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It's been said that all women are bisexual, unless you buy them something they won't get sexual.

Just like "couplers", I'm wired for polyamory so it is part of my nature and can't be "stopped". But I'm a swinger too and the 'play' part of it is dispensable. By this I mean the hobby part which is motivated by curiosity, especially when I was still starting out in the Ls. Although most of the time, I swing with people who I'm really attracted to - sexy personality or wit - whom I want to bond with in an intimate way. So I guess that won't go away ?

We have been discussing finally leaving our house and meeting people. I was open to meeting friends for drinks outdoors, my frisky wife had been contacting lifestyle friends for more than drinks. Beaches finally opened in N.J. including our national park beach in Sandy Hook that has a clothing optional area. We made a plan to meet a couple we have played with at the beach along with another couple. It was a perfect beach day. I will admit to laughing at the sight of nude people with masks on. Masks were not prevalent on most. Most of the talk was about what is going on and how we are dealing with it. Plenty of sex talk bordering on porn description. Our friends invited us back to their home to continue the day. Both couples were great to hang with and we were extremely comfortable spending the day with. I was less comfortable going back for what most certainly wouldn’t be social distancing. We took a rain check on the invite. I just wasn’t ready even if I may have been the only one who was still worrying. One the way home my wife seemed annoyed with me. She thinks we won’t be invited in the future. I am just being careful, possibly over cautious.

I'm just wondering because that ex-bf of mine was 5 years apart from the father of my child. They have different ethnicity that is the reason why the distinct features are easily identifiable. However, there are also other possibilities, like a dormant gene from my ancestors or from my partner's ancestors that we may not be aware of suddenly surfaced in my child.

A quick search: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/ele.12373

We would absolutely entertain the thought of a trans person. But first and foremost, are they a nice and good (and clean!) person? Gender doesn't really matter as much.

Common sense should and did win the day this time. Sounds like you and your lady need to talk about being on the same page.

As a healthcare professional in the front lines of care of COVID patients, I will attest that your caution and prudence are entirely appropriate. While your wife's disappointment is understandable, we continue to see apparently healthy people sicken and in some cases die from the infection. LS friends who are true friends will accept your caution.

You can only make one mistake with covid19. I endorse your caution. If they are a nice, considerate couple, you will get another chance. We have had many near misses, snubs and unexpected no second times in the lifestyle. It’s just part of the hobby, there are always new people to meet. You have no idea as to the other couple’s contacts. We are in New Jersey, also, and our friends from other parts of the country often are unaware of how bad the pandemic is in NJ. Stay safe, hope for a vaccine or treatment and congrats for getting out. We belong to a nudist resort and we are hesitant to go.

Okay, here I go again . . . In 1948 Alfred Kinsey and his team postulated that there are seven degrees of sexual orientation, from 'exclusively heterosexual' (level 0) to 'exclusively homosexual (level 6), where an individual from levels 1-5 fit describes just how hermaphroditic they are. (They preferred that term to 'bi-sexual.') There is also a further category 'X' that alludes to people who are asexual. The original studies, Sexual Behavior in the Human Male (1948) and Sexual Behavior in the Human Female (1953) are great readings, if you like science and statistics. (Guilty!) The Wikipedia articles on 'Kinsey Scale' and 'Kinsey Reports' aren't bad. Of course, since then there have been many, many studies that have furthered the research (or muddied the waters, depending on your point of view.) But most of them that I've studied simply come to much the same conclusion - Bisexuality is a part of human nature and should be considered sexual orientation as much as Heterosexuality and Homosexuality.