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My husband Gary and I, married 34 years, just decided to start swinging last summer. We joined a lifestyle club and had been going weekly for about a month, with no action. He connected with a woman on their social media site and he wanted to go meet her there that night. I almost said go ahead and go alone, as I wasn't feeling like another night of disappointment. But then I agreed to go and planned on just trying to meet some new people. So we met this woman, who said she had a Greta Garbo-type deep voice. No, it was more like Sam Elliott. There were other things about her that just didn't appeal to Gary, who told her she wasn't attractive to him when she pressed him for an opinion. She left in a disgruntled huff. Gary and I agreed that we would both use the restroom and then go home. I was done first and sat waiting at the table when a gorgeous younger guy, I'll call him Gunter, introduced himself to me and said he saw the naked pic of me I had posted on the club's site earlier that day. We hit it off and when Gary saw this, he gave us our space and left us alone to talk. Then Gunter asked if he could sit next to me. Uhhh yes!! Then he asked if he could kiss me...oh wow!! The softest, most passionate kisses I had ever had!! This guy was amazing! Gary finally came over and introduced himself and we all agreed to go back to one of the play rooms. I had asked Gary to take something out to the car first. When the bartender saw him walk out of the building, he assumed Gary was leaving in a jealous rage and went out after him! They talked and Gary told him no, he was fine with it. We had an amazing time with Gunter fucking me in all sorts of positions and finally cumming all over my stomach. Seven months later, I still meet up with Gunter from time to time. We even met his wife who, while not a swinger herself, is happy to let him go off and do his thing as long as he always wears protection, which he does.

I will not be able to answer you questions about the state-of-swing in Ontario, but I will welcome you warmly to Swingersboard.

I'm sorry this happened to you, I know it's got to feel bad as much as you were looking forward to it. The sad truth is there are a lot more people that want to play swinger than be swinger. For these two, from what they expressed themselves to be, i.e. single guys, then some would say they aren't even swingers at all, just single guys. Same holds true though, all they may be been looking for right now was some flirting from a distance, and then when things started to get real, poof, having gotten what they wanted out of the deal, they are gone. Same holds true if it was a married guy just claiming to be single. He felt pretty safe and was having fun, and then when shit started to get real and visions of divorce settlements starting dancing in his head, then he puled the plug. It sucks, but disappoint in some form or another is a big part of the Lifestyle. When you hit it right though, it's awesome, which is a good thing, since it helps to make up for all the lows that you experienced getting to that high.

I would agree.

Such a woman is called a "pillow queen." It is a disparaging term, implying that she takes but doesn't give back. There is one in our group, but guess what? All the other women love her and compete for her attention to see who gets to take care of her that way. (The guys hardly ever get a chance.) Long ago I had a girlfriend who loved getting oral but wouldn't suck dick. That was ok, I still liked eating her. Nothing says everything has to be symmetric between everyone.

I guess I should add that I doubt he got busted using government Wi-Fi simply because they are programmed to reject anything to do with sex. I was searching for a specific type of water/oil resistant o-ring. And guess what popped up? Hahaha it closed the search and reported me.

I agree it's supposed to be recreational. We have made some great friends... with benefits. We also like to go to a club and play with just about anyone who is game. We enjoyed fucking other people but we like to end the night making love to each other ?

Yeah, too much pressure leads to disappointment, often. When you relax, neat things happen. Glad you had such a great time.

Trapeze doesn't have a glory hole room but it is and excellent idea!!

I think that you guys are more polyamorous than you are swingers. Swinging is more of a series of one off events. Polyamory defines your relationships. Much more ingrained in your daily life, not a hobby that can be given up. Just an observation.