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If you join SLS, SDC or other lifestyle meeting sites, you can identify yourselves as bi and search for other bi couples. We are on CV19 hiatus, hope you are too.

This has been an ongoing problem for at least 20 years. We don't share any intimate photos or videos with anyone now, and even before only for people we knew VERY WELL. These days with video conferencing solutions like Zoom and others with easy recording capabilities the problem is even more widespread. It's trivial to record and upload without consent. If you really don't care about the world seeing your most intimate moments then this is not an issue, but for most of us, it is. The Singapore broadcaster CNA came out with an interesting documentary on this recently: It's well worth a view. It should be noted that the threats don't always come from those you are sharing the video with, but hackers would can gain access into their computers. Best to be safe. C&T

Pictures for us are of little interest. There have been couples that we have played with before we ever bothered to look at their galleries. If a profile piques our interest we will make contact . After a bit of conversation, if they seem to be our type we will arrange to meet for dinner.(or at least we did before the lockdown) At that point we send face pics just so that we do not have to search the restaurant or bar for people who are trying to figure out if we are the couple that they are meeting. People always have responded in kind. We enjoy the meetings regardless of how they pan out. We are both far more interested in the personalities than anything else. If someone asks for face or any other pics before we agree to meet, they have, for the most part, self selected themselves out of the running.

She: I don't want to use the term "slut" to describe myself, even though I like to play with other men. That is not how my husband sees me, and I am secure in that. I know he enjoys watching me with other guys, and I like seeing him play too. We get a rush watching each other enjoy themselves. Maybe you can take that approach, that she is even more sexy and desierable to you because she plays.

Hispanic culture and catholic upbringing are tremendous hurdles to overcome on the way to sexual liberation. Im not an old hippie but sexual liberation is, in a nutshell, what swinging is all about. Mrs Doc had one husband and after him, one b/f before me. While she wasn't catholic, she grew up in a strict patriarchal home in a very harshly judgmental religion. She had to work through a lot of guilt to simply have and enjoy sex outside of marriage. I had dealt with and dismissed a lot of my catholic roots as a young man in the late 70's but I remembered them enough to understand her feelings. We talked a LOT. We had lots of playful sex and she began to realize that something that felt so good and was so much fun couldn't be a sin. After exploring and enjoying sex with me and before that with her b/f it was a much shorter leap for us to start to explore swinging. She's still a believer, in fact, she often goes to church on Sunday morning after a swingers party on Saturday! I think we've concluded that since swinger sex takes place within our marriage then its part of our marriage and therefore not a sin. I can thank the Jesuits in the catholic high I attended for helping me logically define that rationalization.

My wife had doubts and unexpected emotions when she first started having sex with two of her exes for whom she had fond memories. Looking back, it's hard to believe we spent so much time talking about it beforehand and analyzing it afterwards. But it got us to the point where we now both play with other couples, alone and together, with little thought.

Buy her flowers and take her to a nice dinner. Make her feel like a lady.

Yes Yes Society and religion has taught us (especially women) that if you have sex with multiple people or too many people, you are a slut [period] Nothing else matters like if your partner was there, involved, and supporting what was happening. Doesn't matter if she enjoyed it (if fact, that makes it worse). Keep giving her the reassurance and support to make her feel more comfortable with it. Also, you really need to work on having her be able to open up and talk with you about this. Just keep on letting her know how much you love her and things should get better as she understands that she did nothing wrong.

Only she could know, and maybe even she doesn't. Give her time, patience and understanding. If she says that she is willing to try again in a few months, that's a good sign. Don't pressure her and let her take the lead on what to do and how she wants to do it. Sex can be emotional. One woman who we play with occasionally gets weepy, but we've learned it's a happy cry. So long as it's all voluntary. (Usually it's the opposite, however; the women tend to go into unemotional kinky mode.)