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GoldCo -- You asked us to be kind and I'll try ... BUT! 1) No, the FACTS don't say that "the worst thing that can happen is you 'catch' something that will seem like the flu. You will be sick for a few days then you will get better." Two 17-year-olds died in Florida last week. An eight-year-old died in Durham, NC -- just 20 miles from us -- earlier this month. People of all ages and in seemingly good health are dying from this. Just this afternoon, the CDC released more information saying that your risks are higher if you have COPD, or hypertension, or a BMI over 30, or ... all kinds of medical conditions that have nothing do with being immune-compromised. So your statement simply isn't correct. 2) Your phrase, "the version of the truth that we have found" is as nonsensical as Kellyanne Conway's reference to "alternative facts". There's no such thing as a version of the truth ... something is either true or it's not. Please tell us all where you got your information, because I'd love to see it for myself.

Usually when I see a single ad stating best available for daytime fun I suspect cheater. Prior to the pandemic my usual friend and I usually met mid morning due to schedules and traffic times. Now our schedules are tossed but as we resumed seeing each other I notice he still opts for the same time. It’s a good habit for me.

Do you need a special time for sex? We have sex during the day when alone and have played many times with looking at the time.

I sort of learned that long ago in college. A nice girl I was dating and I started having sex. She had a thing where the second time she started saying, "Hurt me! violate me!" and other things that bothered me. I stopped seeing her. I hope that she found someone who was good to her, but engaged in her kink. But it wasn't for me. And I'm glad that she didn't hide it and either shock me with it later after we were invested in one another or she kept it unhappily repressed.

Sorry for starting late on this thread. I just want to share the following: In 28 years of marriage, I never had a problem getting it up with my wife; even when we had play times in which I DID have the problem with Mrs. Playmate. I did have trouble with women whom I felt didn't want to be there. In both cases, we chose to not play with the couple again. I also never had trouble with our long-term Mrs. Playmates. I got to know them well, although they were not poly situations. I think Julie has hit on something. You may need to spend more time getting to know your playmates. I don't have to love a woman to fuck her, but I do need to like her and I do need to know she wants to be with me. Especially on a first-swap, I liked to start with a massage... a nice slow one in which a lot of conversation took place. While rubbing her back and dropping an occasional kiss onto the back of her neck, I learned a lot about her by asking questions that can't be answered by "yes" or "no." "Tell me about your home town." "What attracts you most about swinging?" "What does your husband do sexually that you really, really, like?" "What's your favorite sexual fantasy?" (Laura would have told you that hers was to have three men: One vacuuming, one dusting, and one cooking.) By the time I had her talking, we were both relaxed. Also, there is an unconcious ritual we Americans are conditioned to go through before mating, according to Laura, who had degrees in both Psychology and Communication. She had made a study of Body Language, in particular. If I remember correctly the specific steps were: 1. Friendly conversation. 2. Light touching of the fingertips 3. Clasped hands 4. Hands clasped with fingers interlaced 5. Glances at lips 6. THE KISS! Laura's theory was that we Americans are uneasy about a sexual relationship that doesn't proceed in this way. "Woe to the person who attempts a kiss before the fingers have been interlaced!" she once told me. "It throws the whole process off balance so that it seems wrong to us." It's obvious the problem is not physical. Be patient, explore, and you'll find the reason for your discomfort. Keep us posted! Alura

Taking a risk by responding here, but the FACTS say that unless you are older (65+) and or experiencing a weakened immune system, or are taking care of or living with someone who is 65+ and/or weakened immune system, the worst thing that can happen is you 'catch' something that will seem like the flu. You will be sick for a few days then you will get better. Despite popular mis-belief, a mask won't 'filter' it out and keep you from catching it, it only prevents someone that already had Covid from spreading it as easily (via water droplets when they sneeze or cough). If you are in the 'danger' group, or around others that could be susceptible, then you shouldn't be thinking about playing with others until things improve. I don't think that you want to be the cause of someone else possibly dying because of you having a little bit of fun. If you are not in the danger group and don't mind the risk of catching the flu (the flu is still MUCH MORE COMMON than catching Covid) then go for it. If you aren't sure which group you belong to, then take the safe route and stop playing until things improve in your area. If you are just scared of everything the media tells you (and not just what they are saying about Covid), maybe just don't even leave the house. Life is a risk, and the only way not to take that risk is to not play the game. Any responses...please be kind. I know that this is a hot topic and that there are two very opposed camps here. However, if you do some research, the truth is out there and the version of the truth that we have found says that more people (10 times more) will die of the flu than Covid...and they will die of the exact same reasons: old age and/or compromised immune system.