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Coming up to two months working from home. Like most couples we are spending more time together we ever had before. It has given us more time to talk about everything including what brought us to swinging back a few years ago. I was the one who held back and wondered why my wife wanted to swing with our friends. I was extremely worried about our relationship and the why’s of her desires. She knew I was hesitant yet I never said the reason. I thought I wasn’t good enough and had all crazy things in my head. When I finally agreed to swinging with her friend and her husband I subconsciously didn’t want her to enjoy. The trade off was I got to be with her friend, a very attractive person who I maybe had thought of sexually before. From the very first time I didn’t enjoy watching. At first I was taken back that she was having an orgasm in what might have been more intense than the ones she had with me. Since those first times I am still not a watcher except when she is with another female. I find that an extreme turn on. After swinging encounters we don’t discuss specifics. I’ll ask if she had fun. I don’t ask about acts or how the sex was. I never asked The was he better question. There is no good answer to that. I don’t want her to have a bad time. The more we have done this the more I want her to enjoy, yet I’m still not a watcher. I think for the first time I asked her for a truthful answer to why she wanted to try this. Was she attracted to her friend’s husband. I wanted to know the why. Her answer I think is truthful. Her friend and her second husband were swingers. Her friend told her stories of the fun experiences she was having. She told me the real reason was she wanted to experience a woman and a ménage. We had watched many threesomes on line. I thought it was for me and now she said she enjoyed the thought of being in bed with a woman. She felt it would be better if I was involved too. I hope that’s true. When questioned she does enjoy the other men too, not as a replacement, more as an addition. I understand that feeling as I do enjoy the women I’ve been with. My wife said she was afraid to watch me at first and now enjoys watching me have fun. Our talks this month have been very open and much more detailed. I think I feel more comfortable telling her my experiences rather her telling me hers.

As the title says do you ask for face pics before sharing yours when you are the one who contacts someone first? We find this incredibly annoying and it seems to be a pretty common thing. If you are the ones who are interested in someone from their profile then step up and show your faces first if you want to see them. Seems pretty simple to us. It is what we have always done with the few people that actually have enough on their profile to peak or interest. Which is honestly not to many. Had another message from a couple this morning saying that they liked our profile and if we send them face pics and they like them they will send some back! Open their profile and all they have is 3 pictures of the woman’s big breasts which tell us nothing other then she is probably heavy. Zero pictures of the guy as per usual. Meanwhile we have tons of pictures of both of us clearly showing our body types. Come on people do you really think other people should cater to you when you have nothing going on? Get bent. These are the same kind of people that wonder why they never have any success finding other people online. You get what you give in life. Nothing more.

I'm not going to disagree with you, Forever. Yeah, there's a lot of things I don't care for on SLS. But they've got the most number of users, so if you actually want to get into contact with someone you'd like to meet, SLS is pretty much it, along with SDC and Kasadie.

If you join SLS, SDC or other lifestyle meeting sites, you can identify yourselves as bi and search for other bi couples. We are on CV19 hiatus, hope you are too.

This has been an ongoing problem for at least 20 years. We don't share any intimate photos or videos with anyone now, and even before only for people we knew VERY WELL. These days with video conferencing solutions like Zoom and others with easy recording capabilities the problem is even more widespread. It's trivial to record and upload without consent. If you really don't care about the world seeing your most intimate moments then this is not an issue, but for most of us, it is. The Singapore broadcaster CNA came out with an interesting documentary on this recently: It's well worth a view. It should be noted that the threats don't always come from those you are sharing the video with, but hackers would can gain access into their computers. Best to be safe. C&T