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What has surprised us over the last 15 years is how very secure most of the women know are with their bodies. They can dress in a teasingly sexual manner, get undressed with (or be undressed by) a new partner or couple, have sex and orgasms in front of their spouse or others and then take a naked walk to the bathroom, to clean up or repair make-up, or to the kitchen to rehydrate. When we started exploring recreational sex, Mrs Doc was initially nervous about taking her clothing off at a club or a party or even a nude beach. What she told me during our first trip to Desire was that it was a revelation to her that no matter where we went or what we did, there was always someone with bigger boobs, or smaller boobs, a flatter tummy or a bigger tummy, or someone older or younger (this happens a lot now). And those other women were noticing the same things. Add to the fact that there were almost always guys, couples or women who looked at her and who wanted to have sex with her. It will be the same for your wife BANDJ. The first time or two she'll be nervous but it gets easier with each new experience.

This is not just an issue for the LS, of course. It affects all aspects of human interaction. Healthy norms and social norms are not necessarily aligned. The "average" American woman is size 16 in dress sizes. There is the myth that every woman in the LS is a pinup model, every man is a cross between Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, and {your screen idol here}. It just isn't that way. If you want to see what the LS world looks like, imagine yourself at the mall, at a community meeting, in a restaurant...and look around. That's the physical piece of it. Where LS people tend to be a bit different is that they look forward to having a bit of fun. Bear in mind that 2/3 - 3/4 of the world are introverts, and that is no different for the LS world. LS people do, however, make a conscious decision that they are going to have fun, and that begins my setting aside their self-perceived vulnerabilities and 'putting themselves out there' socially. Among the many rituals of the LS is 'getting dressed up for the date'. Part of that is a conscious decision to make the body each of us is assigned look, feel and smell and taste great. Having date nights 'just for you' --getting dressed up for each other -- is a way to start. What you'll find is that others at the restaurant or whatever will pay attention to your spouse and that sort of gentle flirting feels great. Ultimately, it's the conversation that really makes people interesting...or not. The body part that is actually the most important is the one that lies between the ears.

Do you think that the lack of confidence is an over-reaction to the fear of being judged or is it a little bit of a reality, especially for those who may be on the BBW side of things? For example my wife is a big gal (24 to 26 range) and if people are already afraid of being judged are in the size 16ish range, isn't it warranted for bigger gals to be a little worried?

If I am preoccupied like with work or kids, I can put off having or thinking about sex for quite a while. But once I get started, if I don't cum I get very tense and edgy. Fortunately, I orgasm fairly easily vaginally and orally, multiple times if given the opportunity (just not anally). Then I'm not tense and edgy any more.

We have happened to play with two different male to female transgenders pre-op, who happened to be at parties we attended. They were fun, sexy people, who had different equipment. Very much enjoyed it.

Nope…not for us! Here's your sign….."if it's got a dick it's NOT a chick".

She: I don't want to use the term "slut" to describe myself, even though I like to play with other men. That is not how my husband sees me, and I am secure in that. I know he enjoys watching me with other guys, and I like seeing him play too. We get a rush watching each other enjoy themselves. Maybe you can take that approach, that she is even more sexy and desierable to you because she plays.

Another list https://gloryholelist.com/ A lot in PA. I would check ahead to make sure they are "couple friendly". Some don't allow couples in the booths.

I found this list when looking for GHs near me. Apparently this "Dr. Lizaro" is a pretty big name in the adult cinema world. There are quite a few in PA. List has locations, addresses and details about the facility...booths, cinema, couple friendly, etc... Hope this helps! https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1L4OQq7YaBNvDZaeIZiVQm63H4newPDATIlKtJWyKB1Q/htmlview

My first bi experience was with a now very famous Shemale in London on a business trip years ago. Drop dead gorgeous petite, long blonde hair and all woman except the 7.5" cock. Super person too. I "knew" I was bi, but didn't really know for sure. This was a low key way to find out. 3 hours of the absolute best sex I have ever had!! We did everything possible. It worked for me and she really helped me become comfortable with my bi feelings. It turns out sex with Shemales is great, but different than with men. I like both. With men it's just about the physical experience, no attraction otherwise. I have played with and topped a couple of CDs and TVs over the years, but these days I'm 100% submissive with men.

I've had a fetish for transgender for a while now and my wife is attracted to them as well. Neither one of us had ever had sex with a transgender, but we agreed it would be fun to try and we finally, after years of fantasizing, pulled the trigger and called an escort in Central America. The escort was a shapely, plump gal (not at all as advertised on the internet, but still sexy) and was ready to get it on right when she walked in the hotel room. I was a bit shocked when she grabbed the back of my head and started making out with me [brief panic...'oh my God I'm kissing a guy!...to 'hmmm this is actually pretty hot') as my wife got on her back on the bed and sucked both of us off. Plenty of sucking and kissing then she finally fucked me for a little bit, but it was too painful the way she just shoved her dick in (Great learning point for me about how my wife feels during anal sex lol !!). Finally she just jacked off on my stomach then jacked me off. Overall it wasn't at all what I thought it would be like, but we had a great time and I was glad we gave it a try. I'd definitely do it again, but next time with an escort that was more into women so my wife could be more included. So much fun for my wife and I to experience the butterflies together and to have such a unique sexual experience together!

She does not normally cum when we swing, and does not always cum when we play together. I don't always cum when we swing, though usually together.