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Do you have reason to think they are swingers? Is there flirting going on? Do they seem receptive? I would try some light flirting and see how it goes. Brush against their arm. IMO I would tread lightly. There are SO many things that can go wrong. Out of 5 things I can see happening 4 of them are really bad. I can't think of any of our vanilla friends I would approch. You also need to consider what happens if they become angry and insulted. Remember you are talking about sex and people can have strong reactions. And if it makes them upset or just really pissed and insulted and then the rumors start around town. Psst did you know that (insert your names here) are having these wild orgies with at least a hundred people and animals! I also 'heard' bla bla bla. We would strongly suggest that you guys consider making some friends in the LS. Locate a local group and attend local meet and greets. You can make some great, like minded friends. By the way where are you located?

You're angry at the guy but it really has little to do with him. He was a casual F/B who was also a bit of a flake, but the reason you got pregnant is that you used Plan B and it didn't work. You also kept putting off dealing with the problem until it grew into a bigger problem and the reason you had the abortion was because you didn't want his baby. Please understand that none of this makes you, your fiancé or the flakey F/B a bad person. Life is important but quality of life is important too. You were perceptive enough to realise that there would be difficulties with loving this baby. All life is eternal. We appear in and disappear from the 3 dimensional realm endlessly. I suggest you go to a quiet place and tell the baby that you are sorry that you were not able to give her/him the love that would be needed but sincerely wish her/him that when she/he next comes into the world that it is to a place full of love. Then say this magical phrase as many times as you wish: "I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you, thank you," and forgive YOURSELF. Best wishes and much love to you. 54321

When we have sex my wife likes to follow hugging and kissing with masturbating herself to an orgasm or two — it only takes her a minute or two To reach her first orgasm — before we proceed to enjoying intercourse. She invariably asks my permission to masturbate as she picks up her wand. I always give her permission, often adding that because I so enjoy watching her experiencing pleasure she really doesn’t need permission. Then she’s off to the races. The only thing slightly odd about her masturbatory habits is that what triggers her orgasms is fantasizing about being in her college dorm single room 50+ years ago — masturbating. ☺️??

That's fine, I understand. I'm not a real swinger, I have only had sex with five men in my life and live in a poly family with two men and two other women all of whom I love. But even the three other guys I had sex with (one I still do) where there was/is no emotional attachment, the sensation and knowledge that their ejaculate is inside me is a wonderful feeling. But I acknowledge and don't mind being creepy and weird.

If you were deeply in love with someone and had a serious relationship, this might make sense, emotionally -- but saying this in regards to party sex with random people for sport is just plain weird and creepy. Sorry, but that's my opinion. ?

Are you ready to lose this friendship? Are you ready to let your kink be known to all your friends? If the answer to both of these questions isn't 'yes', don't go there. You can easily ruin friendships when you try this stuff.

Will be a great story for CNN or TMZ. One asymptomatic swinger infects 100 others.

WTF is all this "cum deep inside me" when swinging? I realize that swinging means different things to different people but I don't see how-in-hell it should include something as intimate/emotional as that? Swinging should be recreational sex -- sex for sport, not feelings or emotion. And for christs sake, it should never resemble the act of making a baby in any way, shape or form. That's why I'll never get cumming "inside" when swinging? It's supposed to be a show, not a consummation. In sex-for-fun, cum belongs on the face, tits, stomach or ass so you / her and everyone can see the finish - it's like the celebration of an overtime goal, or a TD with 2 second remaining in the game, or a walk-off homerun, or a photo-finish in racing -- not the hallowed act of creating a human life. I even started a thread on this topic and was flabbergasted by the answers. I'll never get this. ❔❓

To each their own, but I can't imagine a relationship lasting very long with a woman who imagined she was going to police my orgasms.

Does use change count. For the Harry Potter fans out there. We have Magic friends (Lifestyle friends) and Muggel friends (non lifestyler) We came up with this when the kids were younger and we would want to talk in the care about who we were meeting or the type of party we were going too. It just kind of seemed natural as our swing friends were always magical and well if you red Harry Potter you know the Muggles (Non Magic) folks just went on with their boring life’s never having a clue about the Magical community all around them.