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Update: My wife and my self have spoken as well as I have spoken to the friend of mine that had sex with her. I expressed my discomforts (not in same room, lack of sex afterwards for me) with the experience. They both agreed that all 3 of us will play in the same room in the future. After he left we had a conversation between my wife and myself and we cleared the air and she re assured me that I will always be number one that anybody else is just a visitor and we proceeded to have sex and the admiration for her that I have has increased. thank you all for helping me to realize that it was my lack of communication that was my biggest issue. will post an update on Friday as we have already planned for him to visit and play again!

We slowly dipped our toes in when we first started attending clubs and parties. We did a lot of voyeurism, exhibitionism and same room play at first. It was well over a year being in the Lifestyle before we were comfortable with a soft swap and only after a having a few other wonderful soft swap experiences we both decided that we were ready to do a full swap and that was probably another nine months or more. But before we attend any swinger party or club we always check in with each other, go over our rules and what we’d both be comfortable with and such. And then we check in again with each other afterwards and see if we might need to change anything or if there is something we’d be okay with pursuing at a future party. And we know plenty of couples that do the same thing as you and attend clubs and parties to just watch or show off. Communication is the key and be on the same page stick to whatever rules you are both comfortable with.

On our 1st visit to a club and our 1st experience in the LS (yeah jumped in the deep end first time out) we spent the evening hanging out with a m2f trans guy great personality and into some wild stuff. We all ended up in a puppy pile and she ended up fucking a girl right next to me. We were new and didn't know what we liked and didn't like. But we BOTH regret not seeing if that could have gone further. She was very open and would answer any questions. We had never talked about it before hand. We both agree that should the opportunity ever arises again-we're game! How much, if at all, I would participate RTBS. But I am keeping an open mind. ?

Same here! Very fun and interesting.

We talked about venturing into the lifestyle 10plus years ago and did as must research as we could. The first swingers club was just watching and we ended up going into a room, shut the door and just played with each other. Same thing with our second time. It was more dancing, drinking, we liked the care free atmosphere. It turns out our plinko chip ended up landing in the hot wife category and we find it hard to fit into a “swingers” party. One house party we frequent has a Color bracelet system of just looking, soft swap, full swap, and I think anything goes. I like the idea but wish there was a hot wife couple “he likes to watch and that’s it” I know you can’t have to many different colors but when a couple approaches us to swap and we explain “our thing” makes it tough. She did end up hooking up with a single guy The last time we went so it is possible to still play or get off if you don’t fit into the “normal swinger category” just be true to you. Check out different places and you will find one that you feel you fit more into then others.

Mrs cplnuswing agrees!

Yes! People can watch other people. And you can be watched. Do not feel pressure to soft or full swap if you do not want to. We have watched and been watched, soft and full swapped. But we have also taken breaks in swinging. Everyone should be taking a break now with coronavirus. We have met so many open, sexy, kind and together people in the lifestyle. It is what you want it to be. Don’t be coerced into doing things you don’t want to do.