we'd visited all four of the close clubs and then started to really expand our sexual horizons. By the time we got married 2 years later, there was no question that we would honeymoon at Desire.

Both approaches work and we've used each of them successfully at one time or another at Tj's, DJ's TPA, Pleasure Garden, Saints and Sinners, Players, Trapeze and Desire. The key it to recognize that you're not looking for friends or the perfect couple. You're looking for playmates for an hour or an evening who are reasonably attractive to you both. Approaching people in a friendly fashion is a big part of the selection process. Dressing sexy, the occasional direct teasing flash or some pretty obvious sexual interaction between the two of you lets others know that you're there to play. Adam's success ratio is very close to ours and on the few nights we didn't play with anyone else, we always have each other and Mrs Doc is hardly a consolation prize

two men 90% of the time for us!

Numex, we are an experienced MFM couple. We both prefer that I am one of the two guys, that he will be the 'primary' lover, and that I will spell him off when the time comes.

Go for it, you never know till you try. Would be sad to look back years later still wondering what you missed. You may love it or decide it is just not your thing.

You "have to understand", you are talking about a subset of prostitutes, not all of them. Personally, I don't really "have to understand" anything about this particular subset; I've worked professionally with this particular subset once upon a time and know that it's just that - a subset. Not necessarily the majority. Some DO have a crappy existence rife with abuse and drug use just like some do who don't engage in prostitution. Actually, I'm not inclined to admit, much less "have to admit", anything without hard and fast numbers and certainly not based simply on issues of morality or personal viewpoint about cheaters (yet another subset of the group that uses prostitutes). I'm not inclined to follow the morality path as an argument for or against legalization of prostitution. We, as swingers or practitioners of other forms of alternative lifestyles, could have a similar argument used against us. A strict definition of infidelity/cheating could be used against our group; how could we condone a practice that thrives on cheating spouses? I guess I'm saying I personally am not inclined to let moralistic or paternalistic viewpoints override legal or practical viewpoints as going the moral route tends to dictate the rules, norms and laws for all individuals. In the end, I'm with George Carlin on prostitution. "Why should it be illegal to sell something that's perfectly legal to give away?"