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I'm 47 and he is 53. I'm new to it an he is not new to it. We been married for 12yrs.

I am now 73 she is 65 We have been together for 25+ years, off and on before that. Been married since 2002. Got married at HEDO II. We swing off and on. Don't normally go looking for it, but if the opportunity comes up we go for it.

Perspective matters. Economists point to the phenomenon of hyperbolic discounting, and that in turn depends on the time horizon of the person choosing to take the risk. We are seeing young people engaging in risky behaviors not so much because they think they will get away with the behavior but rather because they think they will have adequate time to recover and then go on with their lives. One of the things we are learning with COVID is that it leads to dysfunction in many if not most body systems. Another thing we are learning is that these dysfunctions are not quickly reversed. A third thing ... one that cannot be yet known...is that some of these dysfunctions may never be reversible. How one uses that information in the calculus of risk varies with age and with stage of life. Before we were married, we were inner-focused--what's in it for me? Early on, we learned to focus on what was good for the other person. (We observe that such focus is foundational to the LS.) Together now for 45+ years, we are always looking out for each other and for our shared future, recognizing that interdependence is key to independence at our stage of life. (Isolation and loneliness are significant predictors of poor health and death at our stage of life. ) We are hoping, like PeterJ, for at least a couple more decades together (we are in our mid-late 60s). Indeed, we are building our forever home to age in together, and gracefully. We have made deliberate attempts to engineer unnecessary risk out of that build. That does not mean we are intolerant of risk. It does mean that we are far better at anticipating and managing risk than we were when we met in mid 1970s.

Creepy topic. I'm in this LS because I believe I have advanced sex skills and experience and I can create magic with others at my same ability level. The words "pay" and "virgin" are something that IMO, have no place in a discussion of modern swinging. But I suppose all types are attracted to this LS. ?‍♂️

I do not like it done to me at all, nor do I like to do it. I don't get enjoying it either although I know there are plenty that do. Stinging skin from a spank or slap just does not feel good. Instant hard on reducer. I don't like hurting my woman so I don't like to do it ether. Never had a woman who liked it either. Certainly never had any woman request it.