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Governor Newsome ordered you to stay inside!!! Yet you're outside and displaying your johnson to a neighbor lady. WTF is wrong with you??? We're in the middle of a PANDEMIC ( don't you watch CNN???) and you're flapping your willie in your hood. If your fellow californians can't got to the beach, where (or on what) do you get off rubbing your weenie in your back yard. Isn't that a crime in California? Next, you're gonna want a massage and a happy ending right after you get a haircut. Are you a subversive? A revolutionary? Or a libertarian? Is the internet still legal on the left coast?

So many changes, most seem to be negative. 1) email function gone. Loved seeing that little bird. Even better loved to see motive in-my email stating I had a message waiting. email history and contacts gone. 2) chat?! I don’t chat or IM. I email and save or make notes as I archive. 3) the Wall?! What is this? No announcement or instructions. I have a dozen random people who are not in my friends list posted to my wall. How did this happen and where else is my info being posted?! Why can’t I opt out? 4) started to see several views of our profile from people In the mid-Atlantic area of the east coast. We opted out of having our profile as “featured.” Are they featuring it outside of our region? We have family in that part of the country. 5) anytime you post something critical on their forum it gets deleted! come on folks. Yes, the site was old, ‘tis, and needed updating but please check with your members first. If I want a vanilla or mainstream social media site, I’ll join one. if I want a swinger site that allows me to control my content and online footprint, I’ll join. we are still closeted and have drastically change what content and how much content we share in SLS mainly because it isn’t clear that they are maintaining privacy we feel is needed on a lifestyle site. anyone else concerned by recent changes?

You are not alone, in how you feel.

I agree with you. But they do have a critical number of users, so . . .

I accidentally hit it the other day and received a msg a bit later saying so and so accepted your friend request. Soooo I am building a friends network list that I have never seen. I think I also confused it with favorites list a couple times ?.

Not really an option right now, but really nothing is other than something online, but once things get back going one thing you will for sure find close to home, and something low key and no pressure, would be to attend an off-premise meet and greet together. Easiest way to find these would be joining one of the online sites like swinglifestyle. You should find event listings for your area, and they are nothing more than swingers gathering together at a bar or restaurant to socialize. No sex, no nudity, just people gathering to socialize. You'll be able to pick up on the vibe though and have the opportunity to talk to other swingers and get a feel for what this is all about. Same rule is going to apply though, if you attend by yourself you are going to be looked upon with suspicion. A lot of them are couples only too, and you for sure do not want to represent yourself to the organizers as a couple and then just you show up, that will be a quick way to get black balled. See how that goes and then if it goes okay, then next step would be to attend a social, again, find them on swinglifestyle, etc. These are still off-premise, so no sex, but since the organizer usually rents a hall or banquet room at a hotel and access is restricted, then things can be a little sexier with what people are wearing, dirty dancing, etc.

We only have condomless sex with our very close friends, people we trust and know for years,we have had "sexual marathons" for entire weekends with our close friends, during the course of 2 days (and nights) the boys finished countless times inside me and my girlfriend, we both are on the pill and we all four of us are young and in theory fertile however we have never had any pregnancy scares or anything, so yes I think the pill is a very good protection method.

Just an aside - an accidental pregnancy is what solidified our poly family. Our live-in girlfriend Clair got pregnant by hubby despite being on birth control. She was upset and offered to have an abortion to keep us "as is" in our relationship. It took me about two minutes of thinking about it to decide that there was no reason not to start having children. We took the rest of the day off from work, she took three or four pregnancy tests, we cried together and decided that I would try to get pregnant as soon as possible so we could have our children as close as possible. I stopped taking my pills that day. We told hubby and my boyfriend Red and both were overjoyed. I had sex with both hubby and my Red and got pregnant within a couple of months. We are all extremely pro-choice, and this was our choice, the right decision.