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Have any of you purchased a particular piece of furniture that fits in to your decor, but the real purpose was for sex? We have a Victorian home furnished in antique decor. We bought a love seat to sit at the base of our four-posted bed. Here it is being used for it's intended purpose.

For private get togethers we prefer starting late morning or early afternoon. Usually it is an hour to hour and half. Then a break for refreshment and repeat. 2 - 4 rounds of this. Swing party encounters about an hour (usual house rules require an hour max) so all interested get a room at some point thru the evening, but a second round is usually available depending on the crowd, interest etc. the occasional group or larger orgy like play session can go on for a long time depending on those attending. More often then not a few extra guys then women and it can go on for 4-5 hours. Usually the guys all get spent before the ladies are.

Another way of looking at this is along the lines of some typical advice here for newcomers; always move at the pace of the slower in the couple. I.e., don't have swinging sex until both are ready for that. Here, your wife could be thought of as being further along than you, and doesn't see a need to share some details. You're not that far along. You could approach it this way in that you could tell her you're not ready for her not to be 100% disclosing everything. Honestly though, I'm seeing red flags go up on this. Something isn't right. Get it resolved. Talk with her directly about it.

We don’t even know people on our street and I have asked the wife who she was talking to and she said it was the woman four houses down. With that said we look outside a 25 mile radius. At 25 miles we still could unintentionally see friends, relatives and business associates. On a recent search I was surprised to see my sister-in-law.

Hi, so wife and I are comfortable with the swingers lifestyle but we have said that we are both ok with sleeping with people separately. However, we have come across a problem and I'm not sure if I'm the problem or if she is. My wife has been in the lifestyle for far longer than me and has a vast amount of experience. A while ago we went to a club and there she met the club manager and they started talking. After leaving the club they carried on chatting on a daily basis, and when I asked her what they where talking about she would say that they always talk about work or stuff friends would talk about. However last night i found out that they have been flirting with each other. Problem is when we started swinging we said that communication is the most important thing to keep us safe from any complications. I feel that we have to discuss and inform each other when we are talking or flirting with others and she feels that there is no need to inform me if she is flirting with others. Am I been unreasonable by asking her to tell me when she is flirting with guys and is it unreasonable for me to have gotten upset about her telling me they only talk about work stuff only to find out there is more involved?