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I have a really hard time understanding why people can't ride this out with their significant other. I agree, if you must go out, take a walk or ride your bike, you'd be surprised how good it feels. It is a well known fact that a group of "regular" swingers in our area are continuing to have parties. We've been invited and found it shocking that this group can't handle a lilttle down time. We were told we are pussies because we declined the invitation. I can live with that.

What has surprised us over the last 15 years is how very secure most of the women know are with their bodies. They can dress in a teasingly sexual manner, get undressed with (or be undressed by) a new partner or couple, have sex and orgasms in front of their spouse or others and then take a naked walk to the bathroom, to clean up or repair make-up, or to the kitchen to rehydrate. When we started exploring recreational sex, Mrs Doc was initially nervous about taking her clothing off at a club or a party or even a nude beach. What she told me during our first trip to Desire was that it was a revelation to her that no matter where we went or what we did, there was always someone with bigger boobs, or smaller boobs, a flatter tummy or a bigger tummy, or someone older or younger (this happens a lot now). And those other women were noticing the same things. Add to the fact that there were almost always guys, couples or women who looked at her and who wanted to have sex with her. It will be the same for your wife BANDJ. The first time or two she'll be nervous but it gets easier with each new experience.

@MarniJohn agree 100% we have been invited by a few couples which we politely declined. Here's was one of our deciding factors: both kids are in the medical field. They are aware of our extra curricular activities it is referred to as mom and dad's cult meetings. When this 1st started I got a text from daughter (she is a CCU nurse) it said "Dad no cult meetings please? Be safe!" Can't wait for this to be over but we are going to be safe in the meantime. Live to play another day!

Thank you for great feedback on this topic my suspicion is that once we actually start and all the attention she'll be getting, her self confidence will improve...now to get her started..and everyone is correct personality rules ..and no one's is perfect in reality....

This is not just an issue for the LS, of course. It affects all aspects of human interaction. Healthy norms and social norms are not necessarily aligned. The "average" American woman is size 16 in dress sizes. There is the myth that every woman in the LS is a pinup model, every man is a cross between Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, and {your screen idol here}. It just isn't that way. If you want to see what the LS world looks like, imagine yourself at the mall, at a community meeting, in a restaurant...and look around. That's the physical piece of it. Where LS people tend to be a bit different is that they look forward to having a bit of fun. Bear in mind that 2/3 - 3/4 of the world are introverts, and that is no different for the LS world. LS people do, however, make a conscious decision that they are going to have fun, and that begins my setting aside their self-perceived vulnerabilities and 'putting themselves out there' socially. Among the many rituals of the LS is 'getting dressed up for the date'. Part of that is a conscious decision to make the body each of us is assigned look, feel and smell and taste great. Having date nights 'just for you' --getting dressed up for each other -- is a way to start. What you'll find is that others at the restaurant or whatever will pay attention to your spouse and that sort of gentle flirting feels great. Ultimately, it's the conversation that really makes people interesting...or not. The body part that is actually the most important is the one that lies between the ears.

I have a sometime playmate who has become a friend. She’s quite attractive, great smile and nice eyes. She has a good figure. And she’s six feet tall. I’m 5’ 7’ and if we are standing in order to kiss I have to get on my tip-toes and she has to bend her head down. Early on she seemed to have some issues about the discrepancy in our heights. I pointed out to her that when we were laying down we were the same “height”. We eventually got past the height issue and she isn’t reticent to be with me in public when we’ve occasionally gone out for dinner, though I’m not sure at all it was my comment that helped. ? My experience overall has been that many women of higher than average height feel self conscious about their stature, and wish they were shorter. They avoid heels and sometimes slump a bit. Then there are the tall and elegant women who wear their height with pride. ?

Do not want to make you nervous, but some people have CV 19, no symptoms and spread it. Consider that before you or your wife socialize.

My friends are all of child bearing age. I am thinking we are all on some form of birth control. I know even though my form of BC has an extremely low failure rate that if there were ever a problem I would not go through with it. The friends I have talked to agree with me. My husband and I are not ready for a child. When we decide to become parents we will stop playing.