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Are you ready to lose this friendship? Are you ready to let your kink be known to all your friends? If the answer to both of these questions isn't 'yes', don't go there. You can easily ruin friendships when you try this stuff.

"It's time." We say it to whomever in the family in front of the kids whenever the urge is getting too strong, and well, it's time. Sometimes there's similar thinking among the rest, but someone has to mind the children.

A good point. Now we've had plenty of success on SLS finding our 'promiscuous' men, but you're right - the men usually aren't out to have a girlfriend, or be FWBs or anything else - they just want to get laid. Which is okay with us, all we want is for Mary to get laid, so there's something in common!

I don’t think you can do it wrong!

Our path to swinging started with us talking about our past sexual experiences, who they were with and which were particularly enjoyable. It was foreplay for us. My wife kept speaking of two guys she had dated as the best sex she ever had. I suggested that she contact them (separately), get together and see if the spark was still there. Long story short - after getting together first just for dinner and introducing me by telephone to make it clear that I knew, the second "date" was for sex. So we started our swinging career by my wife fucking two of her exes separately, hotwifing I suppose. Eventually that led to us doing MFMs with them then regular swinging couples swaps with others. Starting to swing with my wife getting back together with exes she liked was a good way to start for a number of reasons. It was comfortable for her knowing these guys. It was safe. She knew that the sex would be good (it was). I was fine with it because she had fucked them before, so there was no reason to be jealous. And they were exes for a reason: she liked them and was attracted to them, but realized they weren't guys she wanted to be in a forever relationship with. Maybe just a weekend. So I highly recommend having your wife reconnect with an ex.

Is there a question? You stated you approve her meeting men one way or another. You trust her. My spouse has sex with other women, without me. He trusts me and I have given him every reason to trust me. I learned never to do anything with letting him know. I happen to see my first sex partner from time to time. Our dating is our history. We have both moved on many years ago. I don’t love him. If we had sex again it would be just sex. It doesn’t sound like your wife searched for him. He is a swinger like you are. I’m sure if she didn’t see his profile and told you about him his name wouldn’t have ever come up. My husband has met my first and I don’t think there is a jealousy. Do you care that she sends your sex pictures out over the Internet?

I have friends who live in areas that weren’t as highly affected as mine. They are not taking things as seriously as others have. Saying that this weekend there were plenty of people gathering in crowds. Face masks were 50/50. Why has this become even more politically rather than scientific?

Have received an e-mail notification from the Florida Treehouse that they are back into full operation. No mention of distancing. No hints of checking people for symptoms. No oblique references to Nova Coronavirus. This is not wise.

I don’t want to have sex with other swingers unless I wear a condom. For my protection and my wife’s. I perform better without it, but I take vitamin V to help.

I have always had doubts about my body. I was always the thin gawky girl or that was the way I looked at myself. I was not well developed on top or my bottom. I prayed guys would look at me. I had friends reassure me about my looks. In the summer I wore what I thought was sexy, shorts and crop tops. I guess I hoped guys would notice. I never mentally undressed my friends with better bodies even I wished my body was better. Secretly I did check guys out. Not that I thought of me with the real hot guys. I was the shy one while my friends were more outgoing. How do you not notice? A guy with a big pack scared me. I did wonder though. Oh things have changed and like Tricia said, there is an excitement the first time with a new partner. I am still not as confident as I should be. I do want people to mentally undress me and when I think someone is looking at me that way I guess I’m thrilled by it.

A term we use is "thinky." You know how some people are attractive because they're sexual? Folks call them sexy. We believe the way people think can make them attractive. Hence, thinky. As well as being sexy and gorgeous, L is a very thinky woman.