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I should acknowledge I also appreciate the risks. Talked with a lot of people, read a lot--including psychology and business-type books about risk and how people are generally bad evaluating it, paid mucho attention to what doctors told me if I promised never to repeat it, and made what I hope are generally thoughtful choices. When hormones are pounding it's hard, but I've held the line with only minor slips (and minor because the other party said they were and kept going). I'm not swinging now (natch, with the current situation) so it's a bit moot, but if I start again I don't plan to change my approach. Maybe I've just been lucky, or stupid, or stupid lucky, but I haven't caught anything EXCEPT for HSV1, which I got from my current monogamous girlfriend! Her only other partner had been her ex. (Not long after we met, I had something that felt like bad flu with terrible sore throat for a couple days. When I next got tested my HSV1 had changed, so I knew that was it--I hadn't been with anyone else for many months. All that time and all those other partners and I don't get HSV1 until I stop swinging....) I was also in LTRs with several women with HSV2, and never got it. Just goes to show.

We require condoms. Period. If you don't/won't/can't wear one then it's a no go. I am having sex with YOU not everyone that you have had sex with. There are plenty of people to play with that don't have a problem with condoms. We have been told that you can get "cured" from MOST std's weeeelll that isn't enough for us. We really like having sex with multiple people. Swinging comes with risks, of course, we just don't want to add to them. The only person I have had unprotected sex with over the last 37 years is Mrs Idaho. Yes I know you can get STD from just soft swap. But you have to draw your own line in the sand somewhere. I personally love the one about them not fitting. Either you have a dick like a beer can (which the Mrs has said get that thing away from me!) To needle dick the bug fucker. Find a brand that fits. And if it does come off ST0P. If you can't control yourself enough to abide by everyones rules/boundaries then you have no business swinging.

The last person posting sounds respectful and reliable. We are 100% condom compliant. We have met many nice, careful, condom wearing swingers who we later learned had HPV or HSV. Condoms reduce transmission of those things, but they are far from reliable. Also, men cannot be tested for HPV. Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but for those who do know how common these things are, they should know. Some people just accept it and don’t think it’s a big deal. My wife has been clear about condoms for intercourse, but a couple of men have been very aggressive about probing her vag area with their wiener before putting on a condom. It wasn’t appreciated.

As a single guy who earned a standing invitation to parties, this isn't something you can fool around with. I've never been with a group that demands all condoms all the time--my favorite group's new member orientation gives the condom talk, but also, "We're not the condom police." Condoms or bareback is up to the participants. I don't think anybody actively likes condoms, but they're a fact of life. I certainly don't like them, but I'd never try and pull one of these stunts. It's obviously a bad thing to do, and I understand what a privilege I have by following the rules. I have had them come off, but there's always another one from the bowl. Also, as I got to know people and got a track record, I found condoms becoming more and more optional, if I wanted. It's been a matter of knowing who people are, how responsible they are, and maintaining a reputation with them and the hosts. If that's in good shape, trusted partners have no issue going bareback with me. As I've formed relationships and been invited to more private groups, while not exactly an expectation, bareback is more than permitted. I love the flow of those weekends. :)

Angel here. This is personally my first post here. Greetings to everyone here in this forum/website. My husband and boyfriend are both what you may call cuckolds but none of us are into anything demeaning or humiliating. They're also not bi and MFM threesomes between us have never occurred. We do like to watch however. But at the end no sloppy seconds for me and no eating of the freshly laid cum from my pussy. They're just not into that.

Particularly when it is someone other than the person who is stimulating your genitals in one way or another. It especially drives me wildly jealous when hubby is fucking me while kissing Lora.

We often play with other couples in the afternoon, then go out to dinner or an event. We are more wide awake, generally not drunk, see everything happening.

My best friend since high school knows so does my oldest daughter and her husband, one of my work colleagues knows (we ran into him and his wife at a swingers m&g) and Im next to certain both next door neighbors suspect. That may have had something to do with a 2 couple pool party we had last fall. Mrs Doc's former neighbor knows and is VERY curious as does a good friend she once worked with. We actually broached the subject with her several years ago when she was visiting us in Florida. She had always wanted to play with a girl so my wife let that happen, and then a 3-some happened and later, in subsequent visits, we took her to Trapeze several times. None of Mrs Doc's kids know and her only sister (who's almost as sexy as my wife but who has some puritanical sexual views ) would be appalled! We don't hide the fact that we're swingers but we're careful too since SWFL is much less cosmopolitan than Philly or Miami.

In a novel I’m reading there was a comment by a heroine that she is used to being undressed by men’s stares. I’ve often seen men undress my wife with their stares, in vanilla situations, and certainly at our swing club where there often is very little for them to take off in their imaginations. Women, do you mind being mentally undressed? Would you mind discussing your reactions?

If you are averse to your wife being fucked bare, you can always 69 with his wife while he is fucking her bare. Then you can clean her up - she will likely love it. Then trade! Next best thing.

Absolutely one of the hottest things to enjoy. Best is being on bottom of 69 position watching another guy filling your wife's pussy up close.

She loves when I eat her after another guy has cum in her. She says her orgasm from that are so intense. Who am I to deny her such pleasure.