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Wrong again, that's the Fifth Amendment. If you ever get in trouble, don't represent yourself

To that point, vaccinations for many diseases are mandatory to enter school. Last year, in NJ, there was a breakout of measles because some parts of society didn’t stick to the mandate. Measles had been thought to have been eradicated. Most of the cases occurred amongst the people not vaccinated but they everyone in danger. Smallpox has been eradicated, polio too because of mandated vaccinations. Those who don’t get a vaccine are selfish and put the general population at risk. Today’s news said that the Northeast, specifically NY and NJ had the highest use of face coverings and guess what, they have the best record of slowing the transmission. A mask protects others and others wearing protects you. Dr. Bruce Springsteen said it best, Put on a fuckin mask. I just wish the guy who claims he is the smartest and knows everything because he’s a stable genius would not tell everyone that you don’t need one.

I am mystified as to why Lovefest doesn’t want a vaccine. Are you vaccinated for measles, mumps, polio, tetanus? Wouldn’t you want a coronavirus vaccine for your own protection?I am not going to sign up for the first vaccine out of the chute, but if a safe and effective vaccine is out for a couple of months, I will get it to protect me, my family and my neighbors.

Love, so well put. Science isn’t always exact and the information changes daily as we learn more. My own opinion has changed over time. Unfortunately there has been a lot of polarizing ideas and there is also a fair bit of shaming our culture these days. Wearing masks in public shouldn’t be such an issue. People will do what they’re going to do in private. Some will continue to feel invincible, maybe there will be more closed groups for lifestyle participants. Personally I am limiting my social bubble to just one for now. Masks are a new fashion accessory. They are the last thing off in doffing PPE. It’s funny meeting people with their mask on and then when it is removed (I work in healthcare) seeing what the rest of their face looks like. I do find amusing the videos people post of themselves ranting how they’re not wearing a mask out and being belligerent. I don’t think being as asshole is an exemption.

I continue to be puzzled by the number of SLS members who have recently made initial contact and have requested in-person meetings. My evil side wants to respond, "WTF is the matter with you? Have you not heard of a global pandemic?" But I understand the wisdom of not going negative. So in each instance I reach way down and come up with a diplomatic reply leaving the possibility of something that might happen in a brighter, happier future. Then I thought, maybe I'd better look at our SLS profile and review the words in it. I found the words, right on top, "always ready". Now I know why people have felt free. My mind is search for something that more accurately reflects out feelings but will not discourage new contacts.

It's a different sort of risk. Most marital vows include some commitment to monogamy, so that breaking that vow may be perceived as ---or actually be--a risk to the marriage. We gravitate to long-marrieds, those who are secure in their relationship and genuinely in love with each other.

Go get him girl. Sounds like a real Jersey Girl to me.

That's fine, I understand. I'm not a real swinger, I have only had sex with five men in my life and live in a poly family with two men and two other women all of whom I love. But even the three other guys I had sex with (one I still do) where there was/is no emotional attachment, the sensation and knowledge that their ejaculate is inside me is a wonderful feeling. But I acknowledge and don't mind being creepy and weird.

For me (and Lora and Clair) one of the most enjoyable parts of sex is feeling a man ejaculation inside me and having a living part of him in me for several days. We use birth control, so it is not about potentially creating a new human. Some people are just jerks. He is, move on. You have dealt with it, and did nothing wrong. You do deserve understanding, so be strong and take care.

I suppose the best way to describe this is "different strokes for different folks". Never have I meant for it to resemble the way of making a baby, not literally anyway! It went that far because I was stupid, not because I wanted to. You make it sound like I asked to get pregnant, which I didn't. It was a freak accident when it came to the pill, apparently I was that unlucky. I guess this is just a kink to some, there aren't exactly rules for this type of lifestyle. In my opinion, you as a person and your partner make the rules, and as long as both partners agree to the terms I really don't see how somebody else can tell them what the rules are, or the do or don't's - you and your partner are the only ones that can draw a line, not what somebody else thinks.

Is there a swinger manual where it says exactly where and how a partner can cum? Or where it describes what is acceptable or unacceptable to do while engaged in recreational sex? Is there a chapter where cum on tits or face is a requirement and cum inside is prohibited?? Here's a concept: what is a "shall" or "shall not" for you may be optional or situational for someone else. Sex is about orgasms and I'd prefer that you don't tell us where ours should occur. Unless of course there IS a swingers manual and you wrote it. The OP made a bad mistake and then compounded it. She's guilt ridden and depressed and could probably benefit from more sympathy and less pompous finger pointing. I think from reading her post, she's more than a little aware that she made two serious mistakes.

Tubal ligation can fail too.

There are paternity tests that can be given during pregnancy. You just don't have to speculate here-you can know. Similarly, you can get the result and use it to calm things down with your husband. It may be your other partner might be delighted to pay child support and be involved with a kid-and your husband might be fine with not being a cash cow to support another guys kid. Personally, I suggest that any woman who hasn't gotten a tubal ligation, isn't already pregnant and is of the age pregnancy might occur only have sex with men she might be willing to have a kid with--or be willing to consider an abortion under some circumstances. That doesn't necessarily imply strict monogamy. Any form of birth control _can_ fail. Partners might make an agreement that paternity doesn't matter-but who knows what will happen when a baby is on the way. Good luck on making your decisions here-I hope it all works out for you. My sense is that a lot of men are willing to stand up and parent if they just know a kid is theirs-and it takes more than just speculation to provide that knowledge. I personally think paternity testing is a great gift of the modern era. I wouldn't say it is necessarily your lifestyle that needs reconsideration-but your planning and communication approach(which could be an issue in _ANY_ relationship). In fact this particular time is a period when you have _less_ worries about pregnancy than other times!

Hi, Petra here. I tried to think about it logically and make a decision tree. First, does it matter? If not, don't worry about it. In the grand scheme of things it's not that big a deal and most of the time you can't tell who the father is without a test, so it doesn't matter how the child got into the family. Second if it does matter, then why? For instance if you would abort if it wasn't your husband's, or want to have your bf informed and involved with the pregnancy, then you need to know as soon as possible. In one of those cases it would be best to do an in utero paternity test by sampling amniotic fluid or chorionic villus (placental tissue). On the other hand you could wait until the child is born to do an easier and less expensive test if your goal is to involve the biological father in bringing up the child or if you want to seek child support. Good luck, take care and let us know what you decide to do.

What's the difference of going to a sperm bank and using a man from a different city who will never see you again. Using a sperm bank is a cold procedure. Compare that with great sex with a man who puts his sperm inside you and then will never see you again. He is happy, and you are happy.

Many years ago, before in vitro and other alternatives, one of our club members did exactly that. She and her hubby made arrangements with several guys to play with her multiple times each over her most likely week. As I recall it took two or three months, one week per month before she finally conceived. Nobody knew whose baby it was, she selected only guys much like her husband. My wife and I documented it for our newsletter but I haven't found the story we wrote about it. It turned out very well. I'll look again through my old newsletters and if I find it I'll scan it in and submit it. Prior, she had tried a sperm bank but found artificial insemination cold, awkward, and uncomfortable. The real thing worked much better and was less expensive and a whole lot more fun. No. I didn't look like her husband. :-(

The OP didn't ask whether anyone had attempted to do so secretly or with malice aforethought. Just simply "ever tempted to get pregnant on purpose"? The question doesn't assume any malice or alterior motives or even deception. Yet, the replies each assume that there is a hidden agenda amongst anyone who would think of such a thing and that anyone that would consider this is somehow a terrible person == isn't this a bit judgemental from a sector that is known to be reasonably nonjudgmental? Let me ask this -- let's say that you couldn't conceive with your SO and you had decided you wanted children. Let's say too that one option were artificial insemination. Is it such a far leap to consider non-artificial insemination with a willing playmate? What if there were three-way approval of the idea of selective impregnation? Can we say that there are no advantages to the concept? What if the couple in question enjoys a fantasy that involves relationship external impregnation -- are they somehow wrong? Any more than couples that enjoy the fantasy of multi-partner intimate relations? I've read that quite a few women enjoy that fantasy as do their husbands. And, in some communities in the US (particularly in the south) -- selective breeding (aka non-paternity event, aka getting "knocked up by a lover") is not all that uncommon among the general population. A simple review of some family line genealogical DNA results will prove that non-paternity events are fairly common in many communities. I'm reminded of a joke with the punch line "don't worry Suzy, you ain't no kin to pappy noways" So, for the guys reading out there -- she knows that she's the mom, are you 100% sure that your the bio-dad?