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Perspective matters. Economists point to the phenomenon of hyperbolic discounting, and that in turn depends on the time horizon of the person choosing to take the risk. We are seeing young people engaging in risky behaviors not so much because they think they will get away with the behavior but rather because they think they will have adequate time to recover and then go on with their lives. One of the things we are learning with COVID is that it leads to dysfunction in many if not most body systems. Another thing we are learning is that these dysfunctions are not quickly reversed. A third thing ... one that cannot be yet known...is that some of these dysfunctions may never be reversible. How one uses that information in the calculus of risk varies with age and with stage of life. Before we were married, we were inner-focused--what's in it for me? Early on, we learned to focus on what was good for the other person. (We observe that such focus is foundational to the LS.) Together now for 45+ years, we are always looking out for each other and for our shared future, recognizing that interdependence is key to independence at our stage of life. (Isolation and loneliness are significant predictors of poor health and death at our stage of life. ) We are hoping, like PeterJ, for at least a couple more decades together (we are in our mid-late 60s). Indeed, we are building our forever home to age in together, and gracefully. We have made deliberate attempts to engineer unnecessary risk out of that build. That does not mean we are intolerant of risk. It does mean that we are far better at anticipating and managing risk than we were when we met in mid 1970s.

You would think that would be the case. But I’m in the same age cohort as Fundamental Law, and like him I’m less willing to engage in risky behavior than I was as a young man or in middle age. In my youth I engaged for 15 years in a sport on both an amateur and professional level that regularly injures and kills participants. I was careful, and every day reminded myself that an error in my part or someone else’s could render my daughter an orphan and wife a widow. But I found the sport so challenging and satisfying sport that I was willing to roll the dice on three or four decades of life. Today, actuarially I have a decade and perhaps a couple of years left. I would not find the risk/reward As favorable. Perhaps it’s the experiential knowledge that my time here is drawing to a close that makes me value what remains more greatly. If you have 60 or 70 good bottles of a favorite vintage in your cellar, each bottle is enjoyable. When only a few remain, each becomes more special and the the knowledge that soon enough they wii all have been drunk makes each sip more special. You might reasonably take extra care not to drop those last bottles.

Last night went to a bar and meet some friends after a while we went back to their place to hang out. One thing lead to another next thing I know my buddy's wife was sucking on my cock. I looked over to find my wife doing the same to my buddy. Long story short I was pumping her leg on my shoulders and I saw she still had her heels on. Don’t know what it was but was a huge turn on so much so I blasted cum so deep in her she started to squirt. Was the best night of our lives and this morning they texted if we could go at it again sometime

We are both 62. Swinging for 6 years. First time at Desire, then Trapeze, then house and hotel parties, cruises. My ( husband’s) preference is to host a couple or have them host us. We’ve been in massive playrooms and it is hard to focus.

Just turned 66. Birthday sex was a threesome with a a swinger lady acquaintance of several years & her FWB. She invited me to her Ohio home to share her hot tub, bed & FWB for two nights of general debauchery. Bottom line is I am still at it. Only complaint I have is so many swingers don't play locally. I often have to travel a hour or more for a threesome.

I’ve participated in two gangbangs, both of them spontaneously at parties. First thing To remember is that it’s about the woman. Us men are there to fulfill her desires. Second, cum quick. Its about how many different men she can take, not about how long you can hold out in an already well-fucked pussy with several ,ore guys lined up behind you, playing with their dicks to keep themselves arroused.

When my wife was 22 and I was 23, we moved into our first home. It was on a dead end street with just our house and one across the street where a 44 year old 6'7 handsome single black man lived. We lived there for 5 years and moved to another part of town. Three years after we moved my wife confessed to having an affair with this man and his buddies for those five years. She had felt so guilty and wanted to tell me about it but knew it would hurt me so she kept it a secret until he found us and wanted to continue the affair. She didn't want to and told him so but he was insisting and that is when she decided to tell me, get it out in the open. The truth is I wanted to watch her have sex with other men but afraid to tell her. So, what hurt me was I didn't get to watch. I told her this that day and we kept talking about it for months and a friend of mine who was into cuckolding with his wife agreed to help us get started and he came over, I watched them, wife liked it and so here we are today, swingers 46 years later.

And for a lot of women, a dream.

How do you figure? My wife is my partner in crime. I love her to death. The first time I watched her get fucked was in a mfm. It was such a turn on watching her perform for me before I joined in. There was no regret or negative feelings afterwards.

It is likely now a fond memory.

We have stayed safe. Of course, we are older, and that weighs on our risk-tolerance. It's interesting though. Mr. FL woke up around 0530 this morning, put on a robe, walked across the hall and started in on the day's "electron work". About 90 minutes later, Mrs. FL came over to the office (still quite naked) , sat in Mr. FL's lap, and made it clear that coffee would be delayed an hour. Or, as she put it, "show up naked, bring coffee--and the coffee can wait". WFH is not all bad.

So long as it's not the same couples.

Laura and I talked about the concept on our second date when we agreed that spending a lifetime "cleaving only unto each other," didn't seem all that practical.

Mr. CoupleInMD79 here. I'm 54, and the Mrs. is 55 (does that make her a cougar?). We have been in the lifestyle for about a year and a half. In that time, we've met a lot of great people, made some lasting friendships, and had all kinds of hot sex! If I'm being honest, I have to admit that we've also been rejected in a wide variety of ways, had our self-confidence tested from time to time, seen the ugly side of a few people, and had an argument or two between us about lifestyle things. But on balance, it's been an excellent adventure so far, with more to come!

If my wife wanted me to, I would. I wouldn't suggest it myself, but I'd happily do whatever made her happy (well, almost anything).

Pee Wee is older than dirt, DaBlonde wont tell her age. Blissfully married for 33 years swinging for 21. :-)